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The Tips for Survive a Kidnapping

2009-05-12T04:44:00.000-07:00

Anyone may be kidnapped or have a member of their family kidnapped. Unfortunately, most people don't know how to deal with kidnappers or how to survive the ordeal if they themselves are kidnapped or taken hostage.
This is the steps
1. There's a simple procedure for dealing with kidnappers: forget everything you've ever seen in the movies and go to the authorities for help. (They don't do that in the movies or novels because it makes the plot too simple.) In real life, the experts know how to deal with kidnappers and can track them down. The authorities can get the kidnap victim back if it is possible to do so IF you contact them right away at the first sign of trouble.
2. If you're in the US, contact the local police (they'll know where to go from there) and if you're in a foreign country, contact your embassy.
3. If you are in danger of being kidnapped, you should be cautious about being in areas where you are unprotected and vulnerable. Don't jog on roads or in a park (unless you can afford a body guard); avoid being on the streets by yourself. Get your exercise in a private area and only drive whenever possible.
4. Any threatening phone calls or letters should be reported to the police even if they appear to be a hoax. Even if the person who is harassing you is only perpetrating a hoax, he should be caught and punished. Many such hoaxes are often unstable and may become dangerous if they aren't helped. Kidnappers and killers of well-known people have a history of mental problems and often have made numerous threats before actually carrying one of them out. Often family members of a kidnapping victim only learn of a kidnapping when the criminal calls to make his demands. If this happens to you or your family, it is essential that the person answering the phone learn as much as possible. Any clue may speed up the rescue of the kidnap victim. The person answering the phone must pay careful attention and take notes immediately before they forget any details (having a note pad by the phone is a good idea).
5. Let the kidnappers know about any special medical conditions. If the victim of the kidnapping has any special medical conditions, be sure the kidnappers know about them (it may be impossible to convey this information, but try).
6. Do not demand to talk to the person that has been kidnapped. That's Hollywood again. You may succeed in getting a family member beat up while you listen. Trying to force the criminal to do something when he's keyed up is a good way to create more problems. Stay calm, get as many details as possible, and don't make any threats or promises.
7. After the criminal has finished calling, get in touch with the police. After they have been contacted, try to reach the family member that the caller said was kidnapped. You may find that the call is a hoax or there might have been a foul-up that prevented the family member from being kidnapped.
* If you are able to reach the family member, he or she must take measures to get into a safe area since the kidnappers may have made an error in timing and might still attempt the kidnapping. Calling the family member may give them a warning and time to thwart the soon-to-be-attempted crime.
* Shortly after being contacted, the police will arrive at your home to ask an array of questions which will aid them in saving your family member from harm. Again, remain calm and try to answer their questions to the best of your ability.
1. When speaking to the police in your home, exclude any servants, maids, etc., from the discussion (probably the police will do this, but if not, then try to do so yourself).
* If the hired help has seen suspicious persons, etc., the less the hired help hears in the way of other's descriptions, the less likely they are to have their memory of what they've seen changed and influenced. Any descriptions they have will be more valuable to the police.
* Too, the less each of the people who work for you knows about the police plans, the better. since it is remotely possible that one of the hired hands may be working in concert with the kidnappers. Keep any "inside" criminal involved in the kidnapping from sitting in on the plans being made by you and the police.
8. In hostage and kidnap situations, time is on the side of the victim. The longer a victim remains alive, the better his chances of surviving the ordeal (provided negotiations don't break down). The first few minutes are often the deciding factor.
9. Chances of surviving are improved if the victim engages the kidnappers in small talk, etc. This will cause the criminals to see the victim as a person rather than a thing. Later on, this will make it harder for them to kill the victim if things get down to that. Getting on a talking basis could save the victim's life.
10. Kidnapping victims should forget the tough-guy Hollywood acts they've seen and avoid antagonizing criminals; needling them will only make things worse and may ruin a chance to escape later on. Better to act the part of the "slave" rather than to go into a Dirty Harry routine.
11. The kidnapping victim should keep track of what is going on, what the kidnappers are doing, what they call themselves, how many of them there are, etc. This information may be needed to help in the victim's escape or to later identify the kidnappers.
12. The kidnapping victim should not tell the criminals their demands can't be met (nor should those who speak to the criminals during the initial phone call). Telling them that may make them panic and kill their victim!
13. While the victim should act passive, he should be careful that he doesn't pass up a chance to escape if it presents itself. Usually after the initial first hours of the kidnapping the criminals will become careless if the victim has shown no signs of trying to escape. Unless the kidnapping victim is in immediate danger, he should bide his time and wait for a slip-up among the criminals and then use the opportunity to escape.
14. Victims of a kidnapping sometimes start identifying with the criminals after being around them for a while. Work to combat this bonding if you are a victim of a kidnapping.
15. If you and/or your family work with the police, you should be able to get a family member back unharmed and capture the criminals as well.
16. Sometimes a hostage situation will occur during a crime or a terrorist attack. Though the chances of this happening to a person are very, very remote, it doesn't hurt to know what to do.
17. Your chances of surviving the ordeal are excellent provided you survive the first hours of the situation.
18. You may find that you are having to keep the hostage takers calm if you are a hostage. Again, being a "tough guy" is a good way to get killed in a hostage situation. Stay calm, don't make trouble, and let the authorities bring in the people who are trained to deal with terrorists. If you can just keep a hostage taker from doing anything crazy the first few minutes of the situation, you can probably survive it.
19. You should try to remain a part of the group that is being held hostage. Don't stick out or you may be singled out. If you have a lot of money or are famous, don't let the hostagetaker know it or he'll try to use you for a bargaining chip.
1. Sometimes hostages overpowered the criminals involved. This is certainly admirable, but also quite dangerous. If you are going to try such a self-rescue, be sure that you know how many criminals there are and be sure you can overpower them. Things could get a little tense if you try to overpower them and fail. Unless you are in danger of being killed momentarily, it is usually better not to try to overwhelm a group of terrorists.
20. If the hostage takers start making threats on the lives of the hostages or acting in a bizarre manner, you should start thinking about ways to run for freedom and try to keep as far as possible from the members of the terrorist group. This will help keep you from "being there" if a terrorist vents his anger and will also keep you out of the line of fire if the authorities come in shooting or have a sniper end the situation.
21. If a rescue is attempted, hit the floor unless the authorities instruct you to do otherwise. Don't try to pick up a criminal's weapon or pull out one of your own if you have one concealed on your person. Doing so will get you killed; teams trained to rescue hostages have to operate by reflex. Anti-terrorist teams are trained to shoot anyone with a weapon without trying to otherwise identify them. You'll be mistaken for one of the criminals and will undoubtedly be shot if you're standing there with a weapon.
22. You can survive being a hostage or kidnap victim IF you are careful and know exactly what to do.

Some tips
* Children need to be taught to be cautious and to be a little suspicious of strangers (care must be taken, of course, not to turn your child into a paranoid). The goal of most parents is to get their child to be outgoing and friendly with strangers; this can be a big mistake. Teach your child to be careful.
* If they're small, don't let children play in the yard where you can't watch them and be sure the bedrooms for each of your family members are well out of an area where a person could easily break into it (having your bedrooms on the second story of a house makes a lot of sense).
* The rich are more apt to suffer from a kidnapping which is designed to generate a ransom. If you are rich or famous, then the chances are better than average that you or a member of your family may be a kidnap victim.
* Keep a low profile and don't let newspapers, magazines, or TV crews get pictures of you or family members (such pictures make it easy for would-be kidnappers to identify you).
* On the job, you should be careful not to have your name displayed on reserved parking areas and you should try to vary your schedule and route that you take to and from work.
* There is a chance that if you just pretend you are weak and don't do much the kidnappers will be more careless and that will give you at least a chance to escape.
* When the SWAT/ETF/SRU/ETU team arrives stay moderately hidden because it will hide you from the hostage takers and will keep you visible to the rescuers.

Remember!!!!
* Too many parents leave children alone in the house or in an automobile. While this practice was relatively safe ten years ago, it no longer is.
* Care should be taken when picking out baby sitters; a baby sitter has a lot of responsibility. You should consider things other than the cost of the sitter when you're hiring someone to look after a child. Older children are not always good baby sitters; find out about a baby sitter BEFORE you leave your children with them.
* Some parents seem to be trying to have their children kidnapped. The children wander or play along the streets totally unsupervised. Don't allow children to go to questionable areas of the town or city you're in, and be sure they are always supervised when outside.

Draw Attention to Yourself

2009-05-08T07:31:00.000-07:00

Do you want to stand out in the crowd? Make a name for yourself? Get noticed? Let's face it, just about everybody loves attention, and getting noticed can have real benefits: getting that girl (or guy) you're interested in, getting a job, or even becoming a star, for example. Why, then, does "proper" society tend to frown on drawing attention to oneself? Put simply, not all attention is equal, and people who try to draw attention to themselves often do it in unpleasant ways--think of a screaming toddler, for instance. While certain showbiz types like to say that any publicity is good publicity, you'll generally only benefit from positive attention, and drawing that kind of attention to yourself requires a little patience, thought, and tact.

This is the steps
Think of when they think of you, and it requires time and consistency to build a brand. Say you're at a new school and you want to make friends. Your brand then, should include characteristics like loyalty, friendliness, and fun. Do things that build this brand and make you a more appealing potential friend. Other examples of brands include the "bad-boy image." Be careful, though, or you'll look like you're trying too hard.
Be original. Looking at the stereotypical brands mentioned in the last step, you ma think, none of those are really what I want. That's perfectly all right. You can brand youself as pretty much anything, and whatever your brand, it should reflet your personality and original style. If you're the same as everyone else, you won't draw attention. Just remember, once again, that if you're obviously just trying to get attention, that will be your brand.
Be outstanding. When we think of the word "outstanding," we usually think of excellence, but being outstanding also means to "stand out." If you want to stand out, do your best to be the best at something. If you want to draw the attention of your spouse, for example, be the best husband or wife you can be. If you want to get a better job, be extaordinarily competent in your current job and seek to learn more to advance your career. You don't always have to be outstanding at somehing that's directly related to your goal. For example, you'll find that people who are very succesful in whatever pursuit they choose in life often draw the attention of, or date, beautiful women or good-looking guys, even if their particular field of excellence has nothing to do with being a good mate. If you're outstanding at something, just about anything, you'll draw people's attention.
Be subtle. A patient, subtle approach is important in developing your image because if you look like you're trying too hard to draw attention, you'll simply end up branding yourself as someone who craves attention, which is generally not a desirable attribute. As an example, imagine you want to get attention in order to make friends. If you stand on your head and insult people, you'll likely get attention for a little while, but you probably won't make friends--everybody will know you're just desperate for attention. On the other hand, if you draw attention to yourself by wearing a smile, making a conversation with people, or joining a sports team, you'll build a more positive brand and get more attention in the long run.
Be humble. Be outstanding, be confident, be assertive, but don't be arrogant. Even if you truly excel at just about everything, people will try to tune you out--or even resent you--if you are a jerk. Don't tell people how awesome you are, show them, and don't make a big deal out of it. Don't blow your own horn too much.

Some Tips For All
Had enough cliches yet? Here's one more. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Being a show-off won't get you positive attention, at least not for long. In human relationships, being pleasant and helpful will usually get you the best kind of attention time after time.
Be outstanding in something you really love to do. Don't try to be a rich lawyer just because you think it will get you girls or will impress your parents. Do it because you love to do it, or be outstanding at something else.

Remember!!!
Draw attention to yourself in the wrong ways, and you'll likely end up getting ignored. You need to make a conscious effort day in and day out to draw positive, beneficial attention, but make your effort look effortless, and draw attention by doing positive things.
Drawing attention to yourself isn't always good. You don't want to draw the attention of the tax man, for example, or the playground bully.

Become the Centre of Attention

2009-05-05T07:42:00.000-07:00

This is an easy process, just a few steps to help you stand out, in a good way.

This is the steps
Always look your best. You don't have to look like a model, or a Plastic, but always present the very best image of yourself where ever you go, and whatever you do. Practice good personal hygiene, take good care of your clothes and accessories.
Cultivate a good attitude and be good natured about things. Sadly not everyone will love you or be singing your praises, there are a lot of haters out there. But acting like a pompous Diva (see most of MTV's Sweet Sixteen for examples), will not get you many TRUE friends and supporters. Just think that for every 3 people who don't like you, 10 think you are wonderful!!
Believe in yourself. If you think you want to try out for a team, do it! Even if you don't make it the first time, if it is something you really want to do talk to people involved in it and find out what you can do to improve your chances next time. Not only will this help form relationships with people who may be the deciding factors, but you will also be showing people that you don't think you are better then them and are always ready to improve on what you already have.
Don't try to become someone you are not. All you can do is be the very best you.
Think happy thoughts. Happy thoughts make you happy, which in turn creates positive energy, and everyone wants to be around that kind of energy.
Be inviting. As great as the image of the cool, aloof beauty everyone falls over, its not exactly real life. Invite people into your space. Strike up conversations with people closest to you. When you walk down the hall or across campus, smile and sincerely say "Hi!" to everyone who meets your eye. Not only will the eye contact cause them to remember you, but they will remember you as being a nice person.
Speak in a normal tone. Some people, when they want to be noticed, tend to speak loudly or laugh too much. You want people to notice you, not your act.
Do not try too hard. A. Because people can sense this from a mile away, and its kind of a turn off. and B. Because when you try to hard it gives you more opportunities to foul things up. Don't force it. If you don't know what to say, simply smile and listen. People like listeners, and sometimes (with certain people) even if that's all you do, they feel a connection with you, simply because you made them feel good.
Be fun and have fun! This does not mean like acting like an air head or ditzy, but it does mean that if you are, for example, at a dance... that you are out there on the floor having the time of your life! Who cares if you can't dance? Do you know how many people think they can't dance either?! Just have fun and don't let yourself worry about what everyone else is going to think.
Being the center of attention often requires you to act as a Leader, so Do not feel that you always have to follow the crowd. If people are ganging up one someone, do not follow suit. Even if you think the people are the coolest, most popular people to grace the earth and the person is the lowest of the low, you do not want to associate yourself with that kind of behavior. Create a diversion that draws everyone's attention to something better, like yourself :o)
It can be emotionally and physically draining to be the center of attention all the time, so be willing to step back and let others shine. Trust me, there will be more then enough time for you. And no one likes an Attention Whore.

Some tips fr All
If you feel it's not you, lose it
Have fun!
Be bold.
Don't be shy

Remember!!
No warnings, just be careful not to be too offensive
Don't ditch your friends because the only one hurt will be you!

The Way to Stop People From Following You

2009-05-01T04:01:00.000-07:00

Getting annoyed at a stalker, whether it's a real one or not? Here's how to stop the situation.
This is The Steps
1. Ignore the person. If he does not get your attention, he might just get bored and go away. Most stalkers tend to only seek attention.
2. Get to a place that you know but he doesn't, so that you can easily lose him. This can be another town, mall, etc.
3. Find a place to hide, like a bush, behind a bin or a car; they will probably get freaked out if you disappear and they only hear dead silence. Turn the predator into the prey, no, do not stalk him/her!
4. If you feel threatened, call the police and whisper loud enough so they can hear you. Wait to do anything until the police come.

this is the tips
* Don't stalk the other person, they can call the police and you look like the guilty one.
* When you hide, hide good. Don't stand on the other side of a telephone pole.
* If you want to creep them out, look at them wide-eyed very blanky, then breathe deeply. This sends the most fearless person, fearful!

Remember!!!
* Don't think about attacking the person; you will likely get into serious trouble.

Start a Conversation With a New Business Associate

2009-04-30T04:30:00.000-07:00

When you have a new business associate and you may find it difficult to know what to start talking about. Here are a few ways to find common topics to get acquainted.
This is the steps
1. Greet the new person. Extend a compliment and/or an ice breaker into the conversation
2. Try to find a commonality between the two of you, even if it is through business backgrounds.
3. Go into general topics that most people can discuss. Some suggestions include: current news stories, weather, interests and friendly topics such as food, music, movies, books, and sports.
4. Be observant to any visual or verbal clues to draw a topic out. For example, a certain wristband, watch, gadget, pictures of family members, interesting clothing, etc.
Tips for All
* Remember to be polite. Since this is a business associate, you cannot pick your co-workers and making a bad first impression can come back to haunt you.
* Try to respond with both verbal cues and physical ones such as head nods and getures of understanding.
* Use their name after they say it once, to confirm the pronunciation and for storing it in your brain.
Remember!!!
* General topics to avoid: religion, politics, sex, philosophy, world problems, death, divorce, or anything else that might become a personally offensive subject or human resource issue.

Handle Complaints and Keep Customers

2009-04-27T04:52:00.000-07:00

Marketing is always a huge focus for business owners, however, in all of the planning and everyday duties and tasks, it is important that business owners and entrepreneurs don't forget about excellent customer service.
This is the steps
1. There is a list of 3 things that a business owner or entrepreneur can do to maintain good customer relations:
2. Take the Time to Correct Problems - You may not want to address a customer concern thinking that it takes "too much time", but when an irate or unhappy customer is not taken care of, that person will most likely not only stop patronizing your establishment, but they will also most likely tell their friends that your customer service is unsatisfactory. Take the time to correct the problem while it is repairable.
3. Apologize for the Inconvenience - It is one thing to fix a problem, it is another thing entirely to fix the problem with courtesy and consideration. The words "I apologize for the inconvenience" can help soften the customer's experience with your business. This courtesy takes just a moment, but can leave a lasting, positive impression.
4. Encourage Customer Feedback - You may not think that you want the complaining customer to tell you how they feel about your business, product, or service, however they are the customers who are most willing to talk, PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY! As the business owner you have your own biased point of view - let someone with an outside opinion give you feedback. Who knows, one of their suggestions may spur new and creative means of service or marketing that will pay off in good will or revenue.

Make Customers Service Your Priority

2009-04-23T04:49:00.000-07:00

Now we'll talk about customer service. You'll be learning the steps on having happy customers make a rich bank account.
This is the steps
1. Exude excellent charisma. Having great experience with talking and convincing is a great way to get your happy customers to buy your product.After the customers great experience with your business, they will come back again, again and again.
2. Sell online. If you have a website, or even an account on any auction site, such as eBay,you an make the most money with your talent, time or skills, then keeping your customers happy and ensuring their satisfaction will be the key to your success.
3. Be prompt and business savvy. Especially if you have an eBay account, your customers' satisfaction level will determine how well you do in your business. If you ship late, sell low quality products or over-promise and under deliver, your customer will give you lousy feedback and any future possible buyers will think twice before buying from you.
4. Meet customer expectations. Customers expect the best service from your business. For example, if you have a retail company online, shipping on time is the number 1 priority to happy customers. If you ship on time and also sent them a great product, that is simply a guaranteed you will get more business. Therefore always keep the customers needs in mind.
5. Treat unsatisfied customers with careful attention. Also keep in mind your company will always come across many unsatisfied customers. If a customer is completely unsatisfied with your product or service, it's much easier to just issue a refund than to have to fight with them over what they thought you didn't do or deliver that they assume that would receive. Again, you will find that there are some people you just can't please no matter how hard you try or what you do, so just get rid of those types of customers as fast as you can and get on with your business rather than let them sit there and argue. So don't let a few dollars ruin your business, just chalk it up and move on.
6. Encourage referrals. Because your satisfied customers are usually much quieter than the unsatisfied ones, sometimes you have to give them an incentive to give you some praise. This is where your creativity comes in because you have to think of ways to have them great feedback or give you a testimonial you can use on your site for more business. The happy customers will refer to many people to your great service or product. This is a good way to get more customers toward your business.
7. Give discounts and/or free shipping. You can offer a discount on their next purchase if they share their testimonial that you can display on your site. Having this will always get your customers to come back to enjoy another great purchase. Free shipping on orders over a curtain amount of money will please many customers. It is an excellent way because it gets the customers to save up on money.
8. Make customers a priority. Whichever avenue you decide to take, just remember that if you make customer service a priority, then you will not only sleep well at night but you'll also have satisfied customers that pass your link on to their friends and family.
Some Tips For All
* Creativity toward your company, will satisfy not only the customers, but also the product.
* Skills in communicating, convincing will help make you get the customers to purchase.
* Newsletters sign up, for your customers to catch up on many updates, upcoming products.

Talk to a Client

2009-04-19T04:45:00.000-07:00

"Time is money and money is time. Life is one big GAME! You are either the rule maker of the GAME or a player. Only the rule maker can WIN the GAME in the world of business and finance."

- Malik Shabazz
This ist the steps
1. Never ever GIVE the client what he wants. This is professional suicide. Of course be warm to them, talk with them on personal as well as the mundane things in life and so forth. But NEVER EVER answer their questions in the first minute of interaction. If you tell the customer what he wants in the first minute of interaction, and whatever he wants thereafter, this does not guarantee you a sale. What it does guarantee is that time will be consumed. Time is money and as we don't want to waste money, we need to be efficient with time. A customer could ask you questions about your product for an hour, this does not mean he will buy your product.
2. Customers will tell you everything except what they want to tell you. "When am I going to do this deal? Why should I part with my money to this business? I want to shop around and have a look at other offers." As well as a host of other excuses that could fill a book if I had the time and inclination to do so.
3. Just because someone wants to buy, does not imply that they can afford what it is that they came in for in the first place. In these changing times, credit is getting harder to attain for the mass. If in doubt remember well this maxim: "Buyer be aware." I like to put it like this: "Seller, please be AWARE of the tricks that buyers will try to pull with you in every transaction."
4. The objective is to gather information that will tie them up later on in the transaction. It is your job to be their priest, father, mother, brother and even their teacher. That being the case, they must and should answer your questions first and foremost.
5. Information is a must in this business, without it, well...that is another matter to be dealt with in a further memo.
6. “A goal without a date is just a dream.”
7. “If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place.”

Muse

2009-04-17T07:54:00.000-07:00

Unintended

by: Muse

You could be my unintended
Choice to live my life extended
You could be the one I'll always love
You could be the one who listens
To my deepest inquisitions
You could be the one I'll always love

I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before

First there was the one who challenged
All my dreams and all my balance
She could never be as good as you
You could be my unintended
Choice to live my life extended
You should be the one I'll always love

I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before

I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before

Before you...

( This is my Favorit song,you can find this song in my Flixya )

Calvin Learn to Smoke

2009-04-13T06:15:00.000-07:00

DON'T TRY TO SMOKE

Times to Maximize the Speed of Your Internet Connection

2009-04-12T04:14:00.000-07:00

This article describes how to speed up your Internet connection without use of web accelerators, and is geared towards Windows and Internet Explorer.
This is the steps
1.Do some basic maintenance on your PC. Run Disk Defrag, a scan disk, a virus scan, a malware scan, and clear your recycle bin. An unusually slow Internet connection experience is often the only sign that your computer is infected with viruses or other malware. Delete old files and temporary files. Never allow the free space on your C: drive to be less than 10% of the total size or twice the installed RAM (which ever is larger). A well maintained PC will operate much better than a PC that has never had any maintenance. Google or your local computer repair store should be able to help you with this if you don't know how.
2.Reset Your Home Network. Sometimes restarting your home network if you have one will drastically increase the speed of your connection.
3.Optimize your cache or temporary Internet files. These files improve your Internet connection performance by not downloading the same file over and over. When a web site puts their logo graphic on every page your computer only downloads it when it changes. If you delete the temporary files it must be downloaded again. if you disable the cache, it must be downloaded every time you view a page that uses it. This can be done by opening Internet Explorer, clicking on "Tools" at the top and choosing "Internet Options". On the General tab, click the "Settings" button next to Temporary Internet Files. Set Check for newer versions to "Automatically". Set amount of disk space to use to 2% of your total disk size or 512 MB, which ever is smaller. On Firefox, click "Tools" then "Options," and go to the privacy tab. Then click on the Cache tab within this.
4.Never bypass your router. Most routers include a firewall that is very difficult for hackers to defeat. If you don't need to use Wireless then hook your computer directly to your router. Routers will only slow down your connection by a few Milli-seconds. You won't notice the difference but the hackers will.
5.If you are using a Wireless router, make sure it doesn't conflict with a cordless phone or wireless camera. Wireless routers come in two varieties; 802.11bg (2.4Ghz) or 802.11a (5.8Ghz) If you are using a 2.4Ghz Cordless phone and 2.4Ghz Wireless router then your Internet connection speed will slow while you use the cordless phone. The same is true of wireless security cameras. Check on your phone and camera, if it's 900Mhz then it's fine. If it says 2.4Ghz or 5.8Ghz then it could be the cause of your slow connection speed while they're in use.
6.Call your Internet service provider (ISP). Sometimes you just have bad service. They can usually tell if your connection is substandard without having a technician come to your home. Just be nice and ask.
7.Upgrade your computer. If your computer is slow, it doesn't matter how fast your Internet connection is, the whole thing will just seem slow. You can only access the Internet as fast as your PC will allow you to.
8.Replace your old cable modem. Any solid-state electronics will degrade over time due to accumulated heat damage. Your broadband modem will have a harder and harder time 'concentrating' on maintaining a good connection as it gets older (signal to noise ratios will go down, and the number of resend requests for the same packet will go up). An after-market cable modem as opposed to a cable-company modem will frequently offer a better connection.
9.Often your connection speed is slow because other programs are using it. To test if other programs are accessing the Internet without your knowing, Click Start, Click Run. Type "cmd" (without quotes). Type "netstat -b 5 > activity.txt". After a minute or so, hold down Ctrl and press C. This has created a file with a list of all programs using your Internet connection. Type activity.txt to open the file and view the program list. Ctrl Alt Delete and open up the Task Manager. Go to the process menu and delete those processes that are stealing your valuable bandwidth. (NOTE: Deleting processes may cause certain programs to not function properly)
10.After you have tried all this try your connection again and see if it's running any faster.

Some tips for You
Call your ISP and have them verify all of your TCP/IP settings if you are concerned. Ask them to verify that your Proxy settings are correct.
Don't expect dial up or high speed lite service to be fast. The Internet is primarily geared towards Broadband Connections. Sometimes, you have to wait a little.
Download programs that make browsing faster:
Loband.org is a browser inside of a browser that loads web pages without the images.
Firefox and Opera both have options to disable images.
In Firefox, you can also use extensions such as NoScript that let you block scripts and plug-ins that would otherwise slow things down a lot.
If you are using Internet Explorer or Firefox, try downloading Google Web Accelerator. It is meant to speed up broadband connections, but it can also slow your Internet connection. Try enabling it and disabling it and see when your Internet connection runs faster.
If you are using Firefox, download the Fasterfox extension and Firetune.
Reduce the amount of programs running that use your Internet connection (Instant Messengers, RSS Feeders, and MS Applications set to send Internet data)
Google Accessible Is designed to search pages in order of how clean they are of junk. This will bring up pages that are usually not only easy to read, but are quick to load.
Upgrade your RAM. This will not only improve your regular computer use, but it will affect the speed of your Internet connection because your computer works faster.
Use the Stop button to stop loading pages once you've gotten what you want.
Some times malware on your computer can eat up your bandwidth. Make sure you have an up-to-date malware protection program.
Most Internet Providers have flaky DNS servers (no citation necessary, it's a given) - so, instead of using those provided by your ISP, switch your DNS servers to use those of OpenDNS. OpenDNS is far faster, and more reliable, simply using 208.67.222.222 and 208.67.220.220 as your domain name servers will speed up most flaky DNS problems (may even speed up your networking since OpenDNS has large caches).
Look into running your own local DNS server on your network. Some newer routers may include their own nameserver, otherwise, check into AnalogX.com's DNSCache program, it works great to hold commonly accessed domain names in the "cache" so that the IP addresses do not have to be looked up everytime you navigate to a new page.

Remember!!!!
Viruses and malware can often use up your bandwidth and slow down your Internet connection. Make sure you have protection against this. Many ISP's will provide software for this. Make sure your anti-virus and malware scanners are up-to-date.
Bypassing the router will leave you more vulnerable to attacks because you no longer have the built-in firewall from your router protecting you.
Watch out for scams that claim to make your Internet go a lot faster for free. They may tell you to download their program, which usually has a lot of other hidden programs attached that might steal your identity.

