The Tips for Survive a Kidnapping

Anyone may be kidnapped or have a member of their family kidnapped. Unfortunately, most people don't know how to deal with kidnappers or how to survive the ordeal if they themselves are kidnapped or taken hostage.
This is the steps
1. There's a simple procedure for dealing with kidnappers: forget everything you've ever seen in the movies and go to the authorities for help. (They don't do that in the movies or novels because it makes the plot too simple.) In real life, the experts know how to deal with kidnappers and can track them down. The authorities can get the kidnap victim back if it is possible to do so IF you contact them right away at the first sign of trouble.
2. If you're in the US, contact the local police (they'll know where to go from there) and if you're in a foreign country, contact your embassy.
3. If you are in danger of being kidnapped, you should be cautious about being in areas where you are unprotected and vulnerable. Don't jog on roads or in a park (unless you can afford a body guard); avoid being on the streets by yourself. Get your exercise in a private area and only drive whenever possible.
4. Any threatening phone calls or letters should be reported to the police even if they appear to be a hoax. Even if the person who is harassing you is only perpetrating a hoax, he should be caught and punished. Many such hoaxes are often unstable and may become dangerous if they aren't helped. Kidnappers and killers of well-known people have a history of mental problems and often have made numerous threats before actually carrying one of them out. Often family members of a kidnapping victim only learn of a kidnapping when the criminal calls to make his demands. If this happens to you or your family, it is essential that the person answering the phone learn as much as possible. Any clue may speed up the rescue of the kidnap victim. The person answering the phone must pay careful attention and take notes immediately before they forget any details (having a note pad by the phone is a good idea).
5. Let the kidnappers know about any special medical conditions. If the victim of the kidnapping has any special medical conditions, be sure the kidnappers know about them (it may be impossible to convey this information, but try).
6. Do not demand to talk to the person that has been kidnapped. That's Hollywood again. You may succeed in getting a family member beat up while you listen. Trying to force the criminal to do something when he's keyed up is a good way to create more problems. Stay calm, get as many details as possible, and don't make any threats or promises.
7. After the criminal has finished calling, get in touch with the police. After they have been contacted, try to reach the family member that the caller said was kidnapped. You may find that the call is a hoax or there might have been a foul-up that prevented the family member from being kidnapped.
* If you are able to reach the family member, he or she must take measures to get into a safe area since the kidnappers may have made an error in timing and might still attempt the kidnapping. Calling the family member may give them a warning and time to thwart the soon-to-be-attempted crime.
* Shortly after being contacted, the police will arrive at your home to ask an array of questions which will aid them in saving your family member from harm. Again, remain calm and try to answer their questions to the best of your ability.
1. When speaking to the police in your home, exclude any servants, maids, etc., from the discussion (probably the police will do this, but if not, then try to do so yourself).
* If the hired help has seen suspicious persons, etc., the less the hired help hears in the way of other's descriptions, the less likely they are to have their memory of what they've seen changed and influenced. Any descriptions they have will be more valuable to the police.
* Too, the less each of the people who work for you knows about the police plans, the better. since it is remotely possible that one of the hired hands may be working in concert with the kidnappers. Keep any "inside" criminal involved in the kidnapping from sitting in on the plans being made by you and the police.
8. In hostage and kidnap situations, time is on the side of the victim. The longer a victim remains alive, the better his chances of surviving the ordeal (provided negotiations don't break down). The first few minutes are often the deciding factor.
9. Chances of surviving are improved if the victim engages the kidnappers in small talk, etc. This will cause the criminals to see the victim as a person rather than a thing. Later on, this will make it harder for them to kill the victim if things get down to that. Getting on a talking basis could save the victim's life.
10. Kidnapping victims should forget the tough-guy Hollywood acts they've seen and avoid antagonizing criminals; needling them will only make things worse and may ruin a chance to escape later on. Better to act the part of the "slave" rather than to go into a Dirty Harry routine.
11. The kidnapping victim should keep track of what is going on, what the kidnappers are doing, what they call themselves, how many of them there are, etc. This information may be needed to help in the victim's escape or to later identify the kidnappers.
12. The kidnapping victim should not tell the criminals their demands can't be met (nor should those who speak to the criminals during the initial phone call). Telling them that may make them panic and kill their victim!
13. While the victim should act passive, he should be careful that he doesn't pass up a chance to escape if it presents itself. Usually after the initial first hours of the kidnapping the criminals will become careless if the victim has shown no signs of trying to escape. Unless the kidnapping victim is in immediate danger, he should bide his time and wait for a slip-up among the criminals and then use the opportunity to escape.
14. Victims of a kidnapping sometimes start identifying with the criminals after being around them for a while. Work to combat this bonding if you are a victim of a kidnapping.
15. If you and/or your family work with the police, you should be able to get a family member back unharmed and capture the criminals as well.
16. Sometimes a hostage situation will occur during a crime or a terrorist attack. Though the chances of this happening to a person are very, very remote, it doesn't hurt to know what to do.
17. Your chances of surviving the ordeal are excellent provided you survive the first hours of the situation.
18. You may find that you are having to keep the hostage takers calm if you are a hostage. Again, being a "tough guy" is a good way to get killed in a hostage situation. Stay calm, don't make trouble, and let the authorities bring in the people who are trained to deal with terrorists. If you can just keep a hostage taker from doing anything crazy the first few minutes of the situation, you can probably survive it.
19. You should try to remain a part of the group that is being held hostage. Don't stick out or you may be singled out. If you have a lot of money or are famous, don't let the hostagetaker know it or he'll try to use you for a bargaining chip.
1. Sometimes hostages overpowered the criminals involved. This is certainly admirable, but also quite dangerous. If you are going to try such a self-rescue, be sure that you know how many criminals there are and be sure you can overpower them. Things could get a little tense if you try to overpower them and fail. Unless you are in danger of being killed momentarily, it is usually better not to try to overwhelm a group of terrorists.
20. If the hostage takers start making threats on the lives of the hostages or acting in a bizarre manner, you should start thinking about ways to run for freedom and try to keep as far as possible from the members of the terrorist group. This will help keep you from "being there" if a terrorist vents his anger and will also keep you out of the line of fire if the authorities come in shooting or have a sniper end the situation.
21. If a rescue is attempted, hit the floor unless the authorities instruct you to do otherwise. Don't try to pick up a criminal's weapon or pull out one of your own if you have one concealed on your person. Doing so will get you killed; teams trained to rescue hostages have to operate by reflex. Anti-terrorist teams are trained to shoot anyone with a weapon without trying to otherwise identify them. You'll be mistaken for one of the criminals and will undoubtedly be shot if you're standing there with a weapon.
22. You can survive being a hostage or kidnap victim IF you are careful and know exactly what to do.