More Dollar For You

2009-03-31T01:06:00.001-07:00

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If in your Friendster and Facebook is not paid, but if the flixya ... You will be paid 100% ... Because Flixya with Google Adsense
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Time to make money on flixya.com

2009-03-30T23:01:00.000-07:00

Hii All now I am going to show you how you can make money on www.flixya.com. You’ll write articles and your ads will make the money for you.

This is something I have tried and it's not a scam. I am currently making money from this site.
This is the Instructions
Things You’ll Need:
• Time
• A google adsense account
• Sign up for a flixya.com account click here to join
Now Following this Steps
Step1
www.flixya.com is a site where you write a blog or an article, upload photos and videos; basically socialize with everyone. We all do this on myspace.com, facebook.com and other sites. However, the positive thing about fixya.com is you’ll be making Money from the ads placed on your profile.
Step2
You will be receiving 100% of the revenues from the clicks around your articles, blogs, photos, videos, etc. Now, come on who wouldn’t want to make some extra cash? Especially if you love writing, like I do, then you will be doing something you enjoy and most likely do often anyways for free. Except this time you’ll be getting paid for it.
Step3
Now, the question is who pays you? Google adsense is your answer. You can sign up for a google adsense account here: http://walkaboutangel.googlepages.com/googlestuff
Step4
Then once you sign up you will be giving a pub number, which you will use on flixya.com.
Step5
Once you have everything set up, you’ll be making money by the clicks you get to the google ads in your profile. The way to get clicks to your ads is to write articles or blogs and then promote them so that you can drive traffic to your ads. Trust me, it’s a lot easier than it sounds.

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Introduce : Flixya

2009-03-30T22:44:00.000-07:00

Whether you enjoy writing a blog (an online journal), publishing your own home videos or uploading pictures--you are sure to find something to keep you busy on a website called Flixya. Gone are the days of holding an audience captive to watch your home movies. The Internet as well as Flixya gives you a whole new way to display your movies and blogs.

This is the Instructions

Step1

HOW TO GET MY FLIXYA
Register for a free Flixya account using the link in resources which follows this article. Start on the right hand side of your computer screen by clicking the "sign up" button or you can Click "IN HERE"

Step2

FLIXYA ACCOUNT SETUP
Pick a Flixya username and password that has not already been taken. It is important that the username you pick will be both meaningful and significant for you. Recall this information to use your Flixya account in the future. You can use your first and last name, they will not be displayed on the website without your permission. Enter the text to verify that you are indeed human. Click the "start now" button on your screen to verify your information on the Flixya website.

Step3

FLIXYA CONFIRMATION

Confirm your Flixya account in your email if you are asked. You should be ready to download or blog whenever you wish. Click the Flixya login button to get started. Enter your unique Flixya username and password.

Step4

FLIXYA VIDEO UPLOADS
If you want to upload a video to Flixya, click "Upload Videos" and follow the on-screen prompts. If your file is too large or the format is not acceptable, you will have to modify or choose another before uploading. You will be prompted to download "video egg" free software to assist the upload process.

Step5

FLIXYA PHOTOS

To upload photos to Flixya, click the "Upload Photos" and follow the on screen directions. JPEG or JPG is the most common format. Locate the desired photos, usually found in my pictures inside of the my documents folder on your computer.
Wait for them to upload and display on Flixya. Blog or write a caption if you wish.
Use Flixya to display your online scrapbook. Include a few photos of yourself or profile photo for your Flixya activity.

Step6

FLIXYA FRIENDS
Find friends on Flixya that will view your items or invite friends from your email address book. Click "browse and find friends." If you post interesting photos, videos and blog topics, more will come and see your offerings. Do not forget to visit your Flixya friends frequently so they may comment on your profile in return.

Tips & Warnings for you all

You should already have a Google Adsense Account to maximize the potential of Flixya. If you do not have one, a sign up link can be found below.
Practice using the features until you are comfortable.
Do not be afraid to use the help or FAQ section for assistance.
Flixya accounts are free.
The more interaction you have, the more fun flixya becomes.
Do not upload any copyrighted material or material you do not have rights to.
Do not post inappropriate material.
Do not click on your own ads or have your friends click on them.
Acceptable formats will be displayed for you in the case your videos is not in the proper format on Flixya.

Walk Safely at Night

2009-03-30T04:30:00.000-07:00

Steps you can take to improve your safety when walking at night.
this ih the steps
1. Be inconspicuous when walking or cycling at night-time.
2. Wear clothing that would not draw attention to yourself unless cycling. When cycling at night reflective clothing and lights are necessary in order to be visible to automobile traffic.
3. Stick to well-lit and heavily traveled streets, such as town centers.
4. Walk or cycle without hesitation. If you look confident you are less likely to attract unwanted attention.
5. Have a little bottle of pepper spray or some kind of defense weapon with you and be able to access it easily.

Some tips
* Do not walk with your CD player, Walkman, or mp3 player playing. If you absolutely must listen to your music, turn it to a low volume so that you can listen for footsteps behind you. Also consider playing it in one ear, leaving the other one free to listen.
* If possible tell someone where you are going and when you will be back.
* Keep your mobile phone switched on and within easy reach in case of emergencies.

Remember!!!

* Stay out of the road at night.
* Walk safely off the road and clear of any traffic.
* Avoid deserted parks and alleyways; even if this means taking a longer, but safer, route home.
* Use your neck like an owl would. Always check your surroundings for danger as you walk at night.
* Do not walk or cycle whilst chatting to a friend on your mobile phone. You must keep your wits about you.
* Check the policy for your country/state before buying pepper spray, since it is illegal in some places.
* Don't cycle at night when drunk, or even in daytime, your reactions are considerably slower under the influence.
* Many people, despite believing they can, can't hear someone sneaking behind them when listening to music
* Wearing anything on your ears makes you a more likely target, as a predator is likely to think you will be easy to sneak up on.
* If you do use a self defense weapon, make sure that you have been trained to use it.

Protect Yourself from Someone Who Wants Revenge

2009-03-27T04:27:00.000-07:00

Okay, you've made somebody mad at some point. We all have. Some people let it roll off their shoulders, others vow revenge until their dying breath. This how-to will help you protect yourself from the latter.
Try This Steps
1. Try to be a decent person in the first place, so that people won't be inclined to seek revenge on you. If you are not a jerk, for the most part, you will not make enemies. Don't do things that will offend people. Don't call a random heavy person a "fatty" in Wal-Mart. Don't relentlessly tease the kid with glasses at your high school or college. Don't be rude to customer service employees, especially cashiers (They can easily track you, because all they have to do is make you show an ID with a credit card or check, and there is nothing you can do about it if you want to pay by a method other than cash).
2. Notify the police if you are certain that someone is trying to take revenge on you. Be sure they are attempting before you do this. False police reports are illegal.
3. Contact authorities even if someone harasses you, you always have the option of contacting the police, even if they have blackmailed you.
4. Get Caller ID for your phone if you do not already have it. Block any numbers which give you wakeup calls at 3AM (yes, people have been known to abuse the wakeup call services online for just this purpose).

Some Tips For You
* Try to make things right with any person who believes you have wronged them. For example, if you have insulted someone, apologize to him or her the next time you see them. If you destroyed someone's property, offer to fix it at your own expense. You would be surprised at how far "little things" like these would go in keeping someone from taking revenge out on you.
* Consider buying a gun or a noisy dog. If the enemy is the type who will try to break into your house and kill you in your sleep, you want some sort of home defense.

Remember

* Some people will still try to get revenge, or get more than they deserve from you, even if you do your very best to make things right.
* If you ever are rude to someone, do what you can to prevent them from getting your license plate number. The internet is full of paid search sites where someone can pay a small fee to look up your license plate to find out where you live.
* You may not be forgiven even if you try to make things right. Move on, and take the other steps to protect yourself.
* If you contact the police, you may find that your "enemy" has already figured out a way to get them on his side.
* Don't open unexpected packages from foreign countries, especially from the Netherlands. Packages from the Netherlands could contain drugs (and your enemy may have already reported you for drugs anonymously.)
* Don't go on the attack without being sure someone really is out to get you.

Deal With Too Much Stress

2009-03-24T04:24:00.000-07:00

Do you ever get really stressed out? Well, here are a few ways to deal with stress and make it go away the easiest way.
Try This Steps
1. First of all try setting up a relaxed environment for yourself such as your room, a park, or any other place that makes you feel calm
2. Try listening to a favorite song, or watch a movie that you think that would calm you down
3. Think about all the things that are making you stressed and try seeing them in a better light.
4. If it's a problem like a fight with your friends, or parents or anything else social try talking to the person. once you solve the problem with them you'll feel like the weight is off your chest.
5. Take a walk out in the fresh air. walk down the street, or even with your dog in the park. a lot of times walking relaxes your body and gives you time to just think over things.
6. If your stress is a result of too many things to like homework, after school activities, work, try organizing things and a day schedule.
7. Try sleeping more or taking a vacation for even just one day

Try avoiding things that you know that might tic you off or make you stressed

Remember!!!
* Learning how to deal with stress positively takes times. There are many negative ways to deal with stress such as use drugs or alcohol, or breaking things, but these have serious consequences such as health problems, addiction , and legal problems.

Emotionally and Physically Protect Yourself

2009-03-23T03:23:00.000-07:00

Prevention is better than cure, so try to never let people attack you in the first place.
try this steps
1. Don't let people walk all over you. Don't be rude to people for no reason, but don't laugh it off if someone does something mean to you. That only tells them it's okay to do it again. Be able to stand your ground.
2. In the event that you get a crush on someone, try to avoid long, passionate love notes. These usually tend to scare people away and give them the impression that you have an obsessive personality. Instead, consider writing a brief note, such as, "I think you're really cute and I like you, do you want to go hang out some time?"
3. Always be on guard. There can be some real jerks in school. People may be targeting you.
4. Don't put complete trust in all of your friends. When you're in school, the social group that you're with will probably change. Don't completely cut yourself off from your closest friends completely, but be careful. If you have a friend that you hang out with sometimes, but aren't really close with, don't tell her anything that you wouldn't want the whole school knowing. If you have a friend that likes to talk behind their other friend's backs, keep in mind that she can be talking about you behind your own back, too.
5. Stay on top of your homework. Despite its boredom and tedium, it really is better for you in the long run. You won't need to repeat semesters (or even entire grade levels) if you can stay on top of your work.
6. Don't leave your things laying around in front of other teenagers, especially if they have really personal things in them [i.e. your purse]. There are some people who will dig through your stuff the very moment that your back is turned and read whatever they find.
7. Don't be persuaded into doing something that you don't feel comfortable with. If you're at a friend's house and everyone is having a drink, but you don't want to, that's okay. I've been there, and believe me, getting drunk and waking up the next morning remembering all the things you did is NOT fun. Not only that, but it takes a teenager just two months of regular drinking to do permanent liver damage. It takes an adult ten years.
8. 'If you're at a party, don't accept a drink from someone else. Don't leave your drink unattended. Someone could slip something into it and you would never know (the 'date rape' drug is completely tasteless). If you're going to drink, please don't do it at parties. If you get drunk enough, you're leaving yourself very vulnerable to all kinds of things. If you don't think you can gracefully say no to a drink if offered, just carry a cup with water in it.
9. Don't get into cars with people you don't know very well. This goes for girls and guys. Just don't do it. Even if you know them kinda sorta from school or somewhere else. It's just not safe.
10. Always wear deodorant and brush you teeth really well. Don't forget to brush the back of your tongue, that's the place that causes icky breath! Also, wash yourself everyday.
11. Don't let other people hurt your feelings. Just because they call you ugly or stupid or anything else does not make it true. Chances are, they're probably just one those people that gets pleasure out of being mean.
12. For girls: Some boys will say anything to get into your pants. Don't be afraid to say 'no' and don't be feeling guilty into doing something you don't want to do. Just because he says he loves you doesn't make it true. And, odds are, if he wants you to do something you're not comfortable with HE DOESN'T REALLY LOVE YOU. You want someone who will love you for YOU, not your body.
13. If you have had sex and regret it, don't feel guilty. Don't be afraid to talk to a parent or another adult you love and can be open with! This is always a damn good idea. Also, know the facts! A few quick facts: Douches do not protect against pregnancy or STDs (STIs), condoms aren't 100% effective, and neither is the pill, having sex during any time of the month can result in pregnancy. Check out the Woman's Health Matters link below.

some tips
* Tune out the rotten things people say.
* Have someone you can trust and talk to. A parent, a relative, a counselor (remember, counselors by law cannot share what you say to them with other people, as long as it is not something that's against the law, such as a serious death threat).
* If you are being harassed in any way, don't be afraid to tell someone!
* If you have been raped or assaulted (this goes for guys too), contact the authorities immediately. This is not your fault.
* Lift weights and become physically fit. Not only is it healthy but people will be scared of you.
* The most valuable thing you can have is self assurance. Acting vulnerable to get attention will only ever get the wrong kind- why are you taking care of yourself if you're acting like you're not worth it?

Remember!!!

* These are just suggestions. If you have a serious problem or need help ask for help from a professional or parent or other adult.

Detect Hidden Cameras and Microphones

2009-03-20T03:20:00.000-07:00

Do you ever feel your being watched? Everytime you turn around there's never anyone there. Maybe you're being watched by cameras or microphones are listening. Here are some steps to find them.
try this steps
1. Do a physical search of the premises. This involves a slow, meticulous search of the room or building you suspect is "wired".
* Look around for anything that "seems different", like flower arrangements, pictures on the wall out of level or in unusual places, or lampshades that don't look normal.
* Look inside flower pots, light fixtures, and other places where a microphone transmitter can easily be hidden.
* Look under couch cushions, table tops, and shelves. Underneath shelves and table tops are excellent places for miniature cameras.
2. Turn off the lights, and carefully look around the room for tiny red or green led lights. Some microphones have "power on" indicator lights, and if the person who sets it up is careless they may fail to cover or deactivate this feature. While the lights are off, grab a flashlight and carefully examine all mirrors--these can be made transparent from one side so that a camera can see through, but they rely on the observer's side being darker than the area observed in order to keep the other side of the mirror reflective
3. Listen carefully as you walk the entire room quietly. Many small motion sensitive cameras make an almost inaudible click or buzz when they operate.
4. Search the room or premises for wires that do not seem to "go anywhere", such as an appliance or other familiar device. "Hardwired" spy equipment is less common with modern technology, but is still used for permanent surveillence in commercial businesses for loss prevention.
5. Buy an "RF signal detector" or "Bug Detector". If you seriously beleive you are being spied on, buy an RF (radio frequency) detector, and do a sweep of your room, building, or home. These portable devices are small, simple to use, and fairly inexpensive.
some tips for you
* Check for smoke detectors you didn't add, look for speaker that might have a camera in it.
* Make sure that your computer's microphone and webcam (if you have one) are off ,or covered when not in use
Remember!!
* Don't let the cameras and mic's know your looking for them
* Hide the detector and make sure it's on silent mode
All the Things that You'll Need
* a high-quality detector
* someone that's actually spying on you
* If you want you can use a pro detector just do a Google search for "bug detectors"

The Way to Stop Panic Attacks

2009-03-17T03:17:00.000-07:00

Panic Attacks are often common when we have sudden feelings of fear and anxiety. This happens due to the stimulation of the adrenal hormone by the adrenal glands. The released Adrenalin helps the body prepare for a fight or flight situation. This is usually for the good but sometimes it may cause trouble. Especially when it happens too frequently, it is difficult to manage them The problem with these attacks is that they appear out of nowhere. But you can handle it.
try this steps
1. Stress Management and Rest: Panic is due to excessive tension. The best cure for tension is rest. Get more sleep and enjoy your life. Go out on a vacation.
2. Herbal Remedies: Trying herbs is not a bad option. They have been found to be effective. But it is not always. It is your brain that decides whether you should have a panic attack or not.
3. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy/One Move Technique: This therapy is also known as the One move technique. Panic Attacks are caused due to fear and the fear is due to the release of adrenalin. The release of adrenalin is directly linked to the Adrenal corticotropic hormone (ACTH) stimulated by the pituary gland. So that is where you need to control. If you can control the stimulation of ACTH then you can certainly overcome panic attack.

Some Tips
* If you feel panic, then don’t react. Let it through. It will come to an end. Panic Attacks are like a roller coaster. It will come to end.
* Don’t resist panic attacks. Accept it and let it flow through you. It will come to an end.
* Don’t feel afraid. Remember one thing: Fear increases Fear. If you are afraid of panic then it will create more panic and you will face more trouble. So let it go through your body.
* If you let it flow through you, then you will lose your fear of panic. When that happens, you become less scared of panic attacks and more relaxed when you have a panic attack.
* Practice One Move Technique

Tips to Defend Yourself

2009-03-16T03:16:00.000-07:00

The difference between walking away and becoming tomorrow's newspaper headline is how well you are prepared to protect yourself in a bad situation. By keeping this information in mind you will know what can be done before and during an attack.
There are various types of confrontations:
* The 'wind-up', the argument before the fight erupts,
* The 'duel' an arranged meet to resolve a dispute between conflicting parties or the ambush.
* The brawl will usually be only after the verbal "woofing" has been exhausted and someone throws a punch.
* An ambush is usually premeditated and one or more assailants will attack when they feel the timing is right, usually after distracting the victim with a question e.g. "Have you got the time?".
Steps
Preparation
1. Think about potential situations in which you will need to defend yourself. No two attacks are the exact same, so think about what you could do if attacked from different sides or in different situations (large numbers of people, alone, at night or at day, assailant is armed or not armed, size of assailant, assailant's intentions). By thinking about it beforehand, you will not be as likely to become shocked and panic during the real thing.
2. Take a self-defense course. Actually being able to run through potential situations and consult with an expert will help you immensely. Try taking a form of martial arts.

Confrontations
1. If you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, try to leave the situation. In an uncomfortable social situation, this can be as simple as firmly asserting yourself ("Back off right now!"). Take all verbal or directional paths to non-confrontation; actual physical confrontation should be your last line of defense, although sometimes it may be the only.
2. Try to stay standing with a wide base, both left-to-right and back-to-front, so that your feet are diagonal from each other (a typical martial arts fighting stance). This will lessen your likelihood of getting knocked or pushed over.
3. Assess your potential assailant: tall/short, stocky/thin, male/female. Look at their hands. If they were about to attack with their hands, they would have their hands out. However, if they are concealing a weapon, they will have them hidden or at their side.
4. The best tactic in any confrontation is to RUN.

Preparing for a confrontation
One simple step to judge when a confrontation has passed the point of a verbal exchange is when the person starts to invade your personal space. To mark this, you put up a fence. A fence is simply putting your hands in front of you in a conciliatory/peaceful gesture (palms out). If the assailant tries to move past your fence, you are entering a physical confrontation - what other reason would they have for getting closer?. The general (but unpalatable) consensus at this point is you have to end the fight as quickly as possible by striking first, striking hard, and striking as many times as you can, then escaping. This goes against the oft quoted 'bushido' or warriors code and our innate civilised sensibilities, however not many assailants care for either of these.
Defending yourself from the front
1. If the attacker is trying to punch you or grab you from the front, put your hands on your forehead in a "Not in the face!" sort of gesture and your arms tight on your body. This may look like a weak defensive position, but that is to your advantage since it brings your opponent's guard down. In addition, this position protects your face and your ribs, two places you'll likely want to protect.
2. From your "Not in the face!" position, when you are close in on your assailant, lift your elbows into your opponent's lower ribs or right below his pectoral muscles. These are sensitive spots and can cause a lot of pain.
3. If your assailant's upper body is far from you but you are still at risk (e.g. your opponent is choking you), attack their legs. This is especially effective on larger attackers because the bigger he/she is, the more stress he/she has on his/her legs and knees. Do not deliver a typical Karate Kid style kick; instead, kick his/her shins soccer-style (with the instep of your foot). This is a quick and painful kick. In addition, if his/her legs are close enough, lift your knees into their inner leg (femoral nerve), outer leg, knee, or groin. These will break down your attacker and may disable him/her, as only 12-16 pounds of pressure are needed to break a knee.
4. If your opponent has his/her head in reaching distance (which is often the case when you attack his/her legs), you will want to attack it. Try to poke or press on the eyes, as no one can resist an eye poke no matter how big he/she is. Clapping on the ears can stun or, if done perfectly, breaks the eardrums. Striking the cheekbones can cause bruises or broken bones. Striking the nose causes nosebleeds and temporary blindness.
5. In some cases you may also want to attack your attacker's neck (usually open when the head is). To effectively choke someone, do not do the typical Hollywood "hands around the entire neck," but instead just put your thumb and fingers around his/her trachea (especially easy to find on men with large Adam's apples). Also, right below his/her trachea is a notch in his/her neck. Dig, drive, and sink your fingers into this notch and they will experience intense pain and probably fall down.

Attacks from behind
1. If an attacker tries to attack you from behind to choke you, press his/her forearm against your collarbone instead of trying to pull it directly off (which doesn't work well). Put one hand above his/her elbow (on the forearm) and one hand below it (so your hands are on both sides of the elbow). Then, in one strong and determined movement, step and swing your entire body around like the arm is the hinge to your body acting as a screen door. This will get you out of his/her choke and leave his/her head, ribs, and legs wide open to your counterattack. (Also note that, when your attacker is behind you, his/her shins are right behind your legs and primed for your stomping and raking.)
2. If the attacker is trying to pick you up from behind, drop your hips quickly and violently as if you were plopping down on a love seat. This will make you harder to pick up and give you an extra moment to attack them and fend them off (stomp on their shins).
3. If the attacker is trying to choke you by wrapping his arms around your neck, bring the ball of your foot forward, as if you just kicked a soccer ball, and fast and FORCEFULLY, slam it into the area of their leg between their ankle and mid-leg. This will, (if done hard enough) break their leg.

Other potential situations
1. If you fall, try to fall on top of your attacker. While falling, keep the pointy parts of your body pointy (your knees and your elbows) and aim for your attacker's groin, ribs, and neck.
2. If your attacker is wrestling with you on the ground and has you pinned under him/her, grab his/her body by unlocking his/her arm joints, or pin a hand to the ground. Then, put one leg firmly on the ground, push off of it, and swing your hips over. This will have you falling on top of your opponent, which should be done with a good amount of pointedness.
3. If an attacker attacks with a weapon, know where the weapon is effective. If he/she has a knife, try to stay out of stabbing range, and if he/she has a gun, don't count out running and dodging left to right. Also, note that the attacker invests him/herself on that weapon and can leave him/herself open to grabbing/pinning the weapon hand or a different attack.
4. If you get a chance to leave safely, go for it. Be sure that you're safe from your opponent when you decide to stop defending yourself.

Some tips
* If someone is attacking you, you are right and the other person is wrong. Their motivation is probably wanting your money or possessions or body, while yours is self-preservation. This means that you can fight without rules, since your cause is "righteous". In all likelihood, there will be a point in time, somewhere between the knees to the groin, elbows to the ribs, and strikes to the nose, that whatever he/she wanted before isn't nearly as important as stopping the pain you're dishing out.
* In a self-defense situation, take a "not me" attitude: don't let yourself be the one they see in the paper the next morning. This starts before the fight, since experienced rapists and muggers will choose their victims not by what they are wearing or who they are, but how they act. If you are confident, you will not be the one they target.
* If you get the opportunity, talk with your friends about how one would defend one's self in a dangerous situation. If possible, run through potential situations and where to target on someone's body and what seems to work and what doesn't.
* If you think that you may be entering "a bad neighborhood" or any place where an attack could possibly happen, keep some pepper spray with you. This could be an invaluable lifesaver. Never keep a potentially lethal weapon such as a firearm or a knife with you as you may turn a mugging into a fight to the death, especially if the assailant is armed.
* Threatening an assailant with a weapon like a knife or firearm is a bad idea unless you fear for your life. It is not worth going to jail for murder, manslaugter or getting killed over your wallet. Remember, the assailant is most probably stronger and more experienced in fighting than you or he would not have chosen you.
* If this is any sort of domestic situation, you may be wondering at what point it becomes bad enough to warrant you defending yourself. By legal standards, any unwarranted contact is an assault. It doesn't matter if he/she "only" pushed you, it's still an assault, can still be dangerous, and you still deserve to defend yourself.

Remember!!!!
* Don't get in fights over trivial things like disagreements in a bar about beer/girls/sports teams. Be the bigger person and walk away. You're better than that.
* Don't comply with someone who has you under duress (in other words, if the attacker says, "Get in the car," don't get in the car. The attacker wants to move you probably because he/she doesn't want to do what he/she intends to do in your current situation. You have a much better chance of surviving if you resist as soon as possible, however, if you do not escape at that moment, the attacker will probably kill you and take the keys.
* In many cases, you can end the situation immediately by giving the attacker your wallet. This is a logical choice, especially if at knife- or gunpoint. Your life is worth much more than the cash and cards you have on you. toss the wallet away from you and run.
* This plan does not cover every situation, but it's rather a brief overview of what you can expect. By no means are you completely safe; however, after reading and understanding this you have a better mindset if a situation does arise. Above all, remember that you are right and you can decide if you're not going to be the victim.
* Only carry a weapon if you have sufficient training to use it legally and effectively.

Choose a Self Defense Class

2009-03-13T03:13:00.000-07:00

Concerned about defending yourself? Not feeling confident when you're travelling alone? Why not try self-defense classes? They can be an enjoyable way to learn to protect yourself and boost confidence.
try this steps
Finding a class

1. If you know anyone who goes to self-defense classes, talk to them, as they may be able to point you in the right direction. If you have a friend who teaches, even better!
2. Find out whether local self-defense classes have to have approval or specific licenses. This should help in finding a reputable instructor.
3. Go to your local police station. They should have a list of reputable self-defense classes, or at least be able to point you to some good instructors, and may be able to direct you to classes well-suited to you (e.g. self-defense for women).
4. If you are still stuck for classes, try having a look in your local telephone directory, search online for local classes, or look on bulletin board at local fitness centers. Remember: the size of the ad is no judge of the quality of the class. Have a look around any classes listed in your area.

Choosing between classes
1. When you find a class, go down when the lesson is on, and watch the class in progress. Don't just watch the instructor, pay attention to the people in the class, too. Remember that you may be training with them, so you should be comfortable being around them.
2. Talk to the instructor about the classes, and talk to those learning if you have the chance. They can give you an idea of what training will involve.
3. Get involved! Taking part will give you an idea of what the training is actually like.
4. If you like the look of a class, use any trial periods they may have; many schools offer a certain number of lessons at a reduced rate while you're deciding about the school.

some tips
* Talk to the instructor about what you're looking to get out of the classes.
* Be wary of fraudulent instructors; learning self-defense does not need to cost you an arm and a leg, nor does it require pledging eternal (or even temporary) servitude to them.
* If you believe something is dangerous to you, do not do it. A good instructor will know that not everyone is as confident or as able as others, and will support you in your training. You are at their classes of your own choosing.
* Learning to defend yourself does not have to be a chore! If you are not enjoying the classes, talk to your instructor. They may be able to adjust your instruction to your preferences. If they refuse, consider finding another class.
* If you are not comfortable with the 'atmosphere' of the class, do not be afraid to walk away. You may have only picked up on something subconciously, but 'intuition' is generally a good guide.
* If you are not feeling confident about going to classes initially, ask a friend to go with you. Seeing a familiar face when you start can make the difference between sticking around and dropping out.