Some tips
* Children need to be taught to be cautious and to be a little suspicious of strangers (care must be taken, of course, not to turn your child into a paranoid). The goal of most parents is to get their child to be outgoing and friendly with strangers; this can be a big mistake. Teach your child to be careful.
* If they're small, don't let children play in the yard where you can't watch them and be sure the bedrooms for each of your family members are well out of an area where a person could easily break into it (having your bedrooms on the second story of a house makes a lot of sense).
* The rich are more apt to suffer from a kidnapping which is designed to generate a ransom. If you are rich or famous, then the chances are better than average that you or a member of your family may be a kidnap victim.
* Keep a low profile and don't let newspapers, magazines, or TV crews get pictures of you or family members (such pictures make it easy for would-be kidnappers to identify you).
* On the job, you should be careful not to have your name displayed on reserved parking areas and you should try to vary your schedule and route that you take to and from work.
* There is a chance that if you just pretend you are weak and don't do much the kidnappers will be more careless and that will give you at least a chance to escape.
* When the SWAT/ETF/SRU/ETU team arrives stay moderately hidden because it will hide you from the hostage takers and will keep you visible to the rescuers.


Remember!!!!
* Too many parents leave children alone in the house or in an automobile. While this practice was relatively safe ten years ago, it no longer is.
* Care should be taken when picking out baby sitters; a baby sitter has a lot of responsibility. You should consider things other than the cost of the sitter when you're hiring someone to look after a child. Older children are not always good baby sitters; find out about a baby sitter BEFORE you leave your children with them.
* Some parents seem to be trying to have their children kidnapped. The children wander or play along the streets totally unsupervised. Don't allow children to go to questionable areas of the town or city you're in, and be sure they are always supervised when outside.

Draw Attention to Yourself

Do you want to stand out in the crowd? Make a name for yourself? Get noticed? Let's face it, just about everybody loves attention, and getting noticed can have real benefits: getting that girl (or guy) you're interested in, getting a job, or even becoming a star, for example. Why, then, does "proper" society tend to frown on drawing attention to oneself? Put simply, not all attention is equal, and people who try to draw attention to themselves often do it in unpleasant ways--think of a screaming toddler, for instance. While certain showbiz types like to say that any publicity is good publicity, you'll generally only benefit from positive attention, and drawing that kind of attention to yourself requires a little patience, thought, and tact.