React in an Emergency

2009-03-10T03:10:00.000-07:00

Sometime in out lives, we may encounter an emergency or other situation or disaster that we must take control of. A situation may range from a car crash to a glass of spilled milk. No matter what, it is important to remain calm to effectively deal with the situation.
this is the steps
1. Remain calm. Take a few deep breaths. This is mentioned in every article with the word "emergency" in it and it is necessary to properly deal with an emergency.
2. Keep people away from the site of the situation. This will keep the people involved/injured safe. Depending on the size and location of the situation, this may be easy or difficult.
* If the emergency is outdoors and is large, such as a car accident and is on a road, you will need a large object to physically place in front of the site of the situation. Depending on the size of the situation, you may need to only block off one lane or you may need to block off both. The easiest way is to park your vehicle horizontally directly in front of the emergency. Stand beside it and signal to vehicles to move into the adjacent lane. If you are on a four lane road, obstruct two lanes in the direction heading toward the situation and signal to drivers to move into the center oncoming lane. Drivers should have enough common sense to move back into the correct lane when they pass the situation. If possible, get a friend to move oncoming traffic into the curb lane on the side of the road opposite of the emergency. See the diagram if you are confused.
* If the situation is indoors, things will be a little bit easier. Use chairs or other objects to close off the area. Appoint people to stand by the area to explain to others what is happening and to tell them to walk around. Wet floor signs are also good for this purpose.
3. Administer first aid to anyone requiring it.
4. Depending on the severity of the situation, call the local emergency phone number.
5. Use available resources to address and give directions to a large group of people. Use a building's public address system if necessary. Most phones in a large building have a button labelled PA that you can use to access it in a hurry. This is useful for saying, "Move along people, nothing to see here,"
6. As emergency crews begin to arrive, slowly get out of the way but stay nearby.
some tips
* If you happen to have some caution tape in your car or on your person, now is a good time to use it. To be prepared for an emergency, consider purchasing some from your local hardware store and placing it in the trunk of your car so you will always have it if you need it.
* When we say "emergency crews" in this article, it does not necessarily mean the people driving the cars with the fancy flashing lights. While emergency crews at a car accident are the police and paramedics, emergency crews at a milk spill may simply mean "the guy with the paper towels".
* Remember that it takes teamwork to handle an emergency properly. You will need to work together with people to get a situation stabilized. You will also need to do things that you would not normally do such as in steps two and five.
* Also remember that in an emergency, you will have to appoint yourself in charge of a situation. Do not assume someone else will do it. YOU must do it first to prevent chaos.
* If possible, wear a reflective vest if you are going to direct traffic around the site of an emergency.

Be Street Smart

2009-03-07T03:07:00.001-08:00

Modern times have changed and people need to change as well to stay safe and not be a 'victim'. This article could help save your life.
try this steps
1. Trust your gut instinct in any situation. Many people ignore that little warning voice inside of themselves. They talk themselves out of listening to it because they think they are being paranoid or they don't want to be the one to speak up. It can be your best friend around danger and help you make snap decisions. It is better to be paranoid than to become a victim.
2. Train yourself to be extra careful and alert around crowds. Watch and note any suspicious behavior. Criminals love crowds because they distract most people. Instruct your friends and family to be aware as well. Carry wallets,backpacks and purses in front of your body and never set anything down even for a 'minute' unless you are sitting and it is in front of you in your hands. If any stranger bumps into you or makes you stop suddenly because they abruptly stop in front of you, if they ask a question or causes a distraction of any kind, get real cautious. Most pickpockets work in twos or use children. If a strange child comes up to you in public to show you a drawing or something they are selling, watch for other people (even other children) around you. If you feel a insect bite you, or wet paint or bird poop get on your clothes and someone offers to brush you off-be aware it could be a pickpocket team.
3. Understand that evil comes in many forms. Stereotypes of what evil looks like in people cause people to relax in front of strangers. A criminal might not be male and dressed in all black! Danger can be inside the most normal and non-threatening adults and even children. It resides in beautiful and confident people. Don't tell your entire life story to any stranger.
4. Learn that losing control in ANY public setting is just plain dangerous. If you are even tipsy, your guard goes down. Be especially careful if you are a woman and the man with you is drunk. It makes you focus on him and is a magnet for other men to strike at you. Dump him in a cab or call a friend to help you. IF you sense danger on a street, TURN around and walk the opposite way.
5. Hold children's hands in public. Do not let them get in front or behind you in a crowd. Stay alert at all times of where they are. Instruct them to stay with you. Avoid leaving them alone in a public place.
6. Distrust anything that is too good to be true. Whether it is a get rich scheme, a beautiful person or couple flirting and coming on to you, a cheap way to sight-see without a established tour guide-DO not trust it and back away.
7. Contact the authorities if any stranger ever asks you to deliver or give a message. Especially if they offer you money.
8. Avoid stopping when walking on the street to give money or cigarettes. Just say "No thank you." Never walk to someones car to give directions. Keep your eyes in front of you and walk quickly. Ignore strangers that talk to you. When listening to a street musician be extra careful. Never hold any CASH in your hand no matter how small. If approached by a street gang and they ask where you are from, say "nowhere". Avoid staring any gang member in the eyes too long -it is a sign of disrespect. The best thing to do is leave the area at once and do not start any conversation with them.
9. Remember to be alert to people following you. If you are in a bar or hotel and you feel you are being watched, you most likely are right. Again trust that instinct. Call a friend to join or come get you if alone.
10. Practice being calm. Force yourself to think about the steps you will do and do not focus on how scared and upset you are. If you are with a group of people, take charge and become the "Calm" leader even if you do not feel calm. Tell them you have a "plan" even if you do not. Something will come to you in time.
11. Consider that many robberies take place on quiet streets. Criminals look for a 'lone' victim. They also love tourists because they are busy and distracted. Stay on guard. Do not talk and get lost in a phone conversation while walking in public. Stop and sit down if you need to talk to someone on your cell. If a armed robber does get to you, try to throw the wallet/purse away from you than run as fast as you can.
12. Blend in as best as you can. Sometimes this will be difficult, especially if you're the ethnic minority, but be cognizant of how the people around you dress and act. Try not to draw attention to yourself. You should never look like the wealthiest person in a crowd. If you have a physical feature that's different and eye-catching, try to minimize it. For example, if you have long, gorgeous blond hair, a troubled neighborhood is not the place to flaunt it. Wear it in a ponytail and put on a hat or a hood.
13. Imagine that you are confident as you walk the streets. Don't look scared. Don't appear nervous. If you happen to make eye contact with someone, don't look away suddenly, as if it was an accident. Look away slowly and casually. Pretend you've walked in that neighborhood a million times before. It helps to wear sunglasses/glasses on the street to prevent muggers from throwing items such as red pepper into your eyes to blind you as they rob you. In a restaurant try to sit with your back against the wall if possible. If muggers jump on your back, allow yourself to fall but try to break it with your hands. Give them your backpack, wallet or purse before getting up.
14. Get to know people. Establish rapport with neighbors who seem quiet and trustworthy. It's always good to know someone in the neighborhood who you can go to for help.
15. Learn assertive body language. If you are clutching your purse too tight, blinking fast, seem to be lost, uncertain or looking frazzled you could be targeted. Don't send out nervous or vulnerable signals by walking too fast either or constantly looking behind you. Be smart and leave the fancy electronic gadgets (ipods, laptops, etc,) at home. Street robbers love those expensive toys because they are easy to fence.

some tips
* Crime does not just take place at night and in bad areas. It can be anywhere and at anytime. It can happen in places you would never dream-national parks or monuments, amusement parks, churches, hospitals, weddings, tour buses and playgrounds. Many crimes happen early in the morning in the streets of big cities. It can happen in well lit streets or dimly lit areas. Understand that criminals can be all around you, they are walking, standing and in cars. Keep Vigilant.
* Watch out for people who are vulnerable-young children, teens and the elderly. They can be naive and good targets for criminals.Young adults under the age of 25 are very gullible still. Tell them to travel in packs while in high school or college. Teach your family how to stay safe and less trusting. Tell them that any stranger could be dangerous to them and to never hold on to their purses, phones or any items if the robber wants it.
* When the weather is hot-be even more on guard. Many criminals seem to strike during warm/hot spells. If a person approaches you wearing a hood over his head in hot weather or dressed in ski-cap or wool jacket-that is suspicious.
* Anyone can be a victim-even the 6' man. Don't fool yourself just because you are big and tall. Don't be the hero-just throw or give them the stuff they want and run or back away. Do not ever chase the mugger. You could be killed and it is not worth it. Never throw yourself or chase after the mugger's car-they can run you over.
* Always do your ATM banking when it feels safe. If there is even a doubt in your mind, don't do it.
* Carry some cash with you but never display it when you open your wallet or your purse. Avoid money clips and expensive jewelry. It makes you a target. Never keep all your cash in one place when traveling. Have some under a shirt or in a bra even a shoe. They sell items to help you hide money on your person. If you feel someone behind you in line is watching you-be 'careful' that they do not follow you. Keep your wallet and purse-clean and organized with no money floating around on the top.
* Don't let any stranger in your car. If you see a stranger fiddling or standing by your car-do not approach it. Contact authorities instead. Never leave any valuables in your car even the trunk.
* When traveling-pack very light and very organized. Do not be burdened with heavy suitcases as they will only distract you. Hold on and track your passport. Keep it on your person at all times. Never let it out of your sight and same with airline tickets. Give yourself and family plenty of time so you are not frazzled.
* Pickpockets always travel in couples or groups. One to distract and one to get to your items. If you feel distracted by a person/or a couple's antics (falling down, being drunk or crazy, a fight) in a public place, stop and look around.They are very fast and very skillful.
* If you are a single man and a attractive stranger approaches you. Talk to them but don't leave with them. They could be the "bait" to lure you into a very bad situation.
* If you see a crime happening in front of you, be very careful before stepping in. Take mental notes on everything that is happening and look around to see if others are watching. If you see a man assaulting a woman in public, try to get other people to help you with him. He could be carrying a weapon. Observe his height, weight, facial hair, any tattoos, skin marks or scars and clothes. Call the police. If you have his license plate, make sure to write it down or say it into your cell phone to a friend.
* If you have to sleep in public, have a friend watch your belongings. Never leave any purses/backpacks open when sitting.
* If you are traveling in a crowded bus or subway, people are going to be shoved next to you. The person with a magazine or newspaper could be a pickpocket. Keep a hand on your belongings at all times and don't wear a expensive watch in public transport or while traveling.
* Never give any personal information or credit card information over the phone to a stranger. Even if they say they work for a charity or cause. Delete any e-mails from strangers or any contacts from your bank, credit card or pay pal.They are scams. If not sure about any e-mail-delete it.
* Stop your car if a person jumps in front of it but do not OPEN the door. If the person has a weapon and is hitting or smashing your car, keep driving. If a person taps on your car window do not roll it down.
* When traveling abroad dress 'down'. Make sure your kids are not wearing expensive shoes and other items. Do not look like a "Rich American". Don't carry around camera equipment that is very expensive. Lock all suitcases all of the time in any hotel.
* Remember the elbow is the strongest weapon on your body.
* If locked in the trunk of a car, kick out the back headlights when the car is moving, not when the car is idling. Wave your arm out of the hole. Someone could see you. Look for the trunk release as well.
* if you are bi lingual, use that against them... you can trick them into thinking that you arnt going to be easy to steal from, so they will bi-pass you...

Remember!!!

* Use common sense-do not put yourself or other people in your life in uncertain, dangerous situations. If walking down the street and you feel or see a situation that does not look right or feel right than walk the opposite direction even if it take you out of the way to where you are going. If you are jogging-do it with a pal or in a very safe area where you are not alone. Beware of big city parks where criminals can hide and jump at you. if you are a tourist- Never walk around very late at night in a big city by yourself-take a taxi. Avoid bad neighborhoods.
* Avoid Public rest stops. A better choice is a drive-in or large drug store. When traveling try to empty your bladder in safe places.
* If on a city bus-beware that you can be robbed on it. Be Careful if it is empty or a double decker-sit behind the bus driver if possible. If a person gets on bus and your instinct screams 'danger' just get off and catch another one. Do not let them get off the bus behind you though.
* If a stranger on the street offers to sell you anything, be very careful. Do not trust or believe anything they have to say. They want you to part with your money for something. Just say a polite "no thank you".
* If someone blocks you in your car with their car, do not open the doors for any reason. Stay calm and use your cell phone to call police. If a criminal blocks or pins you on the sidewalk, be calm, assertive and aggressive. Make lots of noise by saying "Please move now!" in a very loud strong voice. If they don't move, call to a stranger by his or her hair and shirt color, asking them to call for help at once. If no one is on the street, than pretend there is and call out to the stranger who will help you. If they have you in a headlock, tuck your chin in and try to trip them then run.
* Stop if you are in a mall, any retail store, sports arena or restaurant and feel your eyes and throat burning. Get out at once. Do not worry about the bill or if you are trying on clothes. Whatever it is that you were doing, forget about it and get outside. Sometimes criminals put poison gas/tear gas in air vents. Use your clothes to block your nose as you get out.
* If you are in a store or other public building and someone comes in with a gun, get down at once. If they start firing, than force yourself to lay still or pretend to be dead. Do what the criminal wants but make yourself a'undesirable' victim. If they force you to stand up than pretend to throw up or pretend to have a heart or breathing attack. Pee on yourself. Tell them you need your medications. Do not use your cell phone.
* If you witness a purse snatching on a elderly person, don't chase after the mugger. Call for an ambulance instead for the elderly person. They could have a heart attack or injuries from being pushed. If the elderly person is bleeding from the head-do not move them! Call for help asap. Stay with the elderly person until help arrives.
* If you are elderly and a strange man with a big smile comes towards you in the public to help you, Say "STOP". Then "I do not need your help." Do not go with him. Better safe than sorry. If it is cold outside and the person is sweaty or agitated, they could be on drugs or suffering from nervious energy. Take extreme caution and move away from them.
* If you see a group of 5 to 10 youths who are looking for trouble-do whatever it takes to move away from them. There are gangs of kids who will mug, beat or sometimes 'taser' their victims in broad daylight.
* Don't sit in your car after you shop or have returned from an restaurant. You can talk on the phone or make your to do list at home. A predator could be watching. Immediately start your car, lock the doors and drive away. If there is a person with a gun to your head in the back seat or they get in the passenger side, start the car if they ask you to do so. No matter where you are, gun the car as fast as you can and ram the car front into something like a wall or a tree. Just hit something. The airbag may deploy. Get out of car as soon as you can. It is better to be in a car accident than to drive with an armed predator. If you and a predator, who has a gun on you, are walking but you are not in his control, run away as fast as you can in a zig zag pattern. The chances of you being killed if he shoots at you are slimmer than being in his control.
* Don't use the stairs, use the elevator, especially at night.
* Always walk with a friend if you can. A buddy around sometimes could mean life or death in a mugging or fight.

Be Confident and Safe when Going Out Alone

2009-03-05T03:05:00.000-08:00

Going out by yourself can seem intimidating even frightening. There are definitely dangers to be aware of but you can go to places on your own. You can overcome your anxiety about such things and learn to differentiate between real danger and irrational fear or paranoia. This article assumes you are a woman but if you're a man, there's plenty of useful information in here for you too.
follow this steps
1. Think about where you are going. What section of town is it? Will there be others there whom you know (friends, acquaintances)? If your destination is in a better section of town - i.e., one that is well-lit, not known to be run down or rife with crime - then you're in much better shape, going alone. If it's in a not-so-good section of town, think again. Overcoming your fears and anxieties is one thing but taking foolish and unnecessary risks is another. There are some places, it's just better to go with others.There really is safety in numbers.
2. Dress to impress, not to seduce. If you're going out with pals, you can wear more risque or daring outfits than if going alone - it's just a fact that with others to watch your back, you don't need to worry as much. So instead of dressing in that very low cut, slinky black sheath, wear something more demure. Choose a fabulous cashmere sweater or business attire dressed up with a great scarf or elegant necklace. Calling the wrong sort of attention to yourself when you're on your own is not smart. Be more modest and less sexy.
3. Make sure your car is in good order. Sounds silly? Not if you have a leaky tire valve. The last thing you need is to come out at 2AM and find you have a flat. If you're hanging out alone, have a AAA or other roadside emergency service card with you as well as a charged cell phone. Fill your car up with gas before you leave. Just checking to make sure everything is cool before you get going is a great step to give you peace of mind before you head out.
4. Tell someone where you are going and how long you plan to stay. You are not "putting yourself on a leash" or "cramping your own style." You're being smart by letting a family member or friend know where - and when - to start looking for you, worrying, etc. One good way to go about it is to tell your (for example) mom that you are "going to a party at Steve's house in Agoura this Saturday." You don't need to provide a GPS tracker, but it's smart to leave a MapQuest or Google map of your planned route. Tell your mom you will call when you're on your way home. Call Steve and tell him you're on your way as you are leaving the house. This way, if you don't arrive at the party, hopefully Steve will remember that you called to tell him you were coming, and will call your mom. Now, both parties realize that you left and never arrived at your destination - it gives them a faster start on finding you. If you left a map of your route, Mom can alert the authorities to search along that route - your problem may be as simple as a flat tire or as serious as a crash, with you and your car in a ditch, and a dead cell phone battery - telling someone where you planned to be will help them find you much quicker. Conversely, if you call Mom and tell her that you are in your car and leaving the party at 10pm, she will know that if you have not arrived by midnight, she should begin to worry. Cell phones have taken a lot of these worries away, because it's a simple matter to call most of the time. But consider this: If your cell phone dies, or if you leave it at the party, or it is stolen, lost, or otherwise does not work, you have left word with people who will definitely become concerned after only an hour or two if you don't show up - it won't be half the night before someone even realizes you never showed up where you were supposed to. Knowing you have taken these simple precautions can boost your confidence significantly.
5. Be alert and aware of your surroundings. Before you get out of your car, think about where you have parked. Is it well-lit, easy to see from the street? This is the best place to park if alone. Avoid parking in dark alleys or very far away from the door of your destination. Remember where you parked - very important. Mentally map your path to the door of the place you're going, take note of anyone on the street, and gather your things quickly. Upon leaving your car, check carefully that it is locked and you have left nothing enticing (like a laptop bag or an iPod) in plain view. Walk purposefully - do not meander - directly to the door and enter immediately. Lingering on the street is not a good idea, it allows potential attackers to see that you are alone. Keep anyone you noticed out on the street in your mind, and in the corner of your eye, if possible. Being aware of the people around you is key to your safety. Do not talk on your cell phone, it will distract you.
6. Get inside quickly, and once inside, relax and enjoy yourself responsibly. Remember there is no designated driver, you're it. Don't get drunk! If you do get drunk, don't plan on going home without calling a taxi or relative to collect you.
7. Avoid sharing too much information with any stranger. Don't be naive and trust someone you do not know. The people you meet may be very nice people or they may be not very nice.It's impossible to make an accurate judgment in just one meeting. Do not mention you came alone. Say you are waiting for friends to arrive or someone is picking you up soon. If you meet someone you think is nice so far, make plans to meet in a coffee shop, at a restaurant, or at an amusement park, rather than giving out your home address or place of work. Giving out your cell phone number is okay if you want to. The main idea is that you take time to really know this person and get a feel for the real guy or girl, not just that first impression.
8. Remember that good people are like sunny days - there are LOTS of them. Just because you're being careful doesn't mean you need to be afraid that everyone is out there thinking about how to get over on you. Be prepared - not paranoid. Remembering that there are more sunny days than days when lightning strikes is useful. Lightning is dangerous, maybe deadly - but rare.
9. Relax and be yourself. You won't have a good time if you don't relax. Once you've reached your destination, settle in and resolve to have a good time, no matter what. Most large gatherings turn out to be groups of small gatherings - people tend to group together in smaller clusters, even if there are loads of people in one place. Hang back a bit and "lurk", listening for the kinds of people you would like to know as you overhear their conversations. Try not to be obvious - just hang there, looking like you are interested in someone outside that group (so that they don't get that you're listening in.) Once you're sure you'd like to meet these people, wait for an opportunity - one of them says something like, "I LOVED _______ movie." (Assuming it's one you also loved) Quickly turn and say, "I hope you'll excuse me, but I couldn't help overhearing - I loved that movie, too - wasn't it great? I love (actor/actress/director) - I'll see anything s/he is involved in." This is a little feeler, a way of seeing if you will be welcomed or rebuffed.
10. Feel welcomed. The response you get from your little "barometer reading" (a way to sort of test the weather in the group - are they warm and welcoming, or cold and aloof?) will tell you everything you need to know: If the response is, "Yeah, wasn't that great? I loved every minute of it..." or something to that effect, you're in. You can now just pick up and chat about that, and hopefully, stick with them for a little while, making conversation as it flows naturally. Be sure you get an email address or a MySpace address so that you can stay in touch. If you do this, you can wait a day or two, then send an email or a MySpace message saying, "It was great to meet you the other night - maybe we can go to a movie sometime!" Keep it short and leave it at that - don't stalk them. On the other hand, if you are not welcomed ...
11. Feel unwelcome. Some cliques are pretty tight and hard to penetrate. That's okay, don't take it personally. If you try to interject and get in on the fun they're having, but they give you a bad look or say, "Uhhh... yeah." and then let it drop like a bomb, just shrug it off and move on - they may look like fun, but if they're not nice people, they're not what you wanted anyhow. Blow it off and try again somewhere else.
12. Brush up on your conversation skills. And while we're at it, it doesn't hurt to have interesting things to talk about - if you don't know about anything, can't talk knowledgeably about a variety of subjects, it makes you pretty dull. There's not a lot to say if you don't know anything about current events (news, politics), pop culture (movies, TV, books), or other interesting subjects. Inform yourself about things going on in the world, and find ways to discuss them without seeming like a boring know-it-all. It's a fine line - nothing to say = dull, no personality. Too much to say = obnoxious, overbearing conversation hog. Remember that conversation is an art - you say something, then let them say something.
13. Leave knowing you made a new friend or acquaintance. It's a good feeling to leave having had a fun conversation with someone new, or with someone's phone number in your pocket. But if you don't, never fear - you can always try again! The more times you go out and try, the better you will be at fending for yourself in these social situations, and as your skills grow, so will your contact list. Give it time.
14. Preparing to leave, take a close read of the street and then go straight to your car, then home. Alone. If the guard or bouncer, or a group of other women you have met, offer to walk you to your car, take them up on it. At the very least, let someone know that you're going home now, and ask them to watch you till you get in your car. Take a look around - know who is on the street with you, and if you see an alley between you and your car, walk in the middle of the street if necessary to give yourself plenty of room to move if you need to. Walk purposefully and confidently to your car, and when you get there, have your keys ready and unlock the car as you are taking your last steps toward it. Get in, and lock the doors immediately, buckle up, start your car and drive away. Don't sit in your car fixing your makeup or fiddling with your iPod - get going.
15. Congratulate yourself - you did it! Being aware of your surroundings and acting confident will help you feel confident. You've just realized you can go places on your own and survive - you can meet new friends, and have great times without waiting to tag along with others. It's a great feeling!

some tips for you
* People who have the intent to rob or assault others often look for easy targets - nervous types, retiring types, or people just wandering and not really paying attention to their surroundings. Standing tall and walking with purpose, being obviously aware of who and what are on the street with you makes you look confident - not an easy target.
* Many assaults, carjackings, robberies, and homicidal attacks are carried out on women sitting in their cars fumbling with money, makeup, or their radios. Often, the doors are unlocked and the attacker just slides right in. Don't make yourself this kind of target. Instead, have your stuff together, get locked in, buckled up and on your way. You can fiddle with your iPod at the next red light.
* Attract the right kind of attention - not the wrong kind. Dressing in sexy, provocative attire, or wearing a lots of jewelry may be cool once inside, but before you get to your destination, it's not going to attract the kind of attention you want. Cover it up, girl! Once you're in, you can let it out, but remember to cover it again before leaving!
* Be smart - don't insist on going if there's an obvious problem. If your car is hard to start or makes you feel nervous, if you aren't feeling all that well, or if your mind is very focused on a problem, don't go. You want to have a good time, not put yourself in a dangerous situation. If there is an obvious trouble sign, stay home with a book. Go out once the problem has been addressed instead.
Remember!!
* Don't count money or check ID's on the street - that's an invitation to rob you. Stay alert and don't distract yourself while out on the street.
* Don't space out when you're alone. Remember there is no one to depend upon but yourself. Stay alert and keep your wits about you at all times.

Yogyakarta, Jogja, Jogjakarta or Yogya?

2009-03-04T03:16:00.000-08:00

Well, this is my post to remember my sweet memories in this city especialy when i'm live in tempel sleman yogyakarta,hope someday i can visiting this city again.

So..Please enjoy this article

There are different names for Yogyakarta. Senior citizens call it Ngayogyakarta; people from East Java and Central Java name it Yogya or Yoja. Yogya is called Jogja in the slogan of Jogja Never Ending Asia. Recently, there is another name: Djokdja. All of the names refer to the same city. How could those various names for one city appear?

There are at least 3 development periods to be explained. The name Ngayogyakarta existed in 1755 when Mangkubumi Prince whose title was Sri Sultan Hamengku Buwono I founded the Kingdom of Ngayogyakarta Hadiningrat. The kingdom that was built on the Bering Forest area was a realization of Giyanti Agreement done with Pakubuwono III from Surakarta.

It is unclear when the name Yogyakarta first existed, whether it is a contraction of the name Ngayogyakarto or because of other reasons. However, the name of Yogyakarta has been used formally since the independence of Indonesia. When it became the capital of Indonesia in 1949, this student city had been called Yogyakarta. Sri Sultan Hamengku Buwono IX also used the name of Yogyakarta when he announced that this kingdom is part of Indonesian Republic.

Some other names such as Yogja, Jogja, Jogya and Yogya came afterwards. The variations may exist from different pronunciation of people from different parts of Indonesia. Interestingly, people will refer to the same area when they hear those different names.

For business purpose, the name of Jogja becomes more popular and it is used in the slogan Jogja Never Ending Asia. The slogan is intended to build the image of Yogyakarta as a tourism city having great natural and culture enchantments. The reason to choose the name 'Jogja' is that the pronunciation of the word is relatively easy for most people, including foreigners. Some institutions once replaced Yogyakarta with Jogjakarta.

YogYES.COM uses the name Djokdja in Tour de Djokdja rubric. This name was used during the Dutch colonial time. The proof was the presence of a hotel named Grand Hotel de Djokdja at the north end of Malioboro Street by that time. Now, the hotel is still in operation but the name changes to Inna Garuda. The name of 'Djokdja' is chosen to give an impression of an old city and to invite the readers to fill with nostalgia.

With various spellings and pronunciations, Yogyakarta is the only city with many variations of name. Jakarta only has one variation: Jayakarta, while Bali does not have any other name. Other tourism cities in the world such as Bangkok, Singapore, Cartagena, or Venice do not seem to have variations; neither metropolitan cities such as New York, Los Angeles, and London.

Now, you do not have to be confused when you find someone writing the name of Yogyakarta city as the way he spells it. When you browse in the Internet to find out more about this city, you would better use the name Yogyakarta as it is the most commonly used in writing. The second commonly used name is Jogja.

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2009-03-03T04:38:00.001-08:00

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Exercise an Open Mind

2009-03-01T03:01:00.000-08:00

Simply put, doing unique, random, different, and ridiculous things is a good way to exercise the mind and promote new ways of thinking about the world around us. One hour of increased brain activity via thinking a lot or experiencing new stimuli can make you smarter, more energetic, more creative, more sociable, and more open to new experiences and ways of thinking. Here are some of the endless numbers of activities that can stimulate your brain. The key ingredients are to be open to new experiences, and changes in previous ways of thinking about these experiences.
This is the steps

1. Use your imagination to create Stimulate your ears differently. Try different music you haven't tried before: Classical, New Age, Zouk, Rap, Mariachi, Country, Afro-Blues. You don't have to like it at first, but if you keep an open mind, you can still find it interesting. Listen to a radio station you typically don't listen to.
2. Stimulate your eyes in new ways. Go to a cheap or free art gallery. Even if you think it's bad art, it can still be stimulating and thought provoking.
3. Learn about different people and lifestyles. A great gateway into this is Wikipedia, where you can read articles on a wide variety of practices, such as Swinging, Wicca, Christianity, the Green Party, Conservatism, Communism, Anarchism, Sunnis, Discordianism, Tutsis, and the Yakuza. Consider how many members they have worldwide. Volunteer with an organization that works with a community of people you are unfamiliar with.
4. While waiting (in line at the bank, a coffee shop, a restaurant, the grocery store, or waiting for someone to pick you up, or a show on TV to start), ponder things, calculate, memorize. You can, for example, memorize digits of Pi (you can get to 50 in a matter of hours, 200 in a matter of weeks), try to remember all of your high school teachers' names, memorize Prime Numbers, get fast at reciting the alphabet backwards, the Greek alphabet (forwards and backwards), remember how many movies Tom Cruise has been in, try Doubling numbers, start at 1, to 2, to 4, to 8, till you get to larger numbers than you can handle.
5. Take unusual classes. Find a community college or community-based educational program near you, pick up a catalog, and open your mind to learning things like Art History, Underwater Basketweaving, First Aid training, or Business Ethics. Your local university likely offers easy survey courses with no prerequisites, such as Meteorology, Nutrition, Japanese Pop Culture, etc. How awesome would it be to know basic Meteorology? You could even find unexpected topics such as Vampires and Werewolves. Learn different languages (Esperanto, Japanese, French, Arabic, Italian, Navajo, etc.) especially those with roots very different from your own.
6. Join clubs based on things you have no knowledge of, such as a Scrabble Club, an Investment Club, etc.
7. Watch movies in genres that you normally don't partake in, such as Cyberpunk, scary, Anime, documentaries, stand up comedy (Eddie Izzard,etc. Mitch Hedberg). IMDb is a great site to look for movies that other people enjoy. They break them down by genre as well. Remember to be open-minded about things you don't know about.
8. Learn how to write backwards. Leonardo DaVinci, the quintessential Renaissance man and a jack-of-all-trades, wrote all of his notes backwards so that they could only be read with a mirror. Or try writing upside down. None of these is as hard as it might seem; you'll soon get the hang of it.
9. Read back-wards or upside down as well!
10. Watch shows that you don't watch or that you often discriminate against, even though you have never watched them. Do you hate the O.C.? Even if you still dislike it or find it comical, try it once or twice. Try a soap opera: It's fun! Try new genres, like science fiction or fantasy. Watch the Spanish channels; watch the religious channels; watch the Discovery channel; watch the Travel channel; or if you do watch all those channels, try not watching television at all for a week ... Thus, you will have the time to try everything else posted in this page!
11. Build ridiculous things like radios, legos, robots, trebuchets.
12. Walk backwards through your whole house. (But be extra careful not to trip over anything, or fall down the stairs)
13. Try foods you have never tried. Have you tried sushi? Have you tried Vietnamese? Mediterranean? Indian? Native-American? Cajun? Have you ever tasted a Boba? A shot of Wheatgrass? Have you smoked a hookah? Have you eaten durian or the Filipino delicacy, balut? Think it's unhealthy? Do you know it's unhealthy? Look it up.
14. Push the limits of your body. By using your body in new ways, you can learn more about yourself, and expand your mind. Learn to do a handstand. A backflip. A kip-up. Take martial arts classes. Try some Hip-Hop classes or learn a break dance move. Can you touch your toes? Work on it. Try skiing, snowboarding, jet skiing, Hang gliding, parasailing, surfing, and anything else that pushes the limits of your comfort zone!
15. Attend churches, synagogues, mosques, temples, trade union meetings, places of worship and meditation that you never have. Read about and learn how to recognize cults or cult-like behavior and avoid them!
16. Learn How to Spin a Pencil Around Your Thumb, solve a Rubik's Cube, or try Cup Stacking. Don't know what these are? Look them up. Learn!
17. Face your fears! Are you computer-illiterate? Putz around on a computer for a while. Don't be scared. You won't break anything. Learn a programming language. Nothing is as hard as anyone makes it out to be. Build your own computer. Think it's hard? You'll never know until you actually do it. It's somewhat ridiculous how many HowTo's there are on building a computer.
18. Learn to juggle. A great workout for your brain, eyes and reflexes. Are three balls too easy? Try four, or better yet, five. If you get extremely good, try 10! 20! 50! Think it's impossible? Keep an open mind. Just Try Try Try! Contact Juggling for a different challenge.
19. Open your mind to other political or religious points of view. You may find it hard to stomach at first, but in time you might find a grain of truth in what your nemesis has to say. Even if you don't, you'll be able to argue with one of "them" much more intelligently. Here's a hard but effective method: take a controversial issue that you have a strong opinion about. Write an essay defending your opinion with as much evidence and actual citations as possible. Then write another essay defending the other side, again with evidence and citations, considering that side's arguments seriously and being scrupulously honest and putting in as much effort as you did the first essay.
20. Try blocking out one of your senses. Do everyday things, like cleaning up your room or using your cell phone, with a blindfold. It puts things in perspective when you are forced to "create" new ways of doing things you've already figured how to do. You could also try using a different part of your body to do things, like write with your teeth or type with your toes.
21. Play strategy games like Bridge, Checkers, Chess, Shogi and Go! It's the poetry of the mind!
22. Travel - becoming an outsider really exposes a mind to new things. You can even do this travel inside your country or state! How well do you know your own city? Have you tried using only a bike, or only using your own two feet and public transportation? (Ever considered what it's like if that was the only means to get around, say if you were physically unable to drive around? Being a pedestrian once in a while will make you a better driver.) Go off the beaten path!
23. Learn to read and write any language that you don't know. Here are a few ideas: Portuguese, Spanish, German, Arabic, Aramaic, Mandarin, Maltese, Cantonese, Russian, Latin, Welsh and Dutch.
24. Learn to count in a different numeral base than the one you're used to (chances are you're using decimal), use binary (base 2), octal (base 8), duodecimal (base 12),hexadecimal (base 16), vigesimal (base 20 used in mayan numerals) or another numeral system when you start getting familiar with basic operations, try converting from one system to another. Next step is mixing different systems in a single operation. For added fun do the next advice and throw some of that in this (one day you might be able to multiply rot13 encoded hexadecimal by xor'ed vigesimal.
25. Learn classical cipher schemes and algorithms.
26. Give some thought to the mysteries of the world. Which came first: the chicken or the egg? Or think about places like the Bermuda Triangle: why do so many people disappear? Check out books and sites on these strange topics.
27. Search for something on Wikipedia, read the page then click on one of the links on the page you find interesting, read that page and carry on and on, eventually you'll have come across loads of new information and it gets you interested in loads of subjects.

some Tips

* Be thrifty. Yeah, building a trebuchet is a $200+ project, so go for the Legos instead, Build-a-Lego-Trebuchet. If the university is $400 per credit, try a smaller college or community-based program where less money is charged for a similar experience.
* Remember that "the perfect student is one who always stumbles but never falls." Don't give up! The Rubik's Cube probably looks somewhat impossible until you've solved the white cross. Go for it.
* Every decision you make in life is based on your belief system. To open your mind, start to list your fundamental beliefs, and for each one ask yourself why you believe it. Then ask yourself whether you could imagine being you if you didn't exactly believe it any more, but believed something marginally different. Then marginally different from that. Pick a belief a week and work at it. Ask some really good friends what they believe and how they acquired their beliefs. Understand this - your belief system is absolutely unique to you. Your friend's belief system is unique to them. An open mind is comfortable with differences, and also a variety of lenses to view an issue.
* Try to become more like an inquisitive child. Try to see everything as if it's the first time, and try to think about it in new ways. Think you know what a brick is? Really? What are they made of, exactly? How heavy is the average brick? How many different types of laying a brick wall are there? Is it possible to lay a cheese brick wall, using cheddar for bricks, and cream cheese for mortar?!

Time to Lose Weight in a Comfortable Way

2009-02-27T14:27:00.001-08:00

Many people have tried to lose weight using impossible workouts and even more impossible diets. But if you are trying to increase your health, become more fit and look thinner try these simple tips and steps!

Try this steps
1. Start out by looking at your current diet. Write down everything you eat in one week. You also may want to write down some little things like why you were eating a certain thing (like you were sad or it was at a party). DO NOT CHEAT! This is for you and you only. Be sure to keep honest and accurate notes (even though it would be nice to say you had one piece of cake when you really had two!). Sometimes, looking at all the bad choices you make helps you make better choices because you can see that your eating is out of control. You may even start to notice changes over the course of this week.
2. After the week is over, examine your diet carefully. Look at the reasons why you ate what you did. Come up with some solutions, like if you were bored while watching t.v and you ate four bags of chips, keep a knitting basket by your t.v and everytime you sit down, have your hands busy. Also, get into a routine. Eat every 4 hours even if you're not hungry so that you won't pig out if you miss a meal. To help get into this habit, keep a pack of sugar-free gum with you, and stick a piece in your mouth when you're feeling hungry.
3. Now for exercise. This is again getting yourself into healthy routines. When you wake up in the morning, do 10 sit-ups (and as you get stronger, increase that amount). This will also help wake you up!
4. When you come home from work or school, or just in the afternoon, run for 30 minutes. You can do this twice a week, and gradually increase the amount of time you run for and the amount of times a week you run. Eventualy, you should be running everyday for a good 45 minutes. Some running tips are to stretch before and after a run, start a run and end a run by walking for 10 minutes before and after, drink tons of water, and listen to music like an I-pod or CD player while you run. Listening to music will distract you from how tired you really are! It's a great tip!
5. At night before bed, do 10 more sit-ups. Again, this number should increase over time!

Some tips for you
* Don't eat less than three hours before you go to bed. If you eat then go to bed the food you ate digests the same, but the calories from the food have nowhere to go.
* Don't eat when you're not hungry. There is no point to eat when you're not hungry. Many people are overweight because they eat when they're not hungry.
* Drink a lot of water, usually 8 glasses a day. The truth is that water flushes out all the toxins & fat from your body, so drink up.
* Keep busy and active. The more hobbies you have, the less time you'll have to lay around and munch.
* Try a sport, like swimming. You can have fun, and become healthy.
* Make a schedule. If you keep yourself in routines you will do more activites like running to lose weight, and you also won't have time to stray from this schedule and munch when you're not really hungry!
* Try using mouthwash every two hours. You'll be a lot less tempted to eat when everything tastes like mint.

Remember!!!
* Do not ever try to starve yourself! You will not be healthy, and you may even may end up gaining weight, because you overeat when you try to get yourself back to a healthy weight.
* (more of a reminder) I know a lot of stuff to get obesity off your mind-
* try consulting music players, sports, pets, etc. to get your mind off it
* Do not use a lot of mouthwash, it can cause mouth cancer!

All the things You'll Need
* notebook & pen
* sugar-free gum (optional)
* walking shoes (optional)
* music player (optional)
* A friend
* New clothes for your new body

do this if u want to lose height

2009-02-26T14:29:00.000-08:00

You have to exercise and eat healthier, otherwise you may not notice any improvement and—even worse—you may gain weight.
If you need to lose more than 10% of your body weight, consult with your primary-care physician before beginning any weight loss plan.
Try to limit water consumption to 10 glasses per day. People can drink far more water than necessary while exercising, however, putting them at risk of water intoxication. (Water intoxication is incredibly rare, and easy to avoid by making sure to consume electrolytes along with the large amounts of water)
Limit the following:

Soda: the average soda is full of calories, sugar, and other chemicals.
Too much bread/butter: A slice of bread with butter has around 170 calories (100 calories per medium sliced slice of bread and 70 calories per 10g of butter).
Large portions: You’ll end up eating much less and save a lot of money as a bonus!
Dressing: Salad dressing is the main source of calories and other things to avoid in salad, try vinegar or hummus as a low-cal dressing

Let's Eat and Lose Weight!!!

2009-02-26T14:26:00.000-08:00

Did you know that you can eat a lot and still lose weight? It sounds too good to be true, right? Here are some ways to make it happen.
Following this steps

1. Eat more! Don't be fooled because the article is referring to more of healthy, low-fat foods rather than junk food. Junk food can range from burgers to those cookies that you always bought! Adding a lot of vegetables and fruits to your diet will help you. Also, drinking bouillon, a Haitian soup, made with filtered water will help you feel full.
2. Exercise every day! This could be the most difficult step to follow. But what you can do is actually start slowly then steady increase the amount of exercise. For example, today you will walk for 10 minutes, repeat this for the whole week. For the next week, double your workload. You may get leaner that way! The important thing is to get your heart rate up and start, now!
3. Feed your temptations once in a while. Go ahead and have that donut or slice of pizza, but before you do, drink a few glasses of water and eat a bowl of raw veggies such as cucumbers, celery, carrots, and tomatoes. They will fill you up and you will have very little room to eat the "junk" food.
4. Consume things that have no calories. There are two things you eat and drink that contain no calories: water and fiber. The more of these you get into your diet, the better off you will be. For example, you can eat a pound of mixed salad greens with assorted raw vegetables (carrots, red cabbage, celery, broccoli, onion, etc.) with a low or no-calorie salad dressing and only have eaten 100-150 calories. This is because of the high water and fiber content of the salad and low calorie dressing. Also, eat lots of celery. It has only 8 calories, but amazingly, it takes more than 8 calories to digest it. So, you actually BURN calories by eating celery! It's not much, about 2 calories per 8 inch stalk, but it sure doesn't hurt.
* Avoid sodas as much as possible. Instead, drink flavored water or unsweetened iced tea.
5. Take broth-based soups. They are a relatively low in calories. A commerically-available ready to eat "chicken and stars" soup may only have 80 calories for 1 serving, much less than diet "meal shakes" or nutrition bars.
6. Practice good eating habits. Always use utensils and sit at the table. This stops you from eating precariously. Eating with your hands will mean that you take in more food in one scoop. Don't forget to eat slowly and stop when you're full. Similar to the above step, if you can't stop, drink up! Maybe your body is thirsty and hungry no more! Also, you can do any other chores (other than eating). For instance, go shopping, or play badminton with your friend, or play games on the computer!
7. Spread out your diet! Eat more small chunks of meals, rather than 3 big meals. If you eat 100-150 calories or so every two hours, your body stays in a higher-metabolism digesting mode. This allows you to burn more calories than eating just 3 meals a day.[1]

some tips for you
* Avoid calorie dense, unhealthy food. Unhealthy food is food which contains calories, but little nutritional value. These calories are called "empty calories." You will probably be best served if you also avoid foods that would contain empty calories if they were not fortified with vitamin C (like some gummy bears) or calcium (like some cookies). Fortification with vitamins doesn't always make unhealthy food healthy.
* Try to do a little bit at a time until you get used to it.
* Get a friend to follow the diet with you. Sometimes, when following a diet by yourself, you'll break the rules because it's just you. But following it with a friend, you have a partner who will help keep you on track and responsible.
* Expect to cheat or binge once in a while. (A word of caution: if you're binging more than once or twice a month, consider a different approach to your weight loss goals.) Don't despair when you realize you've strayed from your goals. It took you a lifetime to achieve your current weight, and it will take time to achieve your new weight and size goal.
* Grab a small snack before heading to restaurants. This will curb off your hunger and keep your head clear while you make healthy choices.
* Opt for chicken or fish instead of red meat, and baked potato or rice instead of fries. Choose foods that are steamed, grilled, broiled or baked instead of fried. Avoid dishes that are labeled as "breaded", "crispy" or "battered" – those are the code words for "fried".
* Ask for dressings and sauces on the side. Even a green salad can pack as many calories as a burger if it’s swimming in a fatty dressing.
* Pack away extra food. At the beginning of the meal, ask for a doggie bag, and put what you aren't going to eat in the bag.
* If the restaurant is known for especially large portion sizes, you can share a portion with a friend.
* Add good fats to your diet. Monounsaturated fats have been clinically proven to help you burn fat, especially in your midsection. So, add foods like avocadoes, kalamata olives, walnuts, and flaxseed to your diet, and watch the weight fall right off you.

The way to Lose Weight Fast

2009-02-25T14:25:00.000-08:00

Want to slim down fast for that beach vacation or high school reunion? While there are many things you can do to shed pounds, losing weight too quickly, like any sudden change to your body, can be dangerous. While fad diets, diet pills, and fasting may indeed induce rapid weight loss, these methods can cause you to lose muscle and may also injure your heart and other organs fairly quickly. The best solution? Don't go for an overnight miracle. Instead, follow these steps to lose fat rapidly, healthily, and sustainably.

folowing this steps

1. Determine your daily calorie intake . Losing weight is simply a matter of expending more calories than you take in, through exercise and your daily activities. To win the battle, it helps to know how many calories you are consuming in a day.
* Write down all the things you eat on a typical day. Carry a small notebook with you and write down every snack, every drink, and the contents of every meal. There are also great websites that you can use to keep track of calories, get recipes, and help achieve your goal. Don't forget to include the pats of butter or the spoonful of sugar in your coffee. It's best to do this for at least a couple weekdays and a weekend; it's even better if you can go a full week. There are also calorie tracking websites that can help you to do this, for example the US government website, My Pyramid Tracker.
* Do an itemized calorie count. When possible, write down the number of calories in each thing you eat as you eat it. Keep in mind that the recommended serving size is often considerably smaller than the serving you actually eat. Look up the calorie count on the internet for foods that don't have calories listed on the container or for fast food meals. You don't have to be 100% accurate, but you do want a good estimate of the number of calories you're taking in. There is an idea that multiplying your own weight by ten will produce a rough estimate of the number of calories you need to eat per day to maintain your weight. This is NOT true, you may wind up grossly under (or perhaps over) estimating the number of calories you should be eating. Use a scientific or health website to determine the number of calories you should eat a day or consult your doctor. Everyone has different metabolisms and there is no blanket rule that covers everyone's recommended calorie intake. Reducing 500 calories per day from the calories you eat to maintain your weight can help you lose a pound of fat per week.[2]
2. Go over the list and decide which foods to cut out or reduce. Cutting calories is usually a lot easier than you might think. For example, that daily tall latte in the morning may pack 500 calories. Since a pound of flab (lost or gained) is roughly equivalent to 3,500 calories, replacing that rich beverage with black coffee can help you lose a pound a week. Other easy cuts include salad dressing (salad dressing is the number one source of fat in the average American woman's diet) soda pop, candy, and butter. Look at the nutritional information for the foods you eat, pay special attention to your intake of saturated fats and empty calories (high-sugar foods). You don't need to cut these things out entirely, but if you reduce your intake of high-fat, high-calorie foods you'll lose weight faster.
3. Seek out alternatives to the unhealthy foods you've identified. You can simply reduce the amount of soda you drink or mayonnaise you put on your sandwiches, or you can substitute healthier choices. Drink water instead of soda, for example, or use mustard instead of mayo. Low-fat and low-calorie options are also available for most foods, and many of these are natural, (although some are made with strange chemicals), and tasty. Start trying to eat healthy in most meals:
* Choose lean meats. Chicken and fish are both very low in fat (and certain fish like salmon, sardines, and fresh tuna are an excellent source of antioxidants, which are also beneficial to your health), so aim to replace some or all of the beef or pork in your diet with these foods.
* Replace high-calorie side dishes with healthier alternatives. Many people get a ton of calories from side dishes such as macaroni and cheese, French fries, or potato salad. You can eat healthier and lose weight by replacing these with fresh vegetables and salads. Pre-made salads are practically effortless, and when accompanied by a reduced-calorie dressing or no dressing at all, they're weight-loss gold.
* Start your days off right. A fattening breakfast of bacon and eggs or a pastry can be replaced with yogurt, oatmeal, high-fiber, low-sugar cereals; or fresh fruit for fruit smoothies. However, for those on a low carb diet bacon and eggs are a great combo for breakfast, since neither have carbs. But don't fall into the trap of skipping breakfast. Eating a healthy breakfast increases your rest metabolic rate earlier in the day, and reduces snacking before lunch.
4. Plan your meals. Look for healthy, delicious meals online or in your cookbooks, and create a menu for the week. Make sure that your meal plan reduces your total calorie intake: you're not going to lose weight if you consume the same amount of calories by eating different foods. Make a list of what you'll need for these meals, and -- except for a few snacks, of course -- don't stray from your list when you get to the market. Planning your meals helps ensure you get a balanced diet and reduces the temptation to stop off for fast food or order a pizza. Remember, it's easier to stick to your shopping list if you shop when you aren't hungry.
5. Watch your portion sizes. Opening a bag of rice cakes and eating all of them in one sitting isn't going to help you lose weight. When eating chips, nuts, or dried fruit put a portion in a small bowl and then put the bag away. That way you won't mindlessly eat a larger portion than you had intended. Even if you only make minimal changes to your diet choices, reducing portion size will inevitably reduce caloric intake. A great way to watch portion sizes while snacking is to buy one serving 100 calorie packages - and they come in many favorite snack food items![3]
6. Graze on healthy snacks. Just because you're getting healthy doesn't mean you can't snack. In fact, eating small meals and snacks throughout the day, or grazing, has been shown to aid weight loss, (compared to eating three large meals a day), by keeping metabolism steadier. Pick snacks that are low in calories and fat and high in fiber (dried apricots, nuts, rice cakes, fruits, baby carrots, cherry tomatoes, and so on). Vegetables are generally very low in calories, very high in fiber, and full of flavor and nutrition. Avoid starchy vegetables like potatoes, and try to eat vegetables plain, without fatty dressings or dips. Fruit also makes a good snack. Fruit contains more soluble fiber than vegetables, which slows your body's absorption of carbohydrates, thus releasing energy more slowly, (preventing sugar highs), and keeping you feeling full longer. Fruit juices are not a replacement for the real thing. You need that fiber, and juices often have more calories than the equivalent serving of fruit -- as many calories as soda! Be careful with dried fruits, because without the water, you tend to eat more, and fruits, when dried, are calorie-rich per ounce. With any dry or dried food, be sure to drink plenty of water.
7. Get more fiber. There are many myths about fiber, but there is science to back up its helpful role in the diet. Fiber keeps the right amount of water in your intestines, making your digestive system work more efficiently and helping to keep you regular. Thus, just eating enough fiber may help you feel slimmer in just a day or so. There is also evidence that fiber in the diet can help prevent stroke and heart disease, ease the effects of diabetes, and may even directly help in weight loss.
8. Drink plenty of water. Adequate water is essential for health, and a great many people simply don't get enough. What's more, if you're chronically dehydrated, your body will retain water in unflattering places, so if you make sure to get plenty of fluids you can start visibly trimming down in as little as a day. Remember, the more you exercise, the more water you'll need. See the related wikiHow for more details on how much water you should be getting.
9. Exercise. Remember, you can lose weight either by decreasing your calorie intake or increasing the number of calories you burn. Any health strategy should include both, but if you want to lose weight fast, exercise is essential.
10. Perform high-level aerobic activities. Moderate aerobic workouts incorporating jogging, brisk walking, cycling, aerobic machines, or classes not only burn calories -- they also keep your heart healthy. Swimming is also great, especially if you are quite overweight or have joint problems, because you can get the same benefits of running -- typically burning even more calories -- with much less stress on your joints. Try to get at least 30-40 minutes of aerobic exercise at least three or four days per week.
11. Pump some iron. Resistance training, (weight training), can help both sexes stay lean by building muscle and raising metabolism. The fact is, hours and hours of aerobic exercise won't help most people lose weight fast because your metabolism drops back to normal fairly quickly after stopping the exercise. If you gain muscle, however, your body's resting metabolism, (the amount of calories you burn when you're just sitting still), increases, because muscle requires a lot of calories to maintain. Studies have shown consistent weight training to raise the body's metabolism by 15%. This means an average woman might burn 200-300 more calories at rest every day! Resistance training is the gift that keeps on giving! Although, keep in mind that muscle mass weighs more than fat (don't be surprised if you gain weight but look slimmer).
12. Rest properly. This means not only taking at least 24-48 hours between strength training the same muscles, (and taking 1-2 days off from exercising each week); it also means getting enough sleep at night, since sleep deficiency impairs your ability to lose fat.
13. Be realistic. Don't expect a miracle. Healthy weight loss can be achieved fairly quickly, but you'll need to be patient. In addition, be sure to set realistic goals. Make sure that the weight you're trying to reach is a healthy weight for you, and keeping in mind that gaining pounds of muscle will help you lose fat, be trimmer, and look better even though you don't actually lose any weight. Your goal should be a healthy body, not a number of pounds! Everyone looks good at a different weight. A short person may look really good at about 112 pounds, but a person of a taller height would just look unhealthy. Keep yourself at a weight that makes you look good, not at a number that sounds good.
14. Make adjustments. A successful weight loss strategy based on reducing calorie intake and increasing activity can be adjusted to maintain your desired weight once you reach it. Unlike typical diets, this method is sustainable -- it is a lifestyle change, not a binge-and-purge exercise. Slowly adjust your diet and exercise to include more weight training and calories, as much as is comfortable for you. If you do gain any weight back, you want that weight to be lean, toned muscle, not fat. In addition, weight training, no matter what your age, prevents muscle atrophy and can help stave off osteoporosis.
* Instead of thinking of it as losing a certain amount of pounds, think of it as being a certain weight. So if you are 145 pounds, and you would like to lose 10 pounds, think of it as being 135 pounds. This helps you think about it as a long-term goal and not just losing the weight to gain it back again.
15. Be confident. You need to believe in yourself! If you want to diet, and you know that it will make you feel better, then you need confidence. Otherwise, the temptation to cheat on your diet will make it harder, and you will not feel better when you do lose weight. Avoid temptations like chocolate, ice cream, and cookies. They may taste good, but there are other foods that taste delicious, too, without being unhealthy. You need to always encourage yourself to achieve the goals that you have set. Learn to evaluate your efforts fairly and objectively. If you fail to achieve your target for the week, find out why is it so. Is it because you have missed a jogging session? Or you have been eating junk food for one of the days? After evaluating, look ahead to next week and try your best to stick to your plan.[4]
16. Be consistent and disciplined, and have self motivation. To lose weight effectively, you need to stick to your weight loss plan religiously so as to see results. When you have the thought of giving up, visualize how good you will look when you manage to slim down successfully. [4]

Make the Best Vacation of Your Life

2009-02-24T02:24:00.000-08:00

We all dream of taking a perfect vacation. Unfortunately, most vacations aren't like that for many reasons. Read the following steps to learn how to plan and enjoy the best vacation of your life.

This is the steps

1. Realize what you want. Do you want to explore? Relax? See a completely different place? There are many different places that you can go to. Some people don't feel comfortable when travelling to places that are too far and different. On the other hand, going somewhere that's too close might make you feel like you're taking stroll in the neighbourhood. If you take the Vacation Style quiz, you can get an idea of what your travelling style is so you can choose the right destination for you.
2. Plan. Once you choose your vacation spot, you can start with your planning. Don't book a hotel room or a flight too early, because there might be some last minute deals. Use the internet or get some travel brochures to see what the local attractions are, as well. Some places could be dangerous and unwelcoming; make sure to read reviews of places you want to go to and stay in. If you have the choice to choose who you want to go with, think carefully. It has to be someone you like and don't have many fights with. The person you travel with greatly affects your travelling experience. Try to think of things that might ruin the experience (i.e. addictions, different travelling style, etc.)
3. Book a flight and/or a hotel. This is important, because sometimes those two can ruin an entire vacation. If you've had a bad experience with a certain airline, don't make the same mistake again. As for the flight, don't let any of it get to you. If it's a really bad experience, you can just say that it's technically not a part of the vacation. Find a good hotel that isn't too expensive and is located near many attractions. The hotel might have some flaws, but if it isn't something unbearable, then let it slide.
4. Avoid stress. There are things that have to be taken care of - just like every other vacation. Don't get it wrong this time; finish things early. If you know that you're always late to the airport, then try to leave the house an hour or two earlier. Also, make sure you have your passport and visa with you if you're going to a different country. Don't leave things for the last minute and pack your suitcase early.
5. Research. Learn about the place, as there might be some important things that you don't know about. Use Wikipedia and search engines to learn about the local customs. Read about appropriate clothing, tipping, laws, weather, and more. Check the forecast to see what the weather will be like and if the area you will be in might have natural disasters or conflicts that might arise soon. If the place you're going to isn't anything like where you live, make sure to see pictures and videos of the place to avoid culture shock.
6. Pack. You don't need to bring your entire house with you. Pack things that you know you'll need. If you know you can't live without your mp3 player, than don't hesitate to take it. Packing isn't just about personal toiletries and clothes; it's important to bring things that you'll enjoy as well. Put the items that you use often in your backpack so you'll have easier access to them. Remember to bring extra batteries and all the equipment necessary to make them work throughout the vacation. If you're going on a plane, make sure that you don't put any sharp or dangerous items in your bag (i.e. scissors, swiss knife, toy gun, etc). Don't bring a really expensive or unique-looking suitcase, they have a higher chance of getting stolen or opened. Don't pack the things that you might wear. Bring the sort of clothes that you wear now, otherwise, you'll be stuck with a whole lot of clothes that you won't be able/want to wear.
7. Watch your belongings. These days, there are many things that we need to carry around. It could be cellphones, laptops, digital cameras, and much more. Never let those expensive belongings be out of your sight. Keep them locked in a safe or hidden in a good place. When you're on the street, tie your camera on your wrist so it won't get stolen or keep it in your backpack. Don't leave your luggage and/or backpack unattended, even if you're going for a second. If you're travelling with someone else (who you trust), tell them to watch it while you're gone.
8. Set realistic expectations. As much as want to have the perfect vacation, we know that the world usually won't cooperate with us. Don't let the small things irk you and ruin your mood, just accept that they happen and move on. Try to see yourself as you are now; don't try to change and become perfect. You need to accept yourself right now instead of imagining yourself as someone you currently aren't and/or will never be. You won't be automatically happy/attractive/perfect the second your vacation starts. If you know that you're not the sort of person that can get up early and walk all day long, then don't expect yourself to be.
9. Be spontaneous. It's important to plan, but it's just as important to try something new and unexpected. It could be something as big as deciding to bungee jump or something small like trying out some of the exotic cuisine. Either way, you'll have something interesting to do and tell your friends once you do it. Don't be afraid that you might ruin something or be off-schedule. Give yourself some time to do whatever you want and have fun doing it. Don't be afraid to do something you liked doing back at home, either. It will make you feel more comfortable and give you a sense of familiarity. If you find yourself disliking a place you go to, don't hesitate to leave. Try to go to all sorts of different places, not just tourist traps.
10. Cherish the moments. Sometimes we don't realize how happy and carefree we really were until we no longer feel it. Recognize those moments and appreciate them; don't let any of your desires or worries get in the way. Try not to reflect or think too much about how it's been so far or give the vacation a grade before it's really over. Don't give yourself too much time to think about what happened, but give yourself enough to know what to do and where to go. You can take pictures and record videos, but remember to turn them off once in awhile. Let yourself be in the present instead of taking pictures of a moment you weren't in for the future.
11. Remember. There are some places that people know they'll never go back to. Some won't come back to keep the memories unique, some understand that they won't be the same, and others just know that they want to keep on going and discovering new and exciting places. Whatever you choose to do, remember this vacation and learn from it. You might just look back at it one day and realize how lucky you were to have experienced it.