This is the steps
Think of when they think of you, and it requires time and consistency to build a brand. Say you're at a new school and you want to make friends. Your brand then, should include characteristics like loyalty, friendliness, and fun. Do things that build this brand and make you a more appealing potential friend. Other examples of brands include the "bad-boy image." Be careful, though, or you'll look like you're trying too hard.
Be original. Looking at the stereotypical brands mentioned in the last step, you ma think, none of those are really what I want. That's perfectly all right. You can brand youself as pretty much anything, and whatever your brand, it should reflet your personality and original style. If you're the same as everyone else, you won't draw attention. Just remember, once again, that if you're obviously just trying to get attention, that will be your brand.
Be outstanding. When we think of the word "outstanding," we usually think of excellence, but being outstanding also means to "stand out." If you want to stand out, do your best to be the best at something. If you want to draw the attention of your spouse, for example, be the best husband or wife you can be. If you want to get a better job, be extaordinarily competent in your current job and seek to learn more to advance your career. You don't always have to be outstanding at somehing that's directly related to your goal. For example, you'll find that people who are very succesful in whatever pursuit they choose in life often draw the attention of, or date, beautiful women or good-looking guys, even if their particular field of excellence has nothing to do with being a good mate. If you're outstanding at something, just about anything, you'll draw people's attention.
Be subtle. A patient, subtle approach is important in developing your image because if you look like you're trying too hard to draw attention, you'll simply end up branding yourself as someone who craves attention, which is generally not a desirable attribute. As an example, imagine you want to get attention in order to make friends. If you stand on your head and insult people, you'll likely get attention for a little while, but you probably won't make friends--everybody will know you're just desperate for attention. On the other hand, if you draw attention to yourself by wearing a smile, making a conversation with people, or joining a sports team, you'll build a more positive brand and get more attention in the long run.
Be humble. Be outstanding, be confident, be assertive, but don't be arrogant. Even if you truly excel at just about everything, people will try to tune you out--or even resent you--if you are a jerk. Don't tell people how awesome you are, show them, and don't make a big deal out of it. Don't blow your own horn too much.

Some Tips For All
Had enough cliches yet? Here's one more. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Being a show-off won't get you positive attention, at least not for long. In human relationships, being pleasant and helpful will usually get you the best kind of attention time after time.
Be outstanding in something you really love to do. Don't try to be a rich lawyer just because you think it will get you girls or will impress your parents. Do it because you love to do it, or be outstanding at something else.

Remember!!!
Draw attention to yourself in the wrong ways, and you'll likely end up getting ignored. You need to make a conscious effort day in and day out to draw positive, beneficial attention, but make your effort look effortless, and draw attention by doing positive things.
Drawing attention to yourself isn't always good. You don't want to draw the attention of the tax man, for example, or the playground bully.

Become the Centre of Attention

This is an easy process, just a few steps to help you stand out, in a good way.

This is the steps
Always look your best. You don't have to look like a model, or a Plastic, but always present the very best image of yourself where ever you go, and whatever you do. Practice good personal hygiene, take good care of your clothes and accessories.
Cultivate a good attitude and be good natured about things. Sadly not everyone will love you or be singing your praises, there are a lot of haters out there. But acting like a pompous Diva (see most of MTV's Sweet Sixteen for examples), will not get you many TRUE friends and supporters. Just think that for every 3 people who don't like you, 10 think you are wonderful!!
Believe in yourself. If you think you want to try out for a team, do it! Even if you don't make it the first time, if it is something you really want to do talk to people involved in it and find out what you can do to improve your chances next time. Not only will this help form relationships with people who may be the deciding factors, but you will also be showing people that you don't think you are better then them and are always ready to improve on what you already have.
Don't try to become someone you are not. All you can do is be the very best you.
Think happy thoughts. Happy thoughts make you happy, which in turn creates positive energy, and everyone wants to be around that kind of energy.
Be inviting. As great as the image of the cool, aloof beauty everyone falls over, its not exactly real life. Invite people into your space. Strike up conversations with people closest to you. When you walk down the hall or across campus, smile and sincerely say "Hi!" to everyone who meets your eye. Not only will the eye contact cause them to remember you, but they will remember you as being a nice person.
Speak in a normal tone. Some people, when they want to be noticed, tend to speak loudly or laugh too much. You want people to notice you, not your act.
Do not try too hard. A. Because people can sense this from a mile away, and its kind of a turn off. and B. Because when you try to hard it gives you more opportunities to foul things up. Don't force it. If you don't know what to say, simply smile and listen. People like listeners, and sometimes (with certain people) even if that's all you do, they feel a connection with you, simply because you made them feel good.
Be fun and have fun! This does not mean like acting like an air head or ditzy, but it does mean that if you are, for example, at a dance... that you are out there on the floor having the time of your life! Who cares if you can't dance? Do you know how many people think they can't dance either?! Just have fun and don't let yourself worry about what everyone else is going to think.
Being the center of attention often requires you to act as a Leader, so Do not feel that you always have to follow the crowd. If people are ganging up one someone, do not follow suit. Even if you think the people are the coolest, most popular people to grace the earth and the person is the lowest of the low, you do not want to associate yourself with that kind of behavior. Create a diversion that draws everyone's attention to something better, like yourself :o)
It can be emotionally and physically draining to be the center of attention all the time, so be willing to step back and let others shine. Trust me, there will be more then enough time for you. And no one likes an Attention Whore.