Some tips

* Try to meet and converse with locals if you can.
* Learn a few basic phrases and words if you're going to a foreign country.
* Find out if your friends have ever been to your destination location and ask them for any tips or advice.
* You don't have to buy merchandise with the place's name on it to remember your experience. Keep the flight ticket or simple things you found to remember specific moments.
* Try different forms of transportation (i.e. bus, bicycle, roller-blades, cab, underground).
* Don't call/text your friends and family too much when you're there.

Remember !!!
* Don't spend too much money. You don't have to be first class or be in a suite to have a great vacation. Let yourself have fun and travel comfortably, but try to stay close to your budget.
* Stay safe. It's good to discover and see different places, but know which places you should stay away from.
* Don't get into arguments or fights with anybody you don't know well.

Time to Have a Sense of Humor

2009-02-22T22:20:00.000-08:00

Humor is one of the greatest assets a person can have. Working on building your sense of humor will help you out a lot in life, including in being able to defuse difficult situations and in reducing your stress levels.

Try this steps
1. Know what lots of people find funny. Not everyone finds everything funny, but there are lots of general topics that are funny. Make a list of topics that appeal broadly in a humorous way and explore these further.
2. Watch shows and movies that are funny. Comedy sketches, stand-up, movies, anything you think might contain humor. If you don't get why it's funny, try watching it again and deconstruct the humorous elements.
3. Laugh. Try laughing when other people do. Get into the habit. Natural laughing may then come to you and will be an automatic reaction when something funny occurs.
4. Try to see the funny side of difficult or embarrassing situations. This can help to alleviate angst, fear and unhappiness if you can inject a little lightheartedness into such occasions. Naturally, keep in good taste and do not step over the line where mourning, death, loss and pain are involved.
5. When someone says something and you want to make it funny, start the sentence by saying "yes" and then build on it. And don't insult them or tear them down. Add to what they said to make it even better!

Save Money When Travelling

2009-02-22T02:22:00.000-08:00

How to have a fun holiday while spending less money.

This is the Steps

1. Plan for your vacation at least 1 - 2 months in advance - this way you will get the best rates for hotels & air fare.
2. Flights which originate from a point and terminate at another point will be expensive (for example, if you want to fly from Mumbai to Helsinki, then an airline which flies from another city to Helsinki via Mumbai will be cheaper).
3. Check hostels in the cities which you plan to visit. Most leading cities across the world have cheap accommodation for leisure travellers and back packers.
4. Register at your embassy in the visiting country - this will give you a lot of options and people whom you can question.
5. Always travel by the public transport - many leading tourist cities, like Singapore, have pre-loaded metro & bus passes. These passes are very convenient for internal city travel.
6. Stay in a vacation rental condo such as the ones listed on VRBO.com You will get a lot more space at a much lower cost than what you would get from a comparable hotel room.

Some tips for you:

* Choose a destination where you can stay with friends or family.
* Look into house trading networking sites on-line.
* Walk everywhere, if possible. It's the best way to experience the place where you are, not to mention healthy and cheap.
* Be open minded.
* It's always a good idea to find a grocery store near your hotel or hostel. Eating out gets expensive.
* Talk with the natives. People familiar with the area will help you steer clear of expensive tourist traps and have a more authentic (and less expensive) experience.
* If you stay in a hostel, try to find people who want to go to the same places. Tours and sometimes ticket prices are cheaper in groups.
* Take advantage of what's there. Most hostels and cities offer free tours/maps/guidebooks.
* Buy your guide book before you get to your destination. Sometimes you can also check them out at the library or copy pertinent pages.
* If you're a student, get an international student ID card. Most museums and some transportation and housing options offer student discounts.

Remember!!!

* Never carry all your belongings in one bag or keep all important stuff like wallet, passport in a money belt. These can fit tightly around the waist and be nearly invisible. This is especially important when traveling on trains for long periods of time.
* Carry an internationally accepted credit card, like Master, Visa or American Express.
* Some hotels/hostels need to take your passport. This is normal.
* Carry extra passport photos and a color copy of both your passport and credit card. Do not keep these with the originals.

Plan a Vacation

2009-02-21T05:24:00.001-08:00

So, the kids are out of school for summer vacation and everyone just wants to get away from home for a while. Time for your once-a-year or so "family vacation" This time, though, you'll actually be ready for it.

This is the Steps

1. Research, research, research. Do it online and discuss it with other travelers. For inspiration, go to websites to browse travel photos, journals and videos posted by real people sharing their experiences.
2. Decide what day/time you will depart and return. Write it down!
3. Decide what place(s) you will be going to.
4. Calculate how many people are coming along if you're not alone.
5. Fill up the suitcases. Pack as many outfits as you will need for the vacation, plus, an extra or two. Don't forget your undergarments, pajamas, hygiene items, shoes, swimsuits/towels if swimming, etc.
6. Be prepared for certain situations. Planning ahead for things that could possibly happen will make the trip a whole lot smoother. Decide on a schedule for what each person wants to do along the way. Gather the family together and discuss what you had in mind. Be prepared for arguments. Everyone must be willing to compromise.
7. Pack a first aid kit - and make sure everyone knows where it is - because you never know what could happen. In the first aid kit there should be band aids, anticeptic cream, paracetamol and allergie tablets at least. Also it might be useful to have an emergency contact list in the first aid kit.
8. Find a pet-sitter ahead of time if you own any animals that can't come along. If you decide to bring any, you must remember that they can't go inside restaurants or hotels, and they will have to make bathroom breaks as well. It's best to leave them at home. Put your pets into detail for the sitter and leave them with your phone number in case they have any questions while you're gone that you forgot to cover.
9. If it's a family vacation and you're traveling by vehicle (for a long time), bring stuff to keep everyone entertained and comfortable.
10. Decide what form of transportation you're taking (plane, vehicle, etc.)
11. Estimate the total cost of your vacation. Be sure to include restraunts (food & drink per person each day), gas for the vehicle to get there, back, and to places nearby where you'll be staying, hotel rooms per night, and any other activities that you plan on doing. (Swimming, the zoo, etc.)
12. If the trip seems a bit pricey, you may want to consider looking for discounts. You can normally find accommodation and travel discounts online. While your at the site, they can also help plan your trip.
13. Work around the price. Normally if you're visiting family in another state, you can stay at one of their houses overnight (if there's enough room for everyone). (Free showers, food, television, and bed!) And if you offer to pay for the gas, you can normally borrow a neighbor's "extra" vehicle for free and they'll take care of any animals while you're gone. And if you buy a gas card, you can save money on the gas! You just gotta think ahead!
14. Work some overtime at your job before you ask for a week/weekend off for vacation. They'll be more likely to give it to you when you want it.
15. Bring everyone's medications (if the family takes any.) Be sure to bring enough.

Some Tips

* Look for discounts.
* Plan as far ahead in advance as possible.
* Bring a map if you're driving there!
* Be prepared for the weather. Watch the weather channel for when and where you'll be gone. Bring clothing appropriate for what the weather will be and something that's not according to the weather in case it decides to change.
* If you must change planes, try to arrange so you do in Portland or Seattle. They both have very nice airports, so if you have an unexpected (or expected) long layover, you won't go bezerk.

Receive Love

2009-02-21T05:23:00.000-08:00

When it is hard to receive love for fear of the consequence of letting down your defenses, it might be that you are hiding behind cynicism, pride, or trying to remain too emotionally strong, so that you don't have to face the possible hurts that loving might bring or facing aspects about yourself that you don't like. It is important to learn to receive love and to appreciate that you are loved too, so that your own sense of self can be whole. Here are some thoughts to help you learn to receive love and how to keep it.

This is steps for you:

1. Trust people when they tell you that they love you. Whether it be an intimate relationship, a friendship, or a family relationship, it is important to accept the declaration of love at face value. If you are pushing aside the gift of their love for you because you are afraid that they do not mean it, then you prevent them from having the chance to prove that they do. It also might push them away from you, so that if you change your mind it may be to late.
2. Stop fearing loss. A common reason for not being able to receive love is prior experience of losing someone you loved, whether it was from death, a break-up, or for some other reason that has scarred you. If you spend all of your life pushing aside love given to you on the off-chance that the person offering it might withdraw it, you will always feel cynical and unsure, which is not a comfortable or happy place to be. Instead, embrace the love that they are offering and go with the flow, expecting those who offer you love to stay around.
3. Love yourself. This might be the hardest step of all but if you don't love yourself that much, receiving love is nigh impossible because you don't believe that you deserve it. If this is the case, start working on why you can't love yourself so well, including seeking help to explore the issues involved if needed. Remember that every person is special and that you are very deserving of love.
4. Let love in and don't block it. Simply open your heart, live in the moment and cherish the fact that other people care so deeply about you that you are connected, needed, wanted, and included in the affairs and lives of others. Being open and receptive to the love from others can be learned with practice, provided you don't let cynicism and toughness take over. Let down some of those defenses and pride and let others know that you enjoy their deep care and support for you. And forget about keeping score; love others even if it is not reciprocated. As one large human family, it keeps going around and we receive it back again anyway.
5. Beware the voices of societal negativity. Social conditioning has a habit of making us feel wary of being effusive about and openly accepting of compliments, generosity, caring, and kind acts, lest we be seen as greedy, prideful, or selfish. Do not push aside the caring, wonderful things people have to say about you just because of such negative overlays; be appreciative and embracing of the love given out by others in all its forms. To do otherwise is to block receipt of love.
6. Show love. Receiving love is also about expressing love. Kiss your spouse and children, hug your friends, compliment your colleagues, say friendly and complimentary things to the grocery store clerks. Do this regularly.
7. Watch the experts at receiving love. Children are expert at receiving love because they accept what is said at face value and view receiving love as natural. What is also natural is that being able to receive love creates a balance in which you give and receive in equal measure. Take note of how children manage this beautifully - they ask for help when needed, they give help when asked. They offer compliments without a thought and they accept at face value the compliments that they are given. Re-learning what was once innate for you can restore a lot of happiness and trust in your life.
8. Share your feelings. When true feelings are shared, a trust is created, bond is created and friendly environment becomes available that acts as a catalyst in receiving and giving love.

Tips for you

Many faiths help with the understanding of receiving love; if you have a particular faith, follow the teachings that it espouses on receiving and giving love. Even if you don't practice a particular faith, there are many great thinkers whose wisdom can teach you much about the receiving of love.

Entertainment In Batam Island

2009-02-20T03:04:00.001-08:00

NAGOYA ENTERTAINMENT DISTRICT

Or just called NED, this compact district is bounded by the Melia Panorama, Goodway and Harmoni hotels. Lucy's Oarhouse is easiest to find, turn left out of the Melia’s front entrance and walk 100m. The famous PP Banana GoGo is upstairs. Rio Rita is over the road. Turn right out Lucy's front door and you can see the Jungle Bar, Classics, Red Cock, Bistro, Ice Pub and Steps Music Lounge. McDonald's, Kentucky Chicken and several money changers are in the same area.
Also find the Memori Karoake, opposite the Melia and the Hawaii karoake, beside the Harmoni (next to McDonalds). There are dozens of other karoakes and massage parlours in Nagoya. Among the better known are the Queen 8933 Massage. A kilometer away in the Pelita area, find Hotel Pelita karoake, Hollywood “Sports Massage” and Maxim "nightclub" .
PLEASANT EVENING DRINKS
Try the Planet Hotel’s rooftop bar (22nd floor) for a nice view of Nagoya and the Singapore Straits.
There are pleasant WINE BARS at Goodway and Harmoni hotels . Try a Cheese Platter at the Goodway’s Hotel Wine Bar for Rp45,000.
LIVE MUSIC NIGHTSPOTS
The most popular is the Tavern in the Melia. Also try the NoName in the Harmoni and Summit at the Planet hotel. All start getting busy by 10pm.
DISCOS: Pacific, Planet, Spinx, Ozon
Batam has several large discos. All are very dark, loud and smoky. The Pacific is the biggest and has the best sound system. All get busy around midnight.
RAUNCHY BARS: Try the Jungle and Ice Pub. The PP Banana is the wildest and most fun - opens from 2pm on Fri/Sat/Sun, from 6.30pm midweek.

( Special Thanks for marsel/batam)

Aerosmith

2009-02-20T02:07:00.000-08:00

Don't Want To Miss A Thing

By : Aerosmith

I could stay awake just to hear you breathing

Watch you smile while you are sleeping

While you're far away dreaming

I could spend my life in this sweet surrender

I could stay lost in this moment forever

Every moment spent with you is a moment I treasure

Don't want to close my eyes

I don't want to fall asleep

Cause I'd miss you baby

And I don't want to miss a thing

Cause even when I dream of you

The sweetest dream will never do

I'd still miss you baby

And I don't want to miss a thing

Lying close to you feeling your heart beating

And I'm wondering what you're dreaming

Wondering if it's me you're seeing

Then I kiss your eyes

And thank God we're together

I just want to stay with you in this moment forever

Forever and ever

Don't want to close my eyes

I don't want to fall asleep

Cause I'd miss you baby

And I don't want to miss a thing

Cause even when I dream of you

The sweetest dream will never do

I'd still miss you baby

And I don't want to miss a thing

I don't want to miss one smile

I don't want to miss one kiss

I just want to be with you

Right here with you, just like this

I just want to hold you close

Feel your heart so close to mine

And just stay here in this moment

For all the rest of time

Don't want to close my eyes

I don't want to fall asleep

Cause I'd miss you baby

And I don't want to miss a thing

Cause even when I dream of you

The sweetest dream will never do

I'd still miss you baby

And I don't want to miss a thing

Don't want to close my eyes

I don't want to fall asleep

I don't want to miss a thing

I realy like this song,I give this song to someone who is in Yogyakarta which have accompanied my days when i'm in diyogyakarta Two years ago. GREAT Thank's to AEROSMITH for this GREAT SONG.

Batam Island Indonesia

2009-02-19T00:50:00.000-08:00

Batam is one of the largest islands in the Riau archipelago, and not long ago it was just another poor island with coastal villages and unspoiled nature. The declaration of the Batam free trade zone in 1989 has turned the island upside down, after just a few years of rapid construction it now has a modern airport, tourist and business centers and a still growing infrastructure that has changed the island completely.

It is no secret that nearby Singapore is the role model, and the goal is eventually to become one of the biggest ports of Southeast Asia and a major center of international trade, industry and commerce. The strategic location close to the Malacca Strait and Singapore will certainly help reaching this goal, but like the rest of Indonesia the economy and development here was dealt a major blow during and after the Asia economic crisis in the late 1990's.

Batam is actually one of fastest growing tourist destinations in Indonesia in terms of visitor arrivals. There are several tourist resorts here with luxurious hotels and golf courses. Many visitors however choose to use Batam only as an entry point, it is only 40 minutes from Singapore with boat, and then leave with the first available transport to other destinations in Indonesia.

History

The history of Batam is tightly interwoven with nearby Bintan island and the rest of the Riau archipelago. According to Chinese chronicles Batam was already inhabited as early as 231 A.D. when Singapore island was still called Pulau Ujung (Ujung Island). It came under control of the Malacca kingdom from the 13th century, and later taken over by the Sultan of Johor who ruled until the 18th century. The coastal villages that face Singapore is said to have been a hideout for pirates who hijacked ships in the strait.

In 1824 the name of the island again appear in the Treaty of London which led to the division of the region between the Dutch and the British. Batam and the surrounding islands later became part of the Riau Lingga Kingdom, a situation that lasted until 1911, when the Dutch East Indies colonial administration took over.
The People

Close to Sekupang, a large part of the population still make their living from fishing and sea transport.The native people of Batam are of Malay origin, but with the rapid growth and development of the area various ethnic groups from all over Indonesia has come here in search for jobs and a better life. Traditionally most of the people live in coastal villages, while the "Orang Laut" (sea people) continue to live on boathouses and boats and generally fish for a living. Some of their catch are sold to Singapore. Bahasa Indonesia is the language used to communicate among the multi-ethnic population here, while many now also understand English, which is commonly used in business communication.

Culture

Even if Batam is multi-ethnic it is still the Malayan culture and Islam which forms the root of the local culture. Both daily life and the ceremonies have religious and mythical elements, expressed in dance, music and other forms of art. Some of the most popular traditional dances are Jogi Dance, unique for Batam, Zapin Dance, which reflects strong Arabic influence, Persembahan Dance, to welcome honored guests and Ronggeng Dance, where the guests can be invited to come up and join the dance and song.

The Mak Yong drama is a dance and song performance which tell the story about a country named "Riuh", commonly believed to be the origin of the name of the Riau province. This country is governed by a wise and popular king, who one day to his surprise and embarrassment is told that his princess have given birth to an animal called "Siput Gondang" (the gondang snail). Upset by this he orders the newborn to be expelled to the jungle. A couple of years later he is told that the snail has begun to grow, and he asks for the snail to be brought to the Royal Palace where the shell is broken. To his surprise and joy he can see a beautiful princess appear from the broken shell, and he names her Putri Siput Gondang (Princess Siput Gondang), celebrations are then held for seven days and seven nights.

But also other cultures contribute to the Batam community, and in the "Padepokan Seni" art center in Sekupang you can see arts and crafts from all over Indonesia, as well as various kinds of performances which are staged every day for visitors and tourists. Another art center in Sekupang is "Desa Seni", Indonesian art village, which main objective is to "maintain, conserve and develop Indonesian culture", and also to manage the Cultural Institute where qualified instructors conduct various shows and courses.

Accommodation and food

You may easily find hotels of all standards here, from five star hotels with all facilities to budget losmen. The most expensive rooms can be found in Nagoya or at the tourist resorts at Nongsa on the northeast part of the island. The tourism here has seen a steep decline lately, so you may get a good bargain. More reasonable priced rooms can be found in Nagoya or elsewhere, but the budget rooms are said to be of less quality and overpriced compared to most other areas in Indonesia.

Riau is well known for its fresh and delicious seafood. Prawns, live fish, lobsters, clams and shellfish are cooked in a variety of styles, a local specialty is the "gong-gong" conch shell dipped in a spicy sauce. To find a seafood restaurant is no problem, especially in Nagoya, Batu Besar, Batu Merah and Telaga Punggur. At Nongsa you can eat in a "kelong", a restaurant built over the sea on stilts. Singaporeans even come here for a late night meal at a Batam restaurant and return the same evening to Singapore. You can of course also find other traditional Indonesian food here, like Padang food. In Nagoya you can try the night markets or the Pujasera Nagoya food center.

Sekupang

The port of Sekupang, the most common port of arrival if you go by boat from Singapore.Most travelers from Singapore to Batam will enter via Sekupang, where ferries shuttle constantly between the two ports. The ferries depart from World Trade Center in Singapore and arrive at Sekupang about 45 minutes later, the first ferry will leave at 7.30 am, and the last about 8 pm. At Sekupang you will easily find a taxi that can take you to other locations of the island, the airport or other ferry terminals, you will also find hotel and ferry counters here. The domestic terminal with boats to the Sumatra mainland is right next door.

Waterfront City Batam

The Waterfront City is a resort area on the west coast of Batam, south of Sekupang, that mostly attracts Singaporean visitors. Some of the activities here are water sports, bungee-jumping, indoor skiing or simply checking out the nightclubs.

Batam Center

This area facing Tering Bay is planned to be the pride of Batam with a business district, hotels, shops and a marina. Construction started on 29th of November 1987 when President Soharto and Lee Kuan Yew, Singapore's first Prime Minister, each planted a banyan tree here as a symbol of the friendship between the two countries. Prime Minister Mahathir of Malaysia planted his tree later. The center is still not completed.

Nagoya

View from one of the many hotels in Nagoya.Nagoya (also known as Lubuk Baja) is the original center of Batam, and not a very attractive town with a mix of old and new characterless buildings. But if you are looking for local entertainment this must be the place, with plenty of shops, food stalls, nightlife, discos, music lounges, karaoke, restaurants and many small hotels. It is also at the present Batams center of business, trade and finance. Batu Ampar is the port of Nagoya, and from here you can catch a ferry to Singapore, although not as frequently as from Sekupang. Several boats leave daily to Johor Baru in Malaysia as well.

Nongsa

The north-east peninsula of Nongsa is the main tourist area on Batam, an hour's drive from Sekupang. The lovely resorts were built with Singaporeans in mind, here they can escape from the bustling town to the north and visit one of the golf clubs, eat seafood, bake in the sun on the beach or swim in the sea. Don't expect to find any cheap hotels here.

Kabil

This is the site for a large deep-water port under construction, called the Asia Port. When completed it will be able to accommodate very large ships. From nearby Telaga Punggur you can go by boat to neighboring Pulau Bintan, in Kabil fishing village you can also find several seafood restaurants, and watch the passing sampans and fishing craft while you eat.

Transport

The best way to get around on the island is by taxi, but you can also go by public transport if comfort is not your main concern, like share taxis. Travel agents can also provide air-conditioned minibuses. Hang Nadim, the modern regional airport, can serve the largest passenger planes, and from here you can reach other destinations in Indonesia, including Jakarta, Pekanbaru, Bandung and Medan. Both Garuda and Singapore Airlines have regular flights here.

View from the Singapore - Sekupang ferry, close to Sekupang.As mentioned above there are several boat services to Singapore, as well as Malaysia and to the Sumatran mainland. The ferries depart daily from World Trade Center in Singapore and arrive at Sekupang about 45 minutes later, the first ferry will leave at 7.30 am, and the last about 8 pm. Less frequent services to Singapore leave from Batu Ampar and Nongsa. The service to Malaysia leave from Batu Ampar and to the Sumatran mainland from Sekupang. Telaga Punggur, 30 km southeast of Nagoya, is the main port for speedboats to Tanjung Pinang on Nearby Pulau Bintan, the trip will take about 45 minutes, there are also three boats a day to Tanjung Pinang from Sekupang.

Other travel facts

Batam is a duty free zone, and in Nagoya or at the ferry terminal you can shop for items like cigarettes, alcoholic drinks, perfumes, chocolate as well as local handicrafts from all over the Indonesian archipelago. There are many banks in Nagoya, and you can easily find a money exchange counter or a cash machine which accept Visa or MasterCard. Singapore dollars are as welcome as Indonesian rupiah. The main post office is in Batam center south of Nagoya.

Batam may not make a good first impression on a western tourist with it's ugly architecture, expensive hotels and unfinished construction sites, but if you like you can easily spend some days here. You can enjoy activities like golf, tennis, water sports, scuba diving, fishing or just relaxing after a good meal of seafood. In the evenings you can experience the local nightlife, probably different from what you are used to back home.

Reduce Hair Loss

2008-10-27T06:14:00.000-07:00

When hair starts falling out it can seem like the end of the world. Follow these tips to try and reduce it as much as possible.
this is the Steps

1. Try to identify when the hair loss started and if you changed anything with your hair. For example if you started straightening it or if you started applying lots of mousse. It is likely that this could be the reason. If you find it was due to the use of these things then stop using them.
2. Stick to one shampoo or shower gel. If it is repeatedly changed it could cause damage to your hair as shampoos aren't natural, you would be adding more and more chemical products in your hair which could damage them and cause them to fall out.
3. Oiling the hair also helps with coconut oil for example. By doing this, when you go out the pollution in the environment won't stick straight onto your hair and damage it. It will stick to the oil instead which can be washed off when you get home.
4. Wash your hair regularly, unclean hair could contain lots of damaging things. Frequent washing can help keep hair clean and healthy.
5. Wash your hair with warm to normal temperature water. Water which is too hot can also damage the hair.
6. Try and reduce stress or anxiety that is getting to you. Tension and anxiety do not help as you will be so worried your body won't be mentally healthy so this will lead to physical deterioration too which includes hair loss.
7. Do daily scalp massages as it will increase blood flow in the scalp, sending it to the hair follicles to help stimulate growth.

Some tips

* Try not to use straighteners, curlers or other chemical products such as dyes excessively, these can damage your hair if used too frequently.
* Oiling your hair can help keep hair healthier.
* Stick to one shampoo or gel.
* As you get older, your hair gets weaker so don't be too worried if a few strands of hair falling occasionally.
* Try to relax and have an optimistic view on things. A healthy mind leads to a healthy body.
* Doing 'Headstand' pose of yoga for about a minuite daily reduces the hair fall. But please consult your doctor before doing this pose.

Remember

* If you have tried all of the above methods and nothing seems to be working, see your doctor as in some cases it could be a symptom of a more serious problem.

Perform a Testicular Self Exam

2008-10-25T06:13:00.000-07:00

Testicular cancer kills nearly 400 people per year in the U.S., and the incidence rate of cancer of the testis has increased in recent years in the U.S. and in many other countries. The cancer is unusual in that it affects fairly young men (the average age at diagnosis is about 34 years old). It is also one of the most curable cancers, especially if caught early, and medical authorities recommend that a testicular examination be performed as part of routine medical checkups. In addition, men 20-55 years old should perform a monthly testicular self-examination. A self-examination takes only a couple minutes, and it can save your life, so consult your doctor for advice and follow these steps.
this is the steps

1. Use a mirror to examine your testicles. Sit down in a well-lit area and use a small mirror to examine your scrotum for visible lumps or swelling. A mirror is helpful because otherwise you can't get a good look at the entire scrotum.
2. Feel your testicles to detect any differences between them. Hold your scrotum and testicles in the palm of one hand and feel for any differences between the testicles. It is normal for one testicle to be hang slightly lower than the other and to be slightly larger than the other, but if one testicle seems to be much larger than the other or if it seems to have an abnormal shape or hardness, it's time to see a doctor for further examination.
3. Examine each testicle for lumps or swelling. Use one hand to hold your scrotum and penis in place and use the other to examine each testicle, one at a time. Gently roll the testicle between your thumb and forefinger to check for swelling, lumps, hardness, or an unusual heaviness. Do this slowly and make sure to check all around each testicle. The testicles should be smooth all around, but you will notice a soft tube, called the epididymus, coming from the top of each one.
4. Be on the lookout for other cancer symptoms. While an abnormality in the testes is the surest sign of testicular cancer, other symptoms, such as backache, stomach pains, coughing, or tenderness around the nipples, may be indicative of a spread of the cancer. These symptoms, of course, may accompany any number of other illnesses or injuries, so simply be aware of them and be sure to examine your testicles or see a doctor if they occur.

Some tips

* It's usually easiest to perform a testicular exam after a warm shower, when the scrotum is relaxed.
* It's important to get acquainted with your testicles. Know how they normally look and feel, and you'll be better able to detect changes and abnormalities.
* It's important to have a doctor examine your testes periodically, and you might find it helpful to have your doctor show you exactly how to perform the steps above.
* Don't panic if you notice any of the symptoms described above. What you notice could very well be nothing at all, but do take the opportunity to see a doctor for further examination. The sooner you do so, the sooner you can put your mind at ease. If you do have cancer, early detection and treatment is essential.
* As your checking your testicles your penis may become hard and erect, this is a good thing as your penis is not interfering anymore.

Warnings

* This article should not be used as a substitute for professional medical advice and care. Be sure to visit your doctor regularly for checkups, and seek the advice of a qualified medical professional for more information on this or any medical test or problem.

Make a Spa at Home

2008-10-21T06:10:00.000-07:00

Do you feel stressed and run down? Then you need a relaxing easy do-it-your-self spa to pamper your body, cleanse your soul, and clear your mind.
This is the Steps

1. Pick a good day that no one is going to be home. A day that you are free.
2. Sleep in. Wake up in and have a yogurt and some fruit for breakfast...something light. Stay in your pajamas.
3. First is the mask. Sit in a reclining chair and play some of your favorite music. Apply a mud mask and some cucumbers to your eyes. Make sure your hair is pulled back with a headband.
4. Now its bathtime. Draw a warm bubble bath. Light some lavender scented candles for a relaxed atmoshpere. Since you have candles turn off the lights. Soothe in the bath for 30 minutes to an hour.
5. When you get out lather your entire body with some lavender scented or aloe lotion to sooth and moisturize you skin.
6. Have some lunch, a sandwich or soup.
7. Sit down on the couch and read a book for about 30 minutes to an hour and just relax. I recommend a book by Luanne Rice.
8. Give yourself a manicure and a pedicure to make you look gorgeous.
9. Do some yoga to find your inner peace and clear your mind. Do for about 15 minutes to an hour.
10. Do some breathing excersises or meditation to calm your soul. Do for 15 minutes to an hour.
11. Sit down make some popcorn and watch a chick flick. I recommend Just Like Heaven, The Lakehouse, The Notebook, When Harry Met Sally, The Prince and Me, Before Sunrise, or any of your favorite shows.
12. Put on some jams and dance around the house in your underwear. Dance anywhere between 15 minutes to and hour.
13. When your husband comes home, have him cook dinner, and give you a massage.
14. Go to bed by 10.
Some tips for you

* Take your time because you have all day.
* A spa is always better with a best girlfriend.
* Relax as much as you can and don't think about problems or anything all day.

Things You'll Need

* mud mask
* candles
* manicure and pedicure supplies
* a movie
* a yoga video or yoga experience
* a book
* soothing lotions and body washes (either both smelling the same or smelling bath wash/gel/salts and non scented lotion)
* food

The Way to Quickly Improve Your Memory

2008-10-19T06:09:00.000-07:00

1. Ditch the Planner - Challenge your brain to remember things. If your brain needs to remember things, it will develop more to do so. The many memory aids we use may affect how well our memory works without these tools. If you use an agenda book or planner for school or work, try to remember things instead of writing them down. At home, go through each subject and try to remember the assignments. If you can't remember, call a friend. After a short time of doing this, you will be able to mentally note any homework easily. You can then go back to using your planner.
2. Read - Reading works your short term and long term memory (you have to remember what happened on the last page and in the last chapter). Not only is reading good for your memory, it has been proven to overall boost your intelligence.
3. Sing a Song - Mnemonics (Memory Tools) such as singing make remembering anything much easier. The sillier the song/rhyme/abbreviation is, the better. To remember numbers (such as a locker code), make a mathematical equation out of the three numbers, or remember that they add up to, for example, 53.
4. Have Fun With It - Memory games will help you associate memory with fun. For example, try to remember a certain license plate number at different times of day. This can also be used as a quick check to see how much you are improving.

Tips
* See the Sources list and read more about improving your memory quickly.

Find a Hobby

2008-10-15T06:05:00.000-07:00

Having a hobby helps to make you a more interesting person and gives you something fascinating to talk about with others. It can also help you to avoid feeling bored and often provides the opportunity to meet new people with similar interests. Learning something new is always good for keeping the mind alert and active, as is maintaining a long-term interest in something that enthralls you. This will also make your more of an interesting person than a person who is addicted to MySpace, watching TV, or doing other time wasting and unhealthy tasks, such as stuffing your gut.
This is the Steps

1. Think of a hobby that might interest you. It might be an interest that you always wished you had time to explore, but never had the time or money required to pursue.
2. A stamp collection, Collect things for a hobby. Look at the walls in your post office, and think about collecting stamps and what you might need to do to start and maintain a stamp collection. Think of other items you might like to collect, for example, coins, dolls or chocolate wrappers. You will need to consider how you will get your collectibles, where you will put them and whether you'll display them. And don't forget to think about swaps with friends!
3. Discover art for a hobby. Have you ever gone to a museum, looked at the paintings on the walls, and wondered if you could do the same thing? How about trying painting for yourself - in oils, acrylics or watercolors? Or maybe try drawing with charcoal or colored pencils. One particularly wonderful way to get involved in your community and make art at the same time is to participate in painting a mural. This will last for a long time and everyone in your community will see it and smile.
4. Team sport, Enjoy sport as a hobby. Watch soccer, basketball, golf, athletics or tennis tournaments on television or at your local sports ground. Do you feel that a sport is something that you would love to learn? Think about what it would cost, and the time it would take to learn and play. Do you have the funds available for this type of hobby? Would you have the patience it would take to really learn to play or train for any of these sports? Would you rather play a team sport or an individual sport? Maybe there are friends or family members who already have equipment and uniforms you can have, as well as tips for how to begin your chosen sport. Ask them about their experiences and listen to their suggestions.
5. Take up an outdoor activity. Maybe you are an "outdoors" person, someone who would enjoy outdoor hobbies, such as fishing, hiking, flying remote controlled model airplanes or kites in the park, water skiing, camping or cycling. Think about how much you like different kinds of weather (hot, cold, rain, sun, snow etc.) and getting close to nature. If this sounds like something you would really enjoy doing, then investigate how you could start learning one or more of these activities. Often these outdoors activities will have a club you can join, or you could get your friends together and try an outdoors activity as a group.
6. Browse a Craft Store, Take up an indoor activity. Maybe you are more of an "indoors person". Perhaps you'd enjoy knitting, sewing, doing puzzles and jigsaws, painting, making ceramics etc. Browse around a craft store and find various craft ideas and supplies. Ask friends and family if they have craft supplies and patterns that they're not using. Other places to look for ideas include games stores, toy stores, hobby stores, your local library or activity center and school.
7. Combine indoor and outdoor activities. Of course, there's nothing that says you can't be both an indoors and an outdoors person! Maybe in summer you love to cycle and in winter you love to make matchstick castles. Think about which seasons you would like to enjoy your hobby in.
8. Miniatures to make Take up woodworking. Look through the Internet at various woodworking hobbies. Things such as toys, desk top items, furniture, games etc. are all ideas to make out of wood. If you have a work room in a garage, perhaps you would like to buy a project kit like a miniature doll house and build and decorate it all yourself. You might even enjoy making the miniature furniture yourself instead of buying it ready-made.
9. Consider miniatures. Miniature trains, racing cars, toy soldiers, gaming pieces etc. are an intriguing hobby that will include painting, construction work, craft and more. Making miniatures suits someone with an eye for detail and a lot of patience. This hobby can be as elaborate or as simple as you like; many of the best miniatures are made from things you find around the house and use your imagination to turn into something else.
10. Wait until you have researched the initial cost, and the long term expense and time needed before jumping into a hobby. Make sure you can afford it, and have the time to spare. As you begin, start small. For instance, you can do a lot of astronomy with the naked eye. If you have learned and continued with that, the next step should be purchasing a good set of binoculars. Invest in the fancy telescope only when you are sure you are committed.
11. Search the Internet or visit a local library or community center for more information. Look for information related to the hobby you are interested in. Find out if you would have to buy supplies via Internet, or if you have suppliers that live in your area. If there is something on the Internet that you want and you don't have a credit card, ask a parent or a friend to help you. Sometimes even a store owner is the person to ask, as they can order the supplies in for you using their own contacts.
12. Get started on your hobby! Once you have decided which hobby best suits you in every way and you have bought or borrowed the equipment, clothing, tools and anything else you need, it is time to get it happening. Expect to start slowly at first, while learning, so have patience. You might even find a club to join and meet others with similar interests. This is a great way to make friends and to exchange ideas.
13. Display your hobby or compete. Once you become very good at your chosen hobby, you might like to enter competitions to test your skills or to display your work. Think of sports competitions, fairs or shows for craft and artwork, club meetings for show-and-tell or perhaps even a school or college event is a good chance to show off your skills.

Some tips for you

* Before you get involved starting your hobby, find a place to work on it, and to store it if it is done indoors. Even outdoors hobbies that need equipment will require storage space - hockey sticks, soccer balls, boots, bicycles, tents etc. all have to go somewhere when you're not using them!
* Make sure you hobby will not take away the time you need to spend with your family and friends. Involve them if you can and ask them to come and watch you play sport or to see your work on display.If you don't have much money at the start of your hobby, begin very small or find a hobby that doesn't cost anything. Borrow things from other people - often older people have tried a hobby and no longer care for it and they can give the items to you. Another way to make money is to sell the items that you have created in your hobby. This will work for hobbies such as craft, artwork and woodwork. It will have to be good quality though, so make sure you're good at it first.

Remember
* Do not start a hobby that would be expensive to start and maintain if you have to use money budgeted for family expenses or a college fund for you or your children.
* Always get the best instructions on how to make things or do them. If it is sport, be very careful to warm up properly and do not attempt to do anything difficult unless you have had proper training. If it is making something, read the instructions carefully and be patient. If you are handling anything dangerous, either seek assistance from someone else like a parent, colleague or professional or follow the instructions exactly.
* Gambling is not a hobby, and it could become an obsession and cost you dearly in the long run.
* Don't get too hooked on the hobby or you might go broke and lose relationships with the ones you love.

Treat Male Pattern Hair Loss

2008-10-11T06:01:00.000-07:00

Hair loss can be either natural or caused by disease. The most common hair loss is thinning of the hair caused by androgens (male hormones).
This is the steps

1. Accept it. Consider it a visible symbol of your increasing wisdom. Tolerating hair loss is the healthiest and cheapest way to cope with hair loss. If that technique is too hard on the ego, read on.
2. Consider some of the hair loss drugs. Arguably, the best drug treatment for male hair loss is 1mg of Finastride taken orally once a day and Minoxidil applied directly to the scalp in either a 2 or 5 percent solution.
* Take Finastride once a day without food. The drug should be used in a 6 month or 12 month period.
* Take 1 ml Minoxidil 2 percent or 5 percent solution and apply directly to a clean, dry scalp. The studies have shown that those using the 5 percent solution achieve better results.

Tips

* Men who want to swap Minoxidil with Finastride should use minoxidil for four months after starting Finastride to prevent any hair loss that occur from stopping Minoxidil treatment.
* Minoxidil appears to work best in people whose hair loss has just begun. So the best time to begin minoxidil treatment is right at the moment you notice that your crown is thinning (but not completely bald).
* Since it takes time to grow hair, you may notice results faster if you keep your hair cut really short. This minimizes the amount of time you need to notice a difference.
* Using dandruff shampoo regularly instead of regular shampoo has been known to cut down hair loss by 7% and increase hair growth by 5 % This tip was found in Men's Health Magazine

Look Hot

2008-10-05T03:33:00.000-07:00

Want to look and feel as good as you can, but don't know the certain things to do to clean yourself up? Here is a simple list of things you should do to look and feel neat, beautiful, and hot.
Try This steps

1. Get in shape. Exercise, and tone up your body. Find an exercise that works for you. You don't have to look anorexically skinny to be in shape. Looking fit is more attractive than being too skinny. Do little things like integrate more fruits and vegetables into your diet. Eat all of the required amounts of fruit and/or vegetables for your age, and make sure to make an effort to work out at least a little bit. It gets old, but drink at least 8 glasses of water per day. Your body needs its nutrition.
2. Shave! It is important to shave your legs, pubic hair, and armpit hair. If parts of your body are unshaven, it is seen as unhygienic. Armpit hair holds odor longer than skin, and you don't want to smell bad. If shaving is too annoying you could try hair removal cream, but it can irritate the skin. Also, before going to the beach, make sure you have a good bikini line. Shaving is seen as cleaner and more hygienic.
3. Take care of your hair. Make sure you find a good shampoo for your hair type. Experiment with products to find what works best for you. Deep condition once or twice a week.
* Make sure to get a hair cut about every two months to avoid split ends. If you have frizzy hair, find a good anti-frizz spray at a local store.
* Brush and style your hair, but avoid straightening it too much. Beachy waves are a good alternate to straight hair; you can pick up a good mousse that is especially for waves.
4. Take care of your face and skin. Taking care of your skin and face can be hard because everyone's skin is different. You can have oily skin, dry skin, sensitive skin, or acne. Which is why it is important to experiment with different face care products, or little things to do by yourself and find one that fits you.
* For people with dry skin: if your skin is so dry to the point that its flaking off; in the shower, or with warm water in the sink, take a washcloth and rub the extremely dry areas on you face with a little soap on the washcloth. Dry, and then apply toner and lotion afterwards, to your whole face. If your skin isn't as dry, then just apply the toner, and a good moisturizing lotion. I find that after sun lotions (for after tanning) are the most hydrating.
* For people with oily skin: "Neutrogena" brand skin products have good skin products that act as a "dryer" for your skin. They have Neutrogena kits at Ulta stores, drug stores, department stores, or you can look online.
* For people with acne: If you don't wish to use any acne creams, then try washing your face in warm water in the morning and before bed. Changing your pillow case is another biggie; it holds onto old dirt, oil, and makeup from your face, and then you expose your face on it. Also, trying Proactive is something that seems to be working for a lot of people. If you want to get rid of surprise breakouts, try a product that guarantees quick pimple elimination.
* For the rest of your skin, always moisturize, and smell good. Always use sunscreen, and take showers daily.
5. Be yourself. Be sure to be confident, happy, outgoing, and fun. It can be hard sometimes if you're shy, and trying to be more "out there". Try to observe how the other people around you talk, and interpret that into what you say. Adapt to different peoples' personalities, but still make your talking your own. And being crazy is alright every now and then too, as long as its funny, and not something that's stupid or will get you in trouble.
* With a guy: Flirt, but not to the point of suffocation; find little ways to be flirtatious, but if you don't feel the sparks flying back at you, then stop flirting. Little things like, whispering in his ear, and brushing up against him by accident are what can drive him wild.
* Be kind to people; do them favors, help them when they need you, be polite, compliment them. You will be well liked, and known in a heartbeat! Don't suck up to people, be sarcastic sometimes, and jokingly rude.
6. Have good hygiene.. Shower everyday, brush your teeth, comb your hair, spray on a good perfume, clean your fingernails, and blow your nose. Carry a mirror with you always in a purse of book bag, and check out the way you look every hour or so. If you get manicures make sure they look natural. Pluck your eyebrows, but not to thin! Also, if you have any facial hair, wax and pluck--such as sideburns, mustache (upper lip hair), and brows.
7. Wear stylish clothes. Buying clothes that are in style is key. If your parents don't want to buy you clothes, save up money and go on a mini shopping spree for yourself. Go to stores you like and browse for items on sale; they can be just as good! Keep your own style, but try to follow what your peers are wearing also. Don't buy clothes that are too tight fitting, or too revealing. Make sure the clothes fit you. Show off your best assets and hide your flaws.
8. Apply make-up well. Doing makeup is something that can make you look better, or worse. Use a makeup that works for your skin. Picking the right shade of foundation is very, very important. On top of your foundation, use a little bit of eyeliner on the top of your eyelid, along your lashline, and apply a little amount on the bottom. It defines your eye, and makes them pop. Try using lip balm, and occasionally lip gloss. Too much makeup looks horrible, so don't over do it.

tips

* Always smell good. Use breath mints, nothing is more disgusting than bad breath. Shower, and use perfume.
* Keep a cheerful attitude.
* Be confident. Not conceited, but always happy, and willing to compliment, and say hi.
* Be confident with yourself.

Remember
* Don't be conceited.
* Don't dress, or act slutty.
* Don't believe that you have to have a thong sticking out of your pants to be considered hot.
* Really try to be nice and stay true to your friends
* Never dis your old friends if more people like you.

The Way to Forget a Bad Memory

2008-09-30T04:46:00.000-07:00

Everyone has bad memories that trouble them, but luckily there is a way to forget them, or at least decrease their mental significance.
This is the steps
1. Sit down in a comfortable chair and close your eyes.
2. Imagine an ocean image, 3D images of the ocean are great. Try to make it into a sunset, it helps.
3. Act as if its your virtual world and you have your own friends. Look for a person you like (again make sure they look three dimesionial) play with them all day.
4. Try this, it will keep your mind off the memories you hate and will keep you busy and fun.

Some tips
* It is better if you lay down on a bed or a sofa. It doesn't matter if you fall asleep, it is relaxing and you get to play in your virtual world all day!
* You can try to swim in the ocean, it is twice the fun.
* Having relaxing background music especially of waves would make the experience more real and enjoyable
* It does not have to be an ocean-try a relaxing walk through the woods and imagine all the beautiful flowers and birds-use your imagination!
* Remember to use your senses if you want full benefits-feel the waves, breath the ocean air, see the ocean and friend in full detail, hear the sea gulls.

Remember!!
* If some memories keep on popping out, relax and force them out, not too hard.
* Do this in your spare time because you can fall asleep.

You need this
* A quiet, comfortable place.
* A good imagination.

Survive a Negative Friend #2

2008-09-28T04:40:00.000-07:00

* Be funny and help them to laugh.
* Allow them a bit of time to be negative - maybe that is all they need to feel better and more relaxed.
* Talk about mutual interests, and avoid sore subjects.
* Do things that keep conversation to a minimum, like going to a movie or taking a guided tour.
* If they are having big problems, you can suggest that they see a doctor, counselor, minister, call a mental health hotline, etc.

Remember!!!
* Don't allow yourself to get drawn into the negativity.
* Don't go overboard with the compliments.
* Don't pester the friend.
* Don't assume the friend does not have a good reason to feel bad.
* Don't suddenly drop the friend because that will put him/her into even more of a negative emotional state.

Survive a Negative Friend #1

2008-09-27T04:38:00.000-07:00

A deep inside look on surviving the nagging, boring, and annoying behaviors of a negative friend. Tips, warnings, and some hard-core steps made just for you. Because, of course, you are a great friend! Why else would you go here?
Try this steps
1. When your friend begins to complain, don't interrupt. Just listen and tell the friend if you agree or do not agree.
2. Keep their esteem way high, compliment them daily, and make sure to spread the cheer to others.
3. Encourage the friend and really tell them where their strengths are
4. Do cool stuff yourself and show them how fun it is to get involved and not complain about stuff. Chances are, they'll join you.
5. Ask about their life; they are probably negative because their life sucks. If it's real bad, advise them to a therapist in the area- they'll offer professional advice and listen!
6. Don't be too peppy. A little can be nice here and there, but when it's over the top it's really off putting.

There is a tips for You
* Be nice and complimentary.

The way to Become Friends With the Guys That Hate You

2008-09-25T04:36:00.000-07:00

Is there a group of guys in your school that you'd like to be friends with, even though they dislike you? You can make it happen.
Try this steps
1. Stop insulting them; they absolutely hate that.
2. Stop talking, but not completely, if you insult them.
3. When you do talk compliment them, make conversation like saying, "What did you get on the test?", "Cool shirt" or "Who's your favorite band", etc.
4. Talk to them on a regular basis, get help from them on something that they're good at.
5. Eventually they will come around. Trust me, I've done this many times and always works for me.

Some tips for You
* Don't look like a huge flirt.
* Be nice; even though it might be hard you can do it.
* Even if they make fun of you, don't crack.
* Don't change yourself,just be yourself

Remember!!!
* You might end up liking them.
* If it's a boyfriend's guy friend, don't spend too much time together or you'll get hooked.
* You might prove yourself wrong and they might be really cool guys.
* If the guy hates you because he's around you too much like if your parents are good friends or something, you might want to lay off.

Way to Know if Someone Is Talking About You Behind Your Back

2008-09-23T04:33:00.000-07:00

Is she talking behind your back? How would you know? Why are all these rumors popping up around you? Don't let these rumors harass you. Find out who started them. The steps below are some of the ways to find out if someone is talking behind your back.
Try this steps
1. Note if they are constantly whispering to other people, and when you come they abruptly turn back. This is the most obvious sign.
2. Find out if they are suddenly asking more personal questions behind your back.
3. Watch for signs of distancing. If they used to be your friend, they are now isolating themselves away from you.

Some tips for you
* Ask a friend if he/she could be a "spy" for them. Unless the person you think is talking about you knows you are friends, you could hide close by while your friend walks up to them and says "So, ugh, what do you think of (your name)?" and then listen to their reply. If they laugh, they are probably talking about you behind your back, or think your friend is weird.

Remember!!!
* Be careful not to tell them in their face, what if they aren't the ones that said you kissed so-and-so?

The Way to Stop Your Friends Fighting

2008-09-21T04:30:00.000-07:00

When your best friends get into a fight, you may get pulled into it. If you would like to know how to make this fighting stop, please continue reading for some suggestions.
This is the steps

1. Find out all of your friends who are included in the fight. Make sure that you know who did what and the main points of why the fighting is occurring. Ask other classmates/peers if they know any more details on this matter.
2. Explain to all of your friends involved in the fight that you're not planning to take a side. Let them know that you're only there to help and do not want to get dragged into this. Make sure not to skip this step, otherwise it will cause further problems along the road.
3. Listen to all of your friends. Try to find out the reason why they're fighting with one another from their point of view. Be a good listener, and try to support their opinion of the fight.
4. Make sure that the story of the fight is the same from each of your friends. Try to get the most accurate facts that you can on what had happened. Make sure not to mix your friend's opinions with what actually took place in this fight.
5. Attempt to gather all of your friends involved with the fight into one place where your voice can be heard. Explain to them the facts that you heard about the fight, and ask all of them if this is what really happen. Make sure to listen to them all again if they think something in your facts is inaccurate.
6. Let your friends know that you don't want this fight to ruin all of your friendship. Tell them that they should try their best to make up and sort this all out. On the other hand, you could also try to start all over with your friendship. Try to erase this incident from their minds by pretending it never happened.
Some tips for you
* Try to get all of your friends to speak their minds. Let them know that their opinions need to be heard if they want this fight to be resolved.
* Sometimes friends don't want to continue being friends anymore if the fight was a really bad one. Don't pressure your friends to continue being friends with the others involved in the fight if they feel uncomfortable or unsafe around them.
Remember!!!!
* Don't try to pick one friend to agree with. This could cause your other friend to get very mad at you, possibly resulting in losing a friendship.
* Don't spread what happened with your group of friends around the school. If your friends find out that you're spreading rumors about their argument, you may have lost all of your friends.

Get Your Friend to Leave His Girlfriend #2

2008-09-18T04:27:00.000-07:00

13. When he comes back from the phone call, hug him (if you are a girl) or do a dudely handshake (if you are a man insecure with your masculinity) and tell him you love him.
14. Continue the night and then let him go home. Make sure his roommates go with him.
15. When he is back at his apartment, have his best friend lay it all out.
16. Let time work its magic on the selfish, annoying sorority girl.
This is some tips
* Don't give up.
* Make sure the girlfriend knows you don't care about her.
* Talk about how much it rocks to be single.
* While doing the above don't be too mean but straight forward to the point.
* HINT: If you REALLY want him to give her the boot; avoid all these rules and flirt with her yourself. If her personality is that horrible, chances are she's shallow enough to cheat on him. Just make sure you're other guy friends are aware of your malicious plan, so when it all comes crashing down, you're not blamed for really trying to steal her away.

Remember!!!!
* Don't set your friends up with chicks, it most likely will turn out badly.

Get Your Friend to Leave His Girlfriend #1

2008-09-17T04:24:00.000-07:00

Does your friend have an annoying girlfriend that you think he should get rid of? Implement this plan...he'll be thanking you eventually.
1. Stop talking to the girl. When you are hanging out, don't acknowledge that she is even in the room.
2. No matter how many times she tries to talk to you, or asks others to talk to you about not talking to her... don't give in.
3. Don't be mean, but stand your immature ground and make sure everyone knows how you feel.
4. Make sure the majority of the guy's friends are on your side -- you want to know that your cause is not worthless or unjustified.
5. Get a few drinks in you (if you are of age) and take the guy out with a huge group of his friends.
6. Tell him you miss him. Tell him about how you miss how fun he used to be and how much fun you used to have. Make sure others agree.
7. Come up with some slogan for him that everyone yells in unison. This will boost his confidence and show him that everyone loves him so much.
8. Break the news that his girlfriend sucks. Tell him why -- give at least 5 reasons. If you don't have 5 or more, she really might not be that bad.
9. Tell him (make sure a group is there) that everyone feels the same way and they just haven't said anything.
10. Have him drink more (again, only if of age).
11. When his girlfriend calls later in the night, make sure he tells her that he is not ready to leave.
12. Have one friend stay with him for support (aka: telling him he is not ready to leave... and is on standby to yank the phone away if he (the victim) says he is).

Get Revenge on an Ex Friend

2008-09-15T04:22:00.000-07:00

Sometimes people just get on your bad side. It is kind of unavoidable really...but revenge isn't. If you would like to get revenge in a manner that will have your ex friend get the picture without causing damage, check out this page.
1. Do some writing. Write a list of all the horrible things that he/she had done to you or your other friends.
2. Type the list and title it "Your Life". (Or an alternate title such as "Lies of the Present".) Customize the title to your liking.
3. Grab some tape! Tape the list to their locker, door, car door, backpack, desk, window, or any other place where they will see it. (If it is winter, don't put it outside, it will get all full of snow. But that's a no brainer!)
4. Casually hint them toward the list. If the list is on their locker you could say "Oh, yeah Beth, I almost forgot! My purse is in your locker! Can you go get it?" and hopefully, she will agree and go and get it, only to find a list of her treachery on her door.
5. Talk about the list. Explain what it is and what it means. Say that it represents your "friendship".
Following this Tips
* Don't pick a font that is crazy and unreadable. Times New Roman, pt 12. is fine.
* Don't include pictures.
* Sign the paper to "personalize" it.
Remember!!
* This kind of revenge is still revenge, keep in mind, so it may not be the way you want to go.
* Remember that revenge is usually not the first way to go, so think about if there's any other way to fix a problem before you resort to revenge.
* With new post 9/11 laws, you could be arrested for stalking and/or harassment if you are not careful with your revenge. If you do something dastardly, you could even be reported to the U.S. Department of Homeland Security for domestic terrorism.