Some tips fr All
If you feel it's not you, lose it
Have fun!
Be bold.
Don't be shy

Remember!!
No warnings, just be careful not to be too offensive
Don't ditch your friends because the only one hurt will be you!

The Way to Stop People From Following You

Getting annoyed at a stalker, whether it's a real one or not? Here's how to stop the situation.
This is The Steps
1. Ignore the person. If he does not get your attention, he might just get bored and go away. Most stalkers tend to only seek attention.
2. Get to a place that you know but he doesn't, so that you can easily lose him. This can be another town, mall, etc.
3. Find a place to hide, like a bush, behind a bin or a car; they will probably get freaked out if you disappear and they only hear dead silence. Turn the predator into the prey, no, do not stalk him/her!
4. If you feel threatened, call the police and whisper loud enough so they can hear you. Wait to do anything until the police come.

this is the tips
* Don't stalk the other person, they can call the police and you look like the guilty one.
* When you hide, hide good. Don't stand on the other side of a telephone pole.
* If you want to creep them out, look at them wide-eyed very blanky, then breathe deeply. This sends the most fearless person, fearful!

Remember!!!
* Don't think about attacking the person; you will likely get into serious trouble.

Start a Conversation With a New Business Associate

When you have a new business associate and you may find it difficult to know what to start talking about. Here are a few ways to find common topics to get acquainted.
This is the steps
1. Greet the new person. Extend a compliment and/or an ice breaker into the conversation
2. Try to find a commonality between the two of you, even if it is through business backgrounds.
3. Go into general topics that most people can discuss. Some suggestions include: current news stories, weather, interests and friendly topics such as food, music, movies, books, and sports.
4. Be observant to any visual or verbal clues to draw a topic out. For example, a certain wristband, watch, gadget, pictures of family members, interesting clothing, etc.
Tips for All
* Remember to be polite. Since this is a business associate, you cannot pick your co-workers and making a bad first impression can come back to haunt you.
* Try to respond with both verbal cues and physical ones such as head nods and getures of understanding.
* Use their name after they say it once, to confirm the pronunciation and for storing it in your brain.
Remember!!!
* General topics to avoid: religion, politics, sex, philosophy, world problems, death, divorce, or anything else that might become a personally offensive subject or human resource issue.

Handle Complaints and Keep Customers

Marketing is always a huge focus for business owners, however, in all of the planning and everyday duties and tasks, it is important that business owners and entrepreneurs don't forget about excellent customer service.
This is the steps
1. There is a list of 3 things that a business owner or entrepreneur can do to maintain good customer relations:
2. Take the Time to Correct Problems - You may not want to address a customer concern thinking that it takes "too much time", but when an irate or unhappy customer is not taken care of, that person will most likely not only stop patronizing your establishment, but they will also most likely tell their friends that your customer service is unsatisfactory. Take the time to correct the problem while it is repairable.
3. Apologize for the Inconvenience - It is one thing to fix a problem, it is another thing entirely to fix the problem with courtesy and consideration. The words "I apologize for the inconvenience" can help soften the customer's experience with your business. This courtesy takes just a moment, but can leave a lasting, positive impression.
4. Encourage Customer Feedback - You may not think that you want the complaining customer to tell you how they feel about your business, product, or service, however they are the customers who are most willing to talk, PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY! As the business owner you have your own biased point of view - let someone with an outside opinion give you feedback. Who knows, one of their suggestions may spur new and creative means of service or marketing that will pay off in good will or revenue.