Decide Whether or Not to End a Friendship After a Fight

2008-09-13T04:19:00.000-07:00

Most people believe that every friendship will need to endure a problem at some point or another. But while some problems are forgivable and will even serve to strengthen the friendship when they're over, others are simply deal-breakers, and you have to sever the relationship, even if it's painful. How do you decide which is which?
This is the Steps
1. Assess the cause. Why did you fight? Was it your fault, or your friend's fault that the matter escalated this far? Was it necessary, or was the fight over-blown? Assessing the truth about why you fought is going to be key to deciding whether or not the friendship can or should be saved.
2. Pinpoint the issue. What makes you think this is a deal-breaker? Did you fight over religion, politics? Those differences can make for heated debates - very interesting most times, if you have the stomach for them - but rarely should be cause for ending the friendship. Did you fight over a boy/girl? Again, boy/girlfriends may come and go, but your friend should outlast any of them, if your friendship is true. And there may be the crux of the matter - is your friendship true? Did you fight because your friend breached your trust, broke a promise, or committed a crime? These are serious problems, and must be carefully considered.
3. Seek counsel. Ask a trusted relative or friend - someone who is not a mutual friend, who will not spread what you say around your circle of friends. Be as objective as possible when explaining the circumstances, and ask for an unbiased opinion. Talking over your problem with a friend, a therapist, or a clergy member may really help you come to a good decision as to how best to handle the situation. But beware - if you tell someone you both know, this may spread like wildfire, and then you may not be in the driver's seat about ending it any more. You and your friend have already had a fight bad enough for you to consider whether or not the friendship can survive. Don't complicate things by running your mouth to people you both know - talk to someone outside your circle.
4. Weigh the benefits and detriments. If you decide to end this friendship, would your life be better in the end? How? Or would it be worse? Imagine your life without this person in it. Think about the fact that mutual friends would most likely divide between the two of you, with some remaining loyal to you, and some remaining loyal to your former friend. How will that affect you?
5. Consider whether either of you have had this sort of experience before. Have either you or your friend had this kind of blowout before? If your answer is yes, this fight may be part of a larger pattern for one of you. Look honestly at your own past - have you ever had a fight and then written a friend off afterward? If you have, try to break your old pattern by examining your own sensitivities. If you consult with other trusted friends or family members, they may verify or dismiss the notion that this may be a pattern with you. If your friend has told you of past such blowouts, think about that friend hard. Does s/he have many - or any - friends of long standing? People who have few long-term friends may develop a pattern of discarding friendships after a certain amount of time, or more crucially, after a certain level of intimacy or closeness develops. This is a defense, or guarding mechanism, and you may not be able to get past it.
6. Be sure you make your decision for the right reasons. Being angry with someone is not, of itself, reason enough to end a real friendship. Having your feelings hurt is not, of itself, reason enough either. These are the kinds of ups and downs that friendships, like sibling relationships, can endure if the two of you are willing to fight past your hurt and indignance - if you can do this and come together, talk things out, and come to resolution, your friendship can sail through these rough waters, and come out stronger than before, having been tested. But if your fight was over a serious, fundamental value difference, then your decision to end it may be the best for both of you. If, for example, your argument was over whether or not to call the cops on your friend's cousin for breaking into the house of a neighbor of yours, you may have an insurmountable problem. If you want to call the police, but your friend wants to protect her cousin, then you have a basic value difference: to you, wrong is wrong, no matter who it is. To your friend, blood is thicker than water, and family loyalty trumps legal and moral considerations. This is a problem that you may not be able to solve with discussion. If this is the case, you may have to part ways here.
7. Decide once and for all. Know that if you decide to end this friendship, there is probably no going back. If you end the friendship, try not to end it on the bitterest possible note. Dig deep inside yourself and be as kind as possible when you inform your soon-to-be ex-friend of your decision. If you're ending this over your friend wanting to protect a family member from possible criminal prosecution, you may not be able to achieve this. Chances are, you will go ahead and report the cousin (as you should), and your ex-friend will know it is you at the root of your cousin's impending incarceration. Once done, it is possible your friend will be relieved and come to you, saying s/he is glad it is over and bears you no ill will - this friendship can be saved. It's possible that your friend couldn't bring him or herself to report the cousin, but it's okay with your friend if you decided to be the "bad guy." But if it really is unsalvageable, try to say your goodbyes as nicely as you can: "Well, I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. Unfortunately, I feel like this argument has been too hard on the relationship, and I don't think I will be able to just let it go and resume our friendship. I think I need, at minimum, a break. And honestly, after the way this fight played out, I feel I might never be able to go back. Let's say goodbye for now, and if we end up meeting again, maybe we can start fresh." When you close the door, let that be the end of it.
8. Don't badmouth that person. Take the high road, no matter what. Don't say bad things about that person, and don't listen to anything bad about him or her, either. Just say, "We had our differences and I moved on. I don't want to discuss it, or anything about him or her, okay?" Saying bad things, or encouraging bad gossip just keeps things churning. Let it end. Your real friends will be able to discern what is true about you, and what is just angry ranting.

Remember!!!
* Ending a friendship is a loss. It can feel like you've experienced a death. Give yourself time to get over it.

End a Fight With a Friend #2

2008-09-10T04:17:00.000-07:00

This some Tips for you
* Its always better to let the argument simmer a little before confronting the person. If talk right after the fight, many things are said out of anger.
* Allowing bad feelings to brew for too long creates a situation that becomes more difficult to make up. So after the fight calms down, make sure you talk to the person before its too late.
* Its okay to be the first to give in and apologize. The other person probably wants to do it too, but it shows your courageous and a dedicated friend. Yet, if you're constantly in fights and always making up first, then take time to reconsider if this person is really a friend.
* If what you did to your friend was too hurtful it's better to just let that person cool down first or else you might just get yelled at with the reason why your friend got angry at you. So just say sorry after a few days so that the damage you made wouldn't be so fresh at to get that person more irritated at you.
* If the friend(s) are unforgiving then try to look back and see what you could have done. Read past emails, chats ect. This will help you understand thier point of view.
Remember
* When the disagreement was too hurtful, if your words or actions were too damaging, a friend might just not want to make up with you.
* If you had been disloyal, and did not reveal your true desire to continue a friendship, then think it over, and never say or do these things again.
* Avoid accusing the friend, if you accuse them it gives them more reason to fight back.
* True friends are hard to find and keep. Remember this. You will meet many friends in life, but only perhaps one will be true and sincere.

End a Fight With a Friend #1

2008-09-09T04:15:00.000-07:00

Sometimes we have a fight with a friend. Many times, you find that you even forgot what the fight was about. You just seemed to argue, and then stop talking to each other. Time goes by and you realize that you miss the friendship, and wished you could talk to your friend again. It is possible, and they probably feel the same way as you do. Someone has to take the initiative, and it might as well be you!
This is the Steps
1. Find out what the root issue is. Why did you have the fight?
2. Call your friend at a time that you feel they won't be tired, or too busy to talk.
3. Explain that you miss them and their friendship. Make sure you sound sincere and wait a few minutes to hear their response.
4. Reply to what they say, and how they feel. If they tell you that they were hurt by your actions, or your words, apologize.
5. Explain that at that moment, you did not realize how your words or actions had hurt them.
6. Respond by telling them, that you also were hurt by their attitude. That you felt betrayed or used.
7. Each of you, sincerely and honestly explain your feelings, and each of you listen to each other. They were hurt, and you were hurt. It takes two to argue, and it takes two to make up.
8. Talk until you each have said all you had to say. Get everything out, and then ask them to meet you for coffee, or a drink, or a walk.
9. Listen to how they react to meeting with you. If they are happy, and agree, then you have made up with your friend. However, expect that if they had been so completely hurt by the incident that caused the breakup, they might not agree to meet.
10. Consider this and understand that you had lost your friend and friendship.
11. Learn from the lesson that caused this breakup, and go on to making new friends.

and if they call you names or threatin to throw stuff at you just say how you feel then leave

Deal With a Jealous Person #2

2008-09-08T04:14:00.000-07:00

* Empowering them is a good way to diffuse their jealousy, but only do this for those people you feel are worthy of your time and energy. Ignore the others.
* Their jealousy is a mask for insecurity. Once you recognize there's nothing behind the veneer, you'll be fine.
* You have the right as a person to be in a stable healthy relationships. Choose to do so
Remember!!
* Jealous people will try to bring you down to their level. Don't let them. You don't have to be in a abusive relationship with anyone!
* If your mate is always jealous for no reason, accusing you of false affairs or activities, than you may be in trouble. Extreme jealousy can lead to very dangerous behavior. If you are not sure if your mate or date is mentally stable-be very careful. Stay safe and protect yourself. Don't make fun of them just reassure them that you care about them. Consider getting out of the relationship slowly and over time.
* Someone acting jealous does not mean they care about you. It means they have self esteem problems or can not except the end of the relationship.
* If you feel extreme jealousy and want to hurt the person or their belongings. Stop! Understand that your pain will stop over time and you will deeply regret any violence you have done. You need to reach out and talk to someone even if it is embarrassing. The person that you will feel jealous over has changed or moved on with their life. Ask yourself why? Try to "vent" out your strong feelings in writing as well just don't take actions towards the person.
* You have the right to end any conversation with a person who puts you down or is nasty in anyway.

Deal With a Jealous Person #1

2008-09-07T04:11:00.000-07:00

Whether you're dealing with a jealous acquaintance, relative, friend, mate or even a stranger, here's some step-by-step advice on how to respond. Also some tips to help you if you are feeling jealous as well.
Steps
1. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand the reasons behind his or her feelings. Jealousy often stems from insecurity or a sense of deep loss.
2. Offer encouragement and praise when something goes right for your friend, but whatever you do, don't hide your happiness for what is going right in your life. A true friend supports at all times and should be happy for your accomplishments.
3. Try to help the other person get what they are wishing to have. Give them helpful advice and suggestions.
4. Try not to say things that would make the person jealous. Don't have any big upset reaction to their jealousy because sometimes it feeds it. Stay calm and look them in the eye.
5. Look before you get involved with a very jealous person in a romantic relationship. If it is uncomfortable in any way-get out of the relationship at once. There are signs to watch for and it can be a big problem for you in the future. If they don't want you to have other friends-be careful. It is healthy and necessary for people to make friends, be comfortable around other people and make decisions based on your feelings or your judgement.
6. Realize that jealousy can be the root of many evil behaviors/ painful thoughts and even ruin a person. Everyone can feel jealous once in awhile but if it is always present and bothering you should seek help immediately. If you feel like you are doing strange, out of character things: spying, going through a person's things, waiting in your car at their work,etc. than you might be in the state of "romantic jealousy". It can be agony and you need to talk to someone about your problem.
7. Listen to the little voice inside of you. If it tells you to avoid, be afraid or scared of a person-listen to it.
This is the Tips
* You might be a fun, beautiful, gregarious person that people are jealous of. Too bad. Let them. You won't serve yourself any better by catering to their hate.
* When someone is envious of you, it means that you have something they want. If you want to help them and they seem nice and worth the effort, offer to tell them where you got that shirt or those shoes. Tell them how you stay positive.

How to Deal With Frienemies

2008-09-05T04:09:00.000-07:00

Have you ever had an enemy you used to call a friend? If you do, this guide will help you deal with the aggravations that come from their behavior.
following this Steps
1. Ignore the person if they make you or make fun of you. Make sure you give eye contact briefly, though, as this usually makes them think better of what they're doing.
2. Boost your self-confidence. If you can walk with your head high, unaffected by their comments, they will stop commenting. You won't seem wounded by the names, so you'll just be another one of those kids to him.
3. Keep your temper; stay above their level of juvenile jests and jeers. You will feel better being the "bigger person."
4. Enjoy yourself with your current friends. They can provide support and defend you in times of need.

This is Tips for you
* Ignoring your "frienemy" may be hard, but it gets easier as time goes on.
* Stand up for your friends, as they will come in handy later on.
Remember !!
* Never begin a fight, call them names, or show signs of aggression. The last thing you want is to go home with a black eye and bloody nose.

Be in Good Health

2008-09-03T04:50:00.000-07:00

Many people do not care about their health and are busy working and are taking calories in excess.The rate of obesity has risen due to the intake of sweets,chocolate and many food containing loads of fats.
Many precaution should be taken concerning the younger generation. With the advanced of technology, scientist have surely find ways to be slim and not to feel different from others. Many chemical solutions have been produced and sold on the World Market but not one doubt of further circumstances. Physical exercises also help the proper functioning of our heart. We have swimming,running slowly,walking fast not in a vigorous way and many sports activity. Many people think that sport is good for health. It's true that sport is good but the problem is that if we do not know how to practice it in the convenient manner it can be fatal to our health. We should do things according to our capacity. Human body has a limited capacity and we should all respect it. Consuming drugs to enforced our capacity is not efficient for our health in the long run even death can occur at the wrong time.
Some tips for you:
* Eat a lot of fruits and vegetables containing lots fibers.
* Have at least eight hour sleeping each day.
* At least fifteen minutes of exercise.
* A balanced diet is required.
* Breakfast plays a vital role in your health
* Use herbal product (vegetable) rather than product containing lots of chemical substances.
* Avoid smoking and drinking alcoholic drinks
* Drink one glass of water as you wake up every morning

Time to Identify Bad Friends

2008-09-03T04:02:00.000-07:00

There are the types of friends that are messy. They like to engage in gossip and bring your name into the conversation without your authorization. This might be because they want to make you look bad or to cover themselves.
Steps
1. Assets. They will also use you because you have assets like a car, your own apt./home, make lots of money, have vacation property, to get close to your bf or brother. They will eat up your house and home and even use your beauty products. But when you confront them, they become angry. They disrespect you and your belongings. You may also notice borrowing become an issue. They borrow money and never pay you back. Borrow your clothes, property, and never give it. Return it damaged. Let other people use/wear your belongings. They may also ask for a favor but can never return a favor.
2. "It's all about me" type of friends. They always talks about themselves. Also, they could care a less about you... your day, how your feeling, etc. You may also notice that they brag a lot. Whether it be about themselves, materialistic possessions, boyfriend, getting married, or a vacation, they always find something to make them sound better than you. Seems to always have an opinion about everything. An opinion is a person's ideas and thoughts towards something. It is an assessment, judgment or evaluation of something. An egocentric person has no theory of mind, cannot "put himself in other people's shoes," and believes everyone sees what he sees (or that what he sees in some way exceeds what others see. It appears that this is shown mostly in younger children. They are unable to separate their own beliefs, thoughts and ideas from others.
3. Poor me. Always come to you when they have problems for advice, but when you need to vent or advice they're very short with you. So not fair when you don't mind spending two hours plus to cool them down; instead for you it's like five minutes. You're not a therapist. They may also stay mad at you when you two are in a fight. This is because they can only see their point of view.
4. Clingy. Can't share you with other people. When they do see you with other people, they're jealous because they want you all to themselves. Can't include you to see a movie with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Spends lots of time with them, and when their other half is busy they want you all the time. They will ditch you for them if they come around.
5. Fake. Smiles in your face, but when around other people, make you feel small by continuously putting you down verbally. They may also do things such as drugs and deny it. They might promise to call you back, but never do. Always keeps you waiting. Always make excuses as to why they didn't call you.
6. Never acknowledges your ethnicity/culture. Considers you something else, and think it's alright to insult you heritage by using derogatory slang words around you knowing it offends you. Doesn't accept you for you for all that you are.

This is Tips for You:

* Don't set too many expectations and rules. That's just trapping others in your dimension.
* Allowing your friendship to evolve and change naturally is really best - it allows your friend to be as unique and individual as you are, and for both of you to enjoy one another in that light.
* If someone is in any difficulty and he/she's behave very hurtful to you, then don't be angry and try to understand their problems.

Deal With a Jealous Friend

2008-08-24T09:08:00.000-07:00

If you have a jealous friend who's making life difficult for you, here's how to fend off their negative attitude without ruining the friendship.
This is the steps

1. Know the difference between jealousy and honesty. What might seem like a deliberate attempt to put you down might actually be your friend giving you constructive criticism.
2. Put yourself in your friend's shoes and understand the reasons behind his or her feelings. Jealousy often stems from insecurity.
3. Get a second opinion. If your friend is making comments that seem to stem from jealousy, have someone else around who can look at the situation objectively. If they're not present, seek their opinion afterwards.
4. Show a positive attitude to let the jealous friend know that they have no power over you and that you are very confident about yourself. If you are not confident to begin with, then Build Self Confidence.
5. Help your friend raise their self-esteem and build a life that they can be proud of instead of looking enviously at yours. Empowering them is a good way to diffuse their jealousy, but only do this for those people you feel are worthy of your time and energy. If you want to help them and they seem nice and worth the effort, offer to show them how you, got your hair that way, where you found that shirt, how you got the killer job.
6. Offer encouragement and praise when something goes right for your friend, but whatever you do, don't hide your happiness for what is going right in your life. A true friend supports at all times and should be happy for your accomplishments.
7. Tell the friend how pathetic they are for acting like a child? Ask them to get some well needed therapy. Friends shouldn't need to be treated like babies.

Some Tips for you

* You might be a fun, beautiful, gregarious person that people are jealous of. Too bad. Let them. You won't serve yourself any better by catering to their hate.
* If your friend continues to be jealous and as a result tries to tear you down, consider breaking up with that friend.

Remember Bragging will only make any jealousy worse.

Try to Love Your Life

2008-07-24T12:29:00.000-07:00

We all have bad days periodically. Here are a few tips to help yourself get back into your own "groove"a and love your life.

1. Pamper yourself. Get a facial, a manicure, a massage or a haircut.
2. Try not to dwell in self-pity.
3. Take an extra long shower or an aromatherapy bath.
4. Listen to your favorite music. (If it is depressing consider listening to something happy)
5. Curl up with a book you've been meaning to read, while you enjoy a favorite refreshment or snack.
6. Go for a walk. Get outside. Breathe some fresh air. Move around.
7. Make a list of things you're thankful for. Count your blessings.Consider the things that you enjoy in your life and that make you happy; like sunflowers, watching an old movie, playing with your dog/cat, etc.
8. Love yourself.

A Few Tips

* Focus on the things you like most about yourself. If you have beautiful skin on your arms or have the perfect feet, then focus on that.
* Wear clothes and try to be with people who make you feel good about yourself.
* Compliments make us all feel good. Say "Really?? Thanks!!" to the people giving them to you and more will surely come your way!!

Use the Words "Mad" and "Angry"

2008-07-20T12:20:00.000-07:00

It is a common misconception that 'mad' and 'angry' mean the same thing. The definitions are different! So don't make people angry by being mad!

1. Understand the definitions:
1. Mad:
* Very foolish (Ex. "That was rather mad of you, challenging Dracula to a blood-drinking contest.")
* Marked by uncontrolled excitement or emotion (Ex. "When he saw the wine glasses filled with red liquid, the vampire was swept away in a mad whirl of giddiness.")
* Affected with madness or insanity (Ex. "Upon arriving at the scene, the doctor, taking one look at the waxen, heavily draped creature which lay twitching nervously in the corner, pronounced his patient as being 'quite mad.'").
2. Anger (often used as 'angry):
* A strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some real or supposed grievance.
* Belligerence aroused by a real or supposed wrong.

Remember the phrase 'stark raving mad', and you should be fine.

Calm an Upset or Angry Child

2008-07-19T12:17:00.000-07:00

When small children (about 2-6) get angry or upset, it's hard to calm them down, especially if you're a babysitter and don't know the child very well. This article helps babysitters, parents, and anyone else taking care of a child that is throwing a tantrum, crying, refusing to do something, etc...

1. Make sure the child is unhurt. Is physical pain upsetting him or her? If so, and he/she is hurt, take care of their wound, or bump in the head, etc. If the child is still upset (ex. 'Sally hit me!') there may be some anger towards the person or thing that caused the injury. If so, skip to step #4.
2. If the child is upset or angry about something related to one of his/her toys or possessions (ex. "Jimmy broke my doll!) ask to see the toy and try to fix it. In the worst-case-scenario, the toy will be permanently broken, and you may want to 'put away so you can fix it properly later'- and wait to see if the child forgets about it. If not, you can either buy that child a new thing or get it repaired.
3. If he/she is angry about a privilege being taken away, not getting to have dessert, having to turn off the television, having to go to bed, or simply is having a very bad day, don't be harsh. Be gentle and caring. Try to reason with the child. Ask what he/she wants, if they had their way. Do they demand to stay up another half-hour (or whatever)? Make a bargain, that they may stay up for ten minutes but that you would read them a story at bedtime (or whatever). Go halfway and give them a deal. If they still are being a pain, or if you simply can't let them stay up, tell them that they have to go to bed, and give them the reasons why.
4. If another child is upsetting him/her, find out why, then confront the other child and ask him or her to apologize. if you have any authority over the antagonizer, then give him/her a minor punishment (not watching TV that day, whatever) to make the other child feel better.

this is the tips

* Don't be harsh. Any upset child will respond negatively to an adult treating them harshly. Even if you are at you're wits' end, try to give them a little comfort and be nice.
* if there are any injuries on the child, treat them even if the child doesn't want you to ('it stings!' etc..). Safety first.

Remember

* if the child is doing anything potentially harmful or dangerous, make them stop. Immediately.

Handle Angry Customers

2008-07-17T12:09:00.000-07:00

If you own or run a business, or even work at a business where you serve customers, there are going to be displeased customers. These simple steps may help you make your angry customer happy.
this is the steps

1. Be patient. An irate customer won't be placated by anything but a satisfactory resolution to their problem. Getting angry back at them won't help.
2. Approach the angry customer and ask what they are displeased with. Usually restating the issue they are having will help to calm them. For example, say, "I can understand your frustration with that policy."
3. If they ask for the manager, get him/her quickly and do your best to solve the problem.
4. After they address the problem, apologize for taking their time and inform them that your business will do everything possible to correct it. Then, make sure you and your coworkers do everything possible to correct the situation.
5. Compliment them after the discussion. Say something to the effect of, "It's people like you that help our business."
6. The next time they come back, ask how their day is and do everything possible to be polite.

You also try:

* Always be polite!
* Try not to take their complaint personally - even if it's about your own job performance. If you feel yourself become emotionally involved in the issue, it is best to step aside and let another employee handle the situation.
* Think about how you would want a problem handled if you had a complaint. Then, treat your angry customer as you would want to be treated.
* If you simply cannot give the customer what they want, give them something for free (you may need a manager's approval) to make up for it.
* Make the angry customer want to come back again.
* A customer complaint can be a vehicle for customer retention. If you handle the customer appropriately and apologize effectively you can turn a negative into a positive.

Remember this :

* Never be mean to the angry customer. Remember, you want them to come back again. If you insult them, they are sure never to come back, and they'll probably tell their friends, which can result in your business sinking to the bottom of the ocean (Going bust).
* Some customers are known to complain about anything. If you come across one of those customers, try to discuss with your manager whether this client is beneficial to the company or whether it might be worth to lose him, because he doesn't do a great deal of business and causes the company a lot of time in dealing with his daily complaints. The time wasted on one client like this could be dedicated to customers that are "true" customers.
* Please remember that the safety of you, your coworkers, and other customers comes first. If a customer crosses the line by making abusive, threatening, or hostile actions or threatens to, immediately call 911 and inform your supervisor when it is safe to do so. Companies would rather lose an abusive customer than have their employees, vendors, or other clients hurt or worse in the course of business.

Communicate With an Angry Person

2008-07-15T12:01:00.000-07:00

We encounter many angry people in our daily lives who are angry for things that at time, they cannot control. Some are angry because they are out of work, others because of the world situation. Others show anger while driving and a car in front of them is too slow. It seems we are a nation of anger, and we have to learn how to deal with them properly.

Steps

1. Remain calm. This is absolutely essential. No matter how unfair or frustrating the situation do not get angry. To communicate with someone, you need to remain levelheaded to get your point across.
2. Determine why they are angry. Is there something you did that caused them to get mad? Are they displacing their anger at something else onto you? Or is it completely irrational? Either way, address the problem.
3. Try to have them Calm Down. Do not be patronizing, though, or you will make them even madder.
4. Be polite. Acting rudely will only aggravate them more.
5. Try to help. If you are working with them in a business context, provide them with service as quickly as possible. If not, listen to them. Don't say anything, just listen.

Tips for communicate witha an angry person

* Don't patronize or explain why their anger is irrational.
* Don't get frustrated or let your emotions get the better of you.

Remember this

* Rudeness or a bad attitude will make the situation worse.
* Don't back down if you truly did not do anything wrong. Instead, look at the situation from their point of view. Why would they think it was your fault?

Be Safe in Your Trip to Costa Rica

2008-07-13T07:07:00.000-07:00

Most people have considered Costa Rica for one of their tropical vacation, but safety is alway a concern when traveling to a unfamiliar country. Here are steps to better prepare yourselve for possible crime or cultural differences.

1. Take a deep breath and relax. You are as safe as you are aware.
2. Always know where your money is.
3. Carry mace or other non-lethal protection.
4. Try to book your hotels in advance; when you arrive in Costa Rica rates may be higher.
5. It is best to use an ATM or credit card to get money. If you must exchange Dollars or traveler's checks, use a local exchange rather than the airport.

Tips for you

* Use smaller hotels such as: Costa Rica Hotel San Gildar instead of bigger chains. That will give you a better cultural experience.

Remember

* Don't drive with your windows open in downtown San Jose. Their have been cases of quick theiverys by walkers.
* Never walk around with your passport, instead take a photocopy with you and leave your passport in the safety box at the hotel.

Plan a Romantic Trip to San Diego

2008-07-11T11:11:00.000-07:00

San Diego is a fabulous destination for romance. Learn how to have a romantic trip with you and your loved one during a stay in San Diego.

1. Select a hotel. There are many to choose from. The most romantic are either on the beach or along the shore. Good places to look for beachfront hotels are in Coronado, Pacific Beach, Mission Bay, and La Jolla.
2. Make reservations for at least one really romantic restaurant during your stay. Possibilities include: Outdoor Terrace Bistro at George's at the Cove in La Jolla, Marine Room in La Jolla, Forever Fondue in La Jolla, Bertrand at Mister A's in downtown San Diego, and The Prado in Balboa Park.
3. Spend one evening on the water. You can take a Bay cruise from a company such as Hornblower Cruises. There's also an historic sternwheeler that cruises Mission Bay called the Bahia Belle. Both provide live music and dancing. Other choices are sunset kayak rides along the cliffs and caves of La Jolla or a romantic gondola ride on Coronado Island.
4. If you are going during the summer months, be sure to get some firewood and head to a beach for a bonfire. Most San Diego beaches have firepits and bonfires are allowed in the pits until midnight. If you time it right, you can also watch the fireworks over Sea World.
5. Catch at least one romantic sunset from a San Diego beach or from the top of Mount Soledad in La Jolla.

This is the Tips

* You can have a romantic day with your loved one anywhere and any place. Put some effort into letting that special someone in your life know how much you are in love and romance will happen.

Pack for a Trip to China#2

2008-07-08T03:03:00.000-07:00

* Find a cassette language course, or bring a translation dictionary. While it is important to understand some Chinese, don't stress, just know the basics, enough to get you by. Keep in mind, though, that most Chinese people, outside of employees at 5-star hotels/restaurants and shops that cater to foreign tourists, will NOT be able to speak English. (aside from "hello!!") So, if you want to venture off the beaten path, learn some key phrases. Also, ask someone at the hotel you are staying at if they could write down, in chinese, the places you wish to go during the day. That way, if you have a taxi driver, you can show them where you want to go. #If you are staying in the urban areas, chances are high that you'll be able to communicate OK in English.
* Always carry a business card of the hotel you are staying at. This way, no matter what happens, someone will be able to get you back to where you want to be. Just in case of emergency, it would also be a good idea to bring a copy of you passport with you and leave your real passport locked in the safe at your hotel.
* Know where to find your currency collection places. It is not possible to obtain Chinese currency outside of China. So you will need to know where to access major hotels and big banks in the big cities so that you can cash the travelers' checks or credit card when needed.
* Pay attention to how much cash you have with you. It is a good idea to keep enough to get a taxi back to your hotel. All major airports will have ATMs, so get the money once you arrive.
* Spend some time with a map and get to know the places you are staying or will be visiting. It will help you get your bearings before wandering off into the city.
* Insider Tips: Chinese people respect visitors from the Western world, and are quite helpful. Drink Coke whenever you're in doubt about the kinds of foods you have eaten - it will help digest whatever is not appropriate in your stomach...but don't overdo it.
* Make sure you know what you're eating and how well it's been cooked. In places like Wangfujing market in Beijing, sometimes many of the snacks aren't cooked thoroughly.
* If you are of Caucasian or African ancestry, do not be suprised if people ask you to take a picture with them.
* Prepare for your trip by making a print with all the hotels you will visit in Chinese charcters (use the chinese website for this or google translate). This will help the taxidrivers. Very rarely they speak English.

Warning to all,if you going trip to china please remember this
* Chinese culture is unique, and sometimes comes as a shock to outsiders. Don't be the obnoxious tourist! People will be more willing to help you if you aren't stubborn.
* Be aware of pick-pockets, as you should when in any big city or foreign country. Have a short chain connecting your belongings to yourself. In crowded areas, such as train stations, wear your backpack/purse on the front of your body, instead of on your back. Use carry-on locks on your zippers. Wear your wallet in a chest pocket. Dress in black formal attire, and look around as if sizing people up for a fight (if you're a man) to intimidate thieves. If you're a woman, you're SOL since most Chinese do not consider women dangerous or intimidating.
* In major cities, be wary of giving money to the poor. If you give money to one, others will almost always follow and ask for money too.
* Make sure the taxi driver uses the meter, this way there is less chance of being cheated. Be careful!
* It is always safest to buy water bottles than to drink from fountains.

Happy Vacation and enjoy your trip.....