Make Customers Service Your Priority

Now we'll talk about customer service. You'll be learning the steps on having happy customers make a rich bank account.
This is the steps
1. Exude excellent charisma. Having great experience with talking and convincing is a great way to get your happy customers to buy your product.After the customers great experience with your business, they will come back again, again and again.
2. Sell online. If you have a website, or even an account on any auction site, such as eBay,you an make the most money with your talent, time or skills, then keeping your customers happy and ensuring their satisfaction will be the key to your success.
3. Be prompt and business savvy. Especially if you have an eBay account, your customers' satisfaction level will determine how well you do in your business. If you ship late, sell low quality products or over-promise and under deliver, your customer will give you lousy feedback and any future possible buyers will think twice before buying from you.
4. Meet customer expectations. Customers expect the best service from your business. For example, if you have a retail company online, shipping on time is the number 1 priority to happy customers. If you ship on time and also sent them a great product, that is simply a guaranteed you will get more business. Therefore always keep the customers needs in mind.
5. Treat unsatisfied customers with careful attention. Also keep in mind your company will always come across many unsatisfied customers. If a customer is completely unsatisfied with your product or service, it's much easier to just issue a refund than to have to fight with them over what they thought you didn't do or deliver that they assume that would receive. Again, you will find that there are some people you just can't please no matter how hard you try or what you do, so just get rid of those types of customers as fast as you can and get on with your business rather than let them sit there and argue. So don't let a few dollars ruin your business, just chalk it up and move on.
6. Encourage referrals. Because your satisfied customers are usually much quieter than the unsatisfied ones, sometimes you have to give them an incentive to give you some praise. This is where your creativity comes in because you have to think of ways to have them great feedback or give you a testimonial you can use on your site for more business. The happy customers will refer to many people to your great service or product. This is a good way to get more customers toward your business.
7. Give discounts and/or free shipping. You can offer a discount on their next purchase if they share their testimonial that you can display on your site. Having this will always get your customers to come back to enjoy another great purchase. Free shipping on orders over a curtain amount of money will please many customers. It is an excellent way because it gets the customers to save up on money.
8. Make customers a priority. Whichever avenue you decide to take, just remember that if you make customer service a priority, then you will not only sleep well at night but you'll also have satisfied customers that pass your link on to their friends and family.
Some Tips For All
* Creativity toward your company, will satisfy not only the customers, but also the product.
* Skills in communicating, convincing will help make you get the customers to purchase.
* Newsletters sign up, for your customers to catch up on many updates, upcoming products.

Talk to a Client

"Time is money and money is time. Life is one big GAME! You are either the rule maker of the GAME or a player. Only the rule maker can WIN the GAME in the world of business and finance."

- Malik Shabazz
This ist the steps
1. Never ever GIVE the client what he wants. This is professional suicide. Of course be warm to them, talk with them on personal as well as the mundane things in life and so forth. But NEVER EVER answer their questions in the first minute of interaction. If you tell the customer what he wants in the first minute of interaction, and whatever he wants thereafter, this does not guarantee you a sale. What it does guarantee is that time will be consumed. Time is money and as we don't want to waste money, we need to be efficient with time. A customer could ask you questions about your product for an hour, this does not mean he will buy your product.
2. Customers will tell you everything except what they want to tell you. "When am I going to do this deal? Why should I part with my money to this business? I want to shop around and have a look at other offers." As well as a host of other excuses that could fill a book if I had the time and inclination to do so.
3. Just because someone wants to buy, does not imply that they can afford what it is that they came in for in the first place. In these changing times, credit is getting harder to attain for the mass. If in doubt remember well this maxim: "Buyer be aware." I like to put it like this: "Seller, please be AWARE of the tricks that buyers will try to pull with you in every transaction."
4. The objective is to gather information that will tie them up later on in the transaction. It is your job to be their priest, father, mother, brother and even their teacher. That being the case, they must and should answer your questions first and foremost.
5. Information is a must in this business, without it, well...that is another matter to be dealt with in a further memo.
6. “A goal without a date is just a dream.”
7. “If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place.”

Muse

Unintended

by: Muse

You could be my unintended
Choice to live my life extended
You could be the one I'll always love
You could be the one who listens
To my deepest inquisitions
You could be the one I'll always love


I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before


First there was the one who challenged
All my dreams and all my balance
She could never be as good as you
You could be my unintended
Choice to live my life extended
You should be the one I'll always love


I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before


I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before


Before you...

( This is my Favorit song,you can find this song in my Flixya )

Calvin Learn to Smoke

DON'T TRY TO SMOKE