Pack for a Trip to China#1

2008-07-08T03:01:00.000-07:00

China is a very interesting and thrilling place to visit. There are a few key things that you need to be sure to bring with you, and some tips that can help you along your way.

1. Arrive prepared in China. Though there is shopping on every street corner, many of the things you may be used to may be unavailable to you in China. Bring toilet paper as most restrooms will not provide this. Plan ahead by saving toilet paper, in advance of the trip. Each time you have a partial roll left, place this in a baggie and toss it into your suitcase. Six to eight small rolls will last a family of four through a two week trip. Take only a key to your house or a car key with you. Leave all others at home.
2. Bring Pepto Bismol and Immodium chewables. Water quality in China is very poor and you may develop slight intestinal problems if you use tap water to brush your teeth or if you eat vegetables which have not been cooked after having been rinsed in tap water.
3. Bring clothes according to what season you are traveling. China gets VERY HOT in the summer, and quite cold in the winter. Bring plenty of clothes, but remember you can always find a laundromat to get your clothes washed. Beware, however, some laundry places use detergent that can irritate your skin if it is sensitive.
4. When you take a shower, be careful not to get any water in your mouth. It tastes normal, but could easily make you sick. Always brush your teeth with bottled water.
5. Consult your physicians in advance of travel. Physicians will prescribe antibiotics for you and advise you as to when to use the medicine. Be sure to have your prescriptions filled before your trip. China requires that you present a letter from your doctor indicating the need for the use of any psychotropic medicines you might be taking. Bring antibiotics and any other prescriptions you will have to take during your travel. Count enough for your days of travel, plus a few spare pills. Bring all of this in the original prescription container.
6. Write the contact information for each of your doctors on an index card and take this with you during your day trips in the event you have a medical problem, and need to call home.
7. Stock a hip pack for each member of your party with a small roll of toilet paper and a small bottle of hand sanitizer Enclose also a granola bar, some cough drops, as and some gum. These will come in handy as you travel around town.Include a flashlight since electrical blackouts can happen at any time, and you might find yourself in a dark room.
8. Take Travelers Checks, and some cash, as credit cards are not accepted by many restaurants and shops. Bring a security pack which will allow you to keep any return flight or train tickets and your travelers checks, credit cards, and or cash, safely attached to your person, underneath your clothes. This way you can keep essential items safe if there is no safe in your hotel room.

This is some Tips for trip to China

* Decide where you want to go, and do research before you leave. Know the general weather for the season and location you will be. There's nothing more miserable than being dressed for the wrong weather. Also, it is important that you dress conservatively. Long pants and nice shirts and tops are good.
* Read several histories of China to make the sights more comprehensible. Bring your guide books with you so you can read them on the airplane and in your hotel room so the information will be fresh in your mind.

Plan a Trip#2

2008-07-05T10:31:00.001-07:00

7. Travel light. Leave space for shopping. Moreover, traveling with lots of luggage restricts your movement and causes discomfort. Only pack the necessities.
8. Notify a friend or family about your leaving. If possible, leave them a contact number or address.
9. If traveling internationally, make sure your documents are in order. Keep your passport, travel documents, visas, and similar items in a safe pouch.
10. Buy film, or keep digital camera batteries on hand.
11. Put vacation notices on your mail, and remember to set your answering machine.

This is some Tips for you

* If you are new to traveling, plan your trip through a travel agency, especially if you are going to a foreign country. It will make your trip so much easier!
* Try to book your hotel in advance. If traveling with a large group, arrange for a car to pick you up from the airport to minimize hassle.
* Call home!
* Get book(s) about your destination from your local bookstore

Plan a Trip#1

2008-07-05T10:30:00.000-07:00

Some trips are scrimped and saved for, and others can be spontaneous and exciting. All trips are meant for adventure, relaxation and enjoyment. By planning well, you can ensure you that you and your family can enjoy a hassle-free trip!
1. Choose your location. Research it online and discuss it with your fellow travelers. Make a list.
2. Keep in mind weather and climatic conditions, merits and demerits of the place, types of recreation (beaches, culture, shopping), and facilities (transport, eating out, etc).
3. Plan around your location. What clothes are suitable? Are any medications needed? Do you need to take foodstuffs? What about currency?
4. Make a loose schedule. Planning too far ahead may backfire, because vacations hardly ever go as planned. Plan for spontaneity, but keep hints from travel guides in mind. Mark places to visit and things to do. How many days do you have? You should keep the overall schedule in mind - you do not want to end up too tired (or alternatively, bored).
5. Make a list. Write down the places you want to visit, including restaurants, museums, malls, and other places of interest. This will help give you ideas and prevent being completely lost when you arrive and do not know what to do.
6. Make a budget. If you plan ahead, you can save on ticket prices.

Time to Be a Good Listener #3

2008-06-23T07:09:00.000-07:00

There Tips For You

* Never criticize while listening, and never attack another person for his or her feelings. This spoils your reputation as a listener and will completely remove the speaker's motivation to speak up.
* Listening is about creating a caring environment in which the other person feels encouraged by your ability to understand.
* Don't judge anyone for their opinion or actions. Remember you, like everyone else has done or felt something you're not proud of now. ask yourself 'Who am I to judge anyone?'
* The more you listen, the more trusted you become.
* The more difficult listening becomes, the more important it is to listen.
* Remember that when your counterpart feels that he or she has been listened to, he or she is much more likely to listen to your ideas. On the contrary, if no one ever listened to each other, then they would fall victim to bad listening, and would not have a chance to fully express themselves. Your desire to express should begin with listening well to others.
* Postpone an important conversation if you are not in the mood to listen. It is better to not talk about it if you are not ready than to try to force through a conversation where you are too distracted by emotions, worries, and other things that prevent you from listening.
* Avoid phrases that imply that you have not listened fully to the points communicated to you such as "Yeah but..." Instead, learn to use phrases that provide confirmation that you have heard the other side fully, such as "I see. Now tell me what you would say to this..."
* Keep in mind that sometimes we need to listen "between the lines," but there are times when we need to absorb things at face value. When we listen intensively, our minds are often busy placing what we hear into the situation and our emotions, which creates barriers to our ability to listen fully what is being said. This is similar to making judgments and drawing conclusions before all has been said. Don't do that. Take it at its face value and go with the flow.
Remember this warnings

* Never assume that what worked for you will work for everyone else as well.
* Never try to fit in your biographical account and "been-there-done-that" experiences into what the speaker is saying. It is better to keep quiet, even if you have had the same problem a year ago and you know how to work your way out. If you listen well, it is quite possible that your suggestions and experience will be solicited later on.
* If you find yourself formulating a response before the other person has finished speaking, you are not listening.
* The more confident you are in your own idea, the more you should be willing to suspend that point of view for the moment.
* If a person pauses as if trying to think of the right word, don't jump in with a word of your own. Some people are careful about their choice of words. It doesn't mean they need help. Finishing someone's thought is rude and disruptive.

Time to Be a Good Listener #2

2008-06-23T07:07:00.000-07:00

6. Wait for the person to open up. In the process of encouraging a constructive response, an active listener must continue to be patient and let the speaker acquire his or her full flow of thoughts, feelings, and ideas. Keep yourself in his or her shoes and try to estimate why he or she is in such a situation.

7. Use body gestures and facial expressions to express your interest and to unearth what is left unsaid. Active listening involves the entire body and face--both yours and that of the speaker:

* Your expression: Look interested and meet the gaze of your speaker from time to time. Do not overwhelm the speaker by staring intently, but do reflect friendliness and openness to what you are listening to.

* Read between the lines: Always be alert for things that have been left unsaid or for cues that can help you gauge the speaker's true feelings. Watch the facial and body expressions of the speaker to try to gather all information you can, not just from the words. Imagine what kind of state of mind would have made you acquire such expressions, body language, and volume.

* Speak at approximately the same energy level as the other person. This way, he or she will know that the message is getting through and that there is no need to repeat.

8. Be patient and respect pauses. Do not jump to speak up after the speaker has come to his or her own conclusions or resolutions and there is a pause. It is possible that more is yet to be said by the speaker. Let the speaker be the first to break this silence. You can always come back with your solutions or suggestions next time you talk, or the speaker may ask you to clarify your thoughts or offer more opinions at the time. Listening is about understanding another person, not about making suggestions (unless asked).

9. Try to reassure the speaker that all is well. Whatever the conclusion of the conversation, let the speaker know that you have been happy to listen and to be a sounding board. Make it clear that you are open to further discussion if need be, but that you will not pressure him or her at all. In addition, reassure the speaker of your intention to keep the discussion confidential. Offer to assist with any solutions if you have the ability, time, and expertise. Do not build up false hopes, however. If the only resource you can provide is to continue to be an active listener, make that very clear; in and of itself, this is a very valuable help to any person.

10. Accept that everyone has a unique thought process and ways to express himself/herself. Too often we jump to conclusion before others finish talking because we place information we hear into our own thought process. Try not to do that. Instead, look for fine differences if it sounds like the speaker may be agreeing with you, and look for areas he or she might indicate agreement if it sounds like an objection. Understand that you do not need 100% agreement to reach the same decision.

11. Just because someone is speaking to you, do not presume that they are asking you for your input! All too often we think the other person really wants to know what we think about what they are saying…wrong! Wait, let the speaker ask you for your opinion, thoughts or ideas. Otherwise, you may become the speaker but you will not have a “listener” in the audience! This is a fun exercise. You may be surprised at how many people will NOT ask you for your input. And all these years that you have simply “chimed in” with your input, you thought they actually wanted it.

Time to Be a Good Listener #1

2008-06-23T07:03:00.000-07:00

Listening is an essential part of communication, and it is different from hearing. Being a good and patient listener helps you not only solve many problems at work or home, but also to see the world through the eyes of others, thereby opening your understanding and enhancing your capacity for empathy. Besides which, you learn a lot from listening. As deceptively simple as listening to and acknowledging other people may seem, doing it well, particularly when disagreements arise, takes sincere effort and lots of practice.

Please following this steps

1. Place yourself in the other person's shoes. It is often too easy to wonder about how what the other person is telling you is impacting you. As you worry about this, you reflect any tension, annoyance, or irritation back in your body gestures and facial expressions. Active listening is not about inward thinking. Instead, you must draw away from the temptation to do this by looking at the issues from the other person's perspective and actively trying to see his or her point of view. It is not a good idea to consider yourself to be smarter than the speaker and assume that if you would have been in his or her shoes, you would have seen your way through the problem much faster.

2. Remove all distractions. Give the speaker 100% of your attention. Turn off cell phones, do not let your eyes wander about looking for a break, and politely brush aside any interruptions such as waiters or people who suddenly spot you and want to say "hello." It may be easiest to arrange to talk somewhere that such distractions will not occur.

3. Practice the empathetic sounding back technique. At appropriate intervals during the conversation, it is helpful to "summarize and restate" and/or "repeat and encourage" the main points:
* Repeat and encourage: Repeat some of the things said by the speaker. At the same time, encourage the speaker with positive feedback. For example, you might say: "You didn't enjoy having to take the blame. I can see why." Go easy with this technique, however, because if you overwork it, it may come across as being patronizing.
* Summarize and restate: It is also very useful to summarize what the speaker is saying and restate it in your own words. This is a form of reassuring the speaker that you have truly been listening to what he or she is saying. It also provides the speaker with an opportunity to correct any mistaken assumptions or misconceptions that have may have arisen during the course of the conversation. This is an especially good technique to try when you find yourself getting frustrated or restless in your listening.

4. Do not interrupt with what you feel or think about the topic being discussed. Wait for another person to ask your opinion before interrupting the flow of discussion. Active listening requires the listener to shelve his or her own opinions temporarily, and await appropriate breaks in the conversation for summarizing. Abstain from giving direct advice. Instead, let him or her talk the situation out and find his or her own way. Besides, if he or she takes your advice and something goes wrong, he or she will be likely to blame you (whether he or she tells you or not).

5. Ask meaningful and empowering questions. Do not seek to probe or make the other person defensive. Rather, aim to use questions as a means by which the speaker can begin to reach his or her own conclusions about the concerns or issues being raised. Once you have shown empathetic listening, it is time to move into empowering listening by re-framing the questions that you ask the the speaker. For example: "You didn't enjoy having to take the blame. But I cannot understand why you feel blamed rather than merely being asked not to do something that way." Wording the question in this manner presents the speaker with a need to respond directly to your lack of grasping something. In the process of doing so, the speaker should begin to move from a more emotional response to a more constructive response.

Communicate Effectively

2008-06-22T03:33:00.000-07:00

Communication makes the world go round. On a smaller level, communication, or being able to communicate effectively, is what gets you through each day, in both your career and personal life. No matter what your age, background or experience, communicating effectively is something that every person can achieve. All it requires is self-confidence, good articulation and knowledge of how communication can be made more effective.

Remember this

* To talk without purpose is to ramble. If you want to be taken lightly, ramble.

* Do not whine or plead. Neither is guaranteed to instill respect or interest in the listener. If you are very upset, excuse yourself and come back to the discussion later when you have had a chance to think it through.

* Be careful with levity. While a little humor injected into what you are discussing can be very effective, do not take it too far and do not rely on it as a crutch to cover up the hard-to-say things. If you keep giggling and joking, your communication will not be taken seriously.

The Way to Apologize #3

2008-06-21T07:09:00.000-07:00

* If the person is willing to talk to you about making amends, see this as an opportunity. If you've forgotten your wife's birthday, for instance, you might decide to celebrate another night and make it extra wonderful and romantic. This won't relieve you of responsibility for remembering the next important occasion, of course, but it will show that you're willing to take special time and effort.

* One apology will often cause another, either from you for something else you realized you are sorry for, or from the other person because they realize the conflict was mutual. Be prepared to forgive.

* A proper apology is always about the injured party. Keep your apology focused on the actual wrong done, and the recipient.

* Don't keep asking if he or she is mad at you. This puts the focus back on you, and makes you sound impatient and selfish. Just as it takes time to heal, it can take time to forgive.

Remember !!!

* Sometimes attempted apologies turn into a rehash of the same argument you wanted to amend. Be very careful not to re-argue any topics or open any old wounds.

* Don't be too surprised (or suspicious) if you are forgiven. Take people at their word, just like they took your apology.

* Don't apologize unless you really mean it. You can spot a false apologies from a mile away, and so can others.

* Even if you feel that the conflict was partly because of the other person's miscommunication, do not say so in the middle of your apology. At most, mention briefly that the other person can help you avoid misunderstandings by reminding you when you step out of line, and apologize again for the hurt you caused.

* Do not talk about about how bad you feel. The apology is not about your guilt, your shame, your fear of rejection, your anxiety or your loneliness while waiting to be forgiven. It is about the other person - remember that, even if it seems to be taking them a long time to forgive you.

* Never assume that the injured party is "punishing" you by taking time to forgive you, but watch for warning signs that they will hold a grudge forever. If you hear the words "I'm not going to let you forget this," or "I'll be your friend again, but this will change our friendship forever," listen to your gut, and consider letting the relationship go.

The Way to Apologize #2

2008-06-21T07:07:00.000-07:00

6. "This is an explanation, not an excuse. There is no excuse."

Make amends. Think about what caused you to make the offense. Is it because you're a little too laid back about being on time, or remembering important dates? Is it because you tend to react instantly to certain comments, without pausing to consider an alternative point of view? Is it because you are unhappy with your life, and you unknowingly take it out on others? Find the underlying problem, describe it to the person (as an explanation, not an excuse), and tell them what you intend to do to rectify that problem so that you never repeat this mistake again:

* "I snapped at you because I've been so stressed out with work lately, and it's selfish of me to take it out on you. Starting tomorrow, I'm going to cut down my hours to X per week. I really think it'll help me unwind, and help us spend more quality time together."

* "I've been distant and cold because I get paranoid that you're going to walk out on me because I don't have a job. But that's a terrible thing to do.

7. Express your appreciation for the role they play in your life, emphasizing that you do not want to jeopardize or damage the relationship. This is the time to briefly recount what has created and sustained the bond over time and tell loved ones that they are indeed loved. Describe what your life would be missing without their trust and their company.

8. Ask if they will give you a chance to make up for what you did wrong. Insist on proving to them that you have learned from your mistake, and that you will take action to change and grow as a result, if they will let you. Make a clear request for forgiveness and wait for their answer. This gives the injured party the well deserved "power" in determining the outcome of the situation.

9. Be patient. If an apology is not accepted, thank them for hearing you out and leave the door open for if they wish to reconcile later. (E.g. "I understand you're still upset about it, but thanks for giving me the chance to apologize. If you ever change your mind, please give me a call.") If you are lucky enough for your apology to be accepted, avoid the temptation to throw in a few excuses at the end. Instead, have a transition planned out beforehand for what you can do to solidify the clean slate (e.g. "Let's go get some coffee and catch up. It'll be my treat. I miss knowing what you're up to.").

10. Stick to your word. This is the most important step. A true apology entails a resolution, and you have to carry out your promise in order for the apology to be sincere and complete. Otherwise, your apologies will lose their meaning, and trust may disappear beyond the point of no return. Follow through.

Following this tips

* One on one.

If you can, pull the person aside so that you can apologize while you're alone. Not only will this reduce the likelihood of other people influencing the person's decision, but it will also make you a little less nervous. However, if you insulted the person publicly and made him/her lose face, your apology is much more effective if done publicly.

* Use relaxed and humble body language. Keeping your arms crossed or pointing fingers will put the other person on the defensive.

The Way to Apologize #1

2008-06-21T07:01:00.000-07:00

We all know what an apology is--an expression of remorse or guilt over having done something that is acknowledged to be wrong, and a request for forgiveness. But we also know it can be really hard to swallow our pride and say "I'm sorry." If you have a difficult time making amends for mistakes or repairing the effects of angry words, here's how to keep your dignity while being humble, and invite forgiveness with grace.

Try this steps

1. Realize that what you did was wrong. and probably hurt this person

2. Realize that there is no excuse. Do not try to think of or offer one. An apology with an excuse is not an apology. Take Full Responsibility.

3. Decide when to apologize. Sometimes immediately after your mistake is best, sometimes not. The sting of a harsh word can be cooled right away with a quick apology, but other offenses might need the other person to cool down before they are willing to even listen to your next sentence. However, the sooner you apologize for your mistake, the more likely it will be viewed as an error in judgment and not a character flaw.

4. "I'm sorry...I shouldn't have said that."

Write your apology down. Construct a letter to the person you're apologizing to, rehearsing what you will say in person. If you don't feel comfortable with writing, then use a voice recorder. Not only will this help you remember what to say when you're face to face with them, but you can also bring the copy with you and hand it to them if you find the apology quite difficult to express. But don't forget that a direct and honest apology is best. Do it face to face, if possible. A phoned, emailed or recorded apology shows a lack of sincerity and effort and should only be a last resort.

5. Begin the apology by naming the offense and the feelings it may have caused. Be specific about the incident so that they know exactly what you're apologizing for. Make it a point to avoid using the word "but". ("I am sorry, but..." means "I am not sorry.") Also, do NOT say "I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I'm sorry if you were offended." Be sorry for what you DID! "I'm sorry you feel that way" makes it see like you are blaming the other person, and is not a real apology. Validate their feelings or discomfort by acknowledging your transgression's (potential) effects, while take responsiblity:

* "Boss, I'm sorry I'm late again, I know my shift started 10 minutes ago. I hope this doesn't complicate your day."

* "Dear, I'm sorry I forgot your birthday - there's no excuse. I hope you don't feel neglected, please let me set this right."

How to Have Fun when You Are by Yourself

2008-06-19T07:09:00.000-07:00

No matter who are you, there are times where you will have to be alone. Instead of being bored or lonely, learn how to make the most of your time alone and actually enjoy it! This is a list of tons of things you can do by yourself...

Following this steps

1. Have a favorite singer, actor, artist, etc.? Write a fan letter!

2. Read a book. There are books on just about every subject. Romance, horror, comedy, books about snimals, hobbies, etc. Find one you like and read!

3. Listen to music. If you get really creative, make up a dance routine to a song!

4. Practice sports so that you can improve on your techniques.

5. Do volunteer work. You can volunteer at a hospital, a animal shelter, nursing home, etc.

6. Follow a recipe and make some kind of food, or make up a new recipe of your own.

7. Start a journal and write in it regularly. All you need is a notebook and a pen or pencil.

8. Reorganize your closet or dresser. Make a place for each different type of clothing you have.

9. Clean your room or do other housework. It may sound boring, but you can make it fun by listening to music and rewarding yourself when you are done. Plus, it will feel good to not have to worry about the mess later.

10. Write a song.

11. Write a poem.

12. Write a story. You don't have to be a great writer. Just think up a plot and give it a go! You can share your story with others or keep it to yourself.

13. Teach yourself how to play an instrument.

14. Exercise. Do basic sit-ups and push-ups, jog, run, walk, and do something fun like swim or play DDR! You will get fit, have more energy, and feel better about yourself.

15. Watch TV or a movie.

16. Play a video game or a copmuter game.

17. Go outside or to a park and try taking beautiful "artsy" type photography.

18. Go to the library.

19. Learn a new language.

20. Write a letter.

21. Make something for someone you care about and give it to them.

22. Get a penpal. You can find one on a number of websites. All you have to do is type in "penpal" on google, and thousands of websites for penpals will come up. Find one around your age and talk to them about life. Plus, if they live in a different country, you can learn about what it's like to live there!

23. Go online and learn everything you can about something you love.

24. Go for a bike ride or go roller skating/blading.

25. Make a scrapbook.

26. Spend time with your pet if you have one. Wash it, walk it, play with it, clean it's cage, etc.

27. Go shopping.

28. Have a picnic by yourself. Pack a lunch and enjoy it in your backyard or at the park.

29. Draw, paint, make pottery, or color.

30. Create a web site about something you love.

31. Go tanning.

32. Take a nap if you are tired.

33. Build a bird house.

34. Make a collage with pictures from magazines.

35. Go outside and plant some flowers.

36. Have a garage sale and sell things that you don't want anymore.

37. Take some advice from Mary Poppins and go fly a kite.

38. Tie-dye a shirt.

39. Start a collection.

40. Learn how to sew, knit, or crochet.

41. Make an online blog.

42. Decorate your room.

43. Create your own holiday and celebrate it.

44. Make jewelry.

45. Make a mix CD of your favorite songs.

46. Go camping in your backyard.

47. Go to the bookstore.

48. Design your own cartoon.

49. Build a fort.

50. Call someone on the phone.

51. Go for a walk.

52. Daydream.

53. Tired of doing your hair the same old way? Try coming up with new ways to style your hair! Come up with enough styles to do your hair differently for a week, or even a whole month!

54. Start a new hobby.

55. Get a tape recorder and record yourself talking or singing.

56. Make a video.

57. Go fishing.

Make yourself Enjoy Bro…

Have Fun when Your Best Friend Visits

2008-06-17T07:07:00.000-07:00

When your best friend visits sometimes you can't think of anything to do. This makes the visit seem like a waste. Don't waste this great time! Here is how you can avoid being bored.

You can do this steps

1. Plan ahead. Before your friend even comes, talk about what you both like to do. The best way to tackle a boring plan-less visit is to create a plan before it happens.

2. Talk with your best friend. Your subjects can include anything that interests the both of you.

3. Ask about his/her life. Discuss what's been going on since you last saw each other- if your best friend seems excited about something, you should be (or appear to be) interested.

4. Ask your friend about going to the movies. Go see the hottest new film that you two have been dying to see- it's likely to give you something to talk about afterwards. Don't force your friend to see something s/he doesn't want to see.

5. Go outside. It's nice to get fresh air every once in awhile. You can go for a walk, swim, or play a sport.

6. Play a game. Do you have a monopoly game sitting around somewhere? Pull it out, and have some fun! However, don't play if it's boring.

7. Browse the internet. The internet has many fun sites and games for the both of you to check out and interest you.

8. Invite other friends over. Other friends can spice things up! You'll have more to talk about, and more people means more ideas about what to do.

Following this tips

* If your friend doesn't like what you both are doing and wants to stop, don't try to convince them otherwise.

* If your friend is staying over for dinner, know what s/he does and does not like.

Be you attention :

* If you invite multiple friends over, some may feel like a "third wheel", meaning they don't feel included. Make sure you provide attention to everyone.

* If you're a computer person and your best friends knows that, don't stay on it forever, you're bezzie will get annoyed

Have Fun at Home on a Saturday Night

2008-06-15T07:01:00.000-07:00

Nothing to do on a Saturday night and Monopoly and TV sound lame? This article will help you have a fun night at home on Saturday night!

Following this steps :

1. Have a space where you can have indoor and outdoor fun. Like a backyard, a deck, a living room,a garage, or even a cottage.

2. For a really cool idea build a home bar. You will need a nice bar, bar stools, a sink, glasses, fruit, neon lights, the works. You can have drinks, but they don't have to be alchoholic.

3. Have couches and tables around randomly, and have plenty of floor space for inside.

4. If your place is outside, make sure it is cleaned and kept well; fix up any old furniture and keep your lawn nice and green if you can. Have lights outside for the night so people can see.

5. If you are on a low budget work with what you have; fix up old things for your space that people can have fun in, like covers for old furniture, put your biggest TV in your fun room, buy used things that you can pick up at second hand stores, wherever.

This is tips for you,hope is useful

* Learn to play poker, since it is a great game to play and it takes up a good chunk of the night.

* Have a pool table and practice every night and invite a few people over to play pool once in awhile.

* Rent some old movies. New ones are good too, but old ones are fun to watch too, or more unknown movies.

* Play hide and go seek in the woods

* If your fun place is a garage buy an old junk car or pedal bike and fix it up into the coolest thing ever.

* Campfires are great to hang out at, whether you're 10 and telling ghost stories, young and snuggling with your girlfriend/boyfriend, having a good time with friends, it's all good.

* Get your friends in on this too, and every week you go to someone else's house. (This is great if you are on a low budget.) So maybe one week you play a game at a friend's house, then play pool next week at someone else's house, have a campfire at your place and the week after that you party at someone else's house.

* Get a girl/boyfriend

* Don't spend a lot of money and instead use what you've got. for a cool movie look turn the lights off cook up some popcorn and let your kids(if you have any)

* invite a friend over or invite one of your friends over.buy some ice cream or ice blocks, get some pillows and make a your couch look cool and soft.If its cold make up some hot chocolate and put some yummy stuff in it. try to have a little interruption (like the phone ringing and people coming to your door) as possible and have a good time.

HAVE FUN GUY AND GIRLS

Be Fun to Be With #2

2008-06-13T07:07:00.000-07:00

7. Be sociable and friendly. In order to be fun to be with, you'll need to build some new relationships so people start noticing you. Be friendly to everyone--people who were mean to you, that guy that sits next to you in math class, your team captain--everyone. Treat your new friendships well. Praise them, cheer them up when they're down. Joke with them (not at them), help them, invite them to parties, etc. Just be yourself, and be a people person. Be friendly, kind, giving, caring, generous, learn about them, and make the want to know more about you. Be mysterious and intriguing! It totally works.

8. Dont be afraid to really go out there! If you are afraid of people thinking you are weird, strange, etc., just think of the bright side. You don't need them, and hey! you're trying to meet new people anyway, so it will take your mind off the negatives.Plus who cares about what anyone else thinks. Don't let anyone be an azz and label u. Be who you want to be and dont be afraid to be yourself. People hate phonies!! So go out there and rock the real u.

This is a Tips for you,hope useful

* Save some time each day for your own needs.

* Don't be afraid to be yourself, whether or not it overlaps or doesn't overlap with other people's interests. Be interested.

* Always pursue knowledge. Knowing a lot will help you become wittier.

* Know your limits, and let other people know those limits too.

* Always be trustful and honest. Be genuine and don't gossip about others.

Remember don’t do this :

* Don't only pay attention to being fun. You need to keep a more serious side and let it show at appropriate times too. If your friend is asking you for support through hard times, you need to take that as your responsibility and show them that you're a friend worth keeping. Same thing goes with your parents--show them that you deserve more freedom by doing what they say and being responsible.

* Don't try to make people think you are fun. It comes off as phony and pushy.

* Don't laugh at people. Laugh with them. It's good to laugh at yourself, though. You have to in order to stay happy through your mistakes and failures.

* Be aware that the kind of fun you're having is healthy, legal, and doesn't cause anyone any harm, including yourself.