The Way to Stop People From Following You

Getting annoyed at a stalker, whether it's a real one or not? Here's how to stop the situation.
This is The Steps
1. Ignore the person. If he does not get your attention, he might just get bored and go away. Most stalkers tend to only seek attention.
2. Get to a place that you know but he doesn't, so that you can easily lose him. This can be another town, mall, etc.
3. Find a place to hide, like a bush, behind a bin or a car; they will probably get freaked out if you disappear and they only hear dead silence. Turn the predator into the prey, no, do not stalk him/her!
4. If you feel threatened, call the police and whisper loud enough so they can hear you. Wait to do anything until the police come.

this is the tips
* Don't stalk the other person, they can call the police and you look like the guilty one.
* When you hide, hide good. Don't stand on the other side of a telephone pole.
* If you want to creep them out, look at them wide-eyed very blanky, then breathe deeply. This sends the most fearless person, fearful!

Remember!!!
* Don't think about attacking the person; you will likely get into serious trouble.

Choose a Self Defense Class

Concerned about defending yourself? Not feeling confident when you're travelling alone? Why not try self-defense classes? They can be an enjoyable way to learn to protect yourself and boost confidence.
try this steps
Finding a class

1. If you know anyone who goes to self-defense classes, talk to them, as they may be able to point you in the right direction. If you have a friend who teaches, even better!
2. Find out whether local self-defense classes have to have approval or specific licenses. This should help in finding a reputable instructor.
3. Go to your local police station. They should have a list of reputable self-defense classes, or at least be able to point you to some good instructors, and may be able to direct you to classes well-suited to you (e.g. self-defense for women).
4. If you are still stuck for classes, try having a look in your local telephone directory, search online for local classes, or look on bulletin board at local fitness centers. Remember: the size of the ad is no judge of the quality of the class. Have a look around any classes listed in your area.

Choosing between classes
1. When you find a class, go down when the lesson is on, and watch the class in progress. Don't just watch the instructor, pay attention to the people in the class, too. Remember that you may be training with them, so you should be comfortable being around them.
2. Talk to the instructor about the classes, and talk to those learning if you have the chance. They can give you an idea of what training will involve.
3. Get involved! Taking part will give you an idea of what the training is actually like.
4. If you like the look of a class, use any trial periods they may have; many schools offer a certain number of lessons at a reduced rate while you're deciding about the school.

some tips
* Talk to the instructor about what you're looking to get out of the classes.
* Be wary of fraudulent instructors; learning self-defense does not need to cost you an arm and a leg, nor does it require pledging eternal (or even temporary) servitude to them.
* If you believe something is dangerous to you, do not do it. A good instructor will know that not everyone is as confident or as able as others, and will support you in your training. You are at their classes of your own choosing.
* Learning to defend yourself does not have to be a chore! If you are not enjoying the classes, talk to your instructor. They may be able to adjust your instruction to your preferences. If they refuse, consider finding another class.
* If you are not comfortable with the 'atmosphere' of the class, do not be afraid to walk away. You may have only picked up on something subconciously, but 'intuition' is generally a good guide.
* If you are not feeling confident about going to classes initially, ask a friend to go with you. Seeing a familiar face when you start can make the difference between sticking around and dropping out.

React in an Emergency

Sometime in out lives, we may encounter an emergency or other situation or disaster that we must take control of. A situation may range from a car crash to a glass of spilled milk. No matter what, it is important to remain calm to effectively deal with the situation.
this is the steps
1. Remain calm. Take a few deep breaths. This is mentioned in every article with the word "emergency" in it and it is necessary to properly deal with an emergency.
2. Keep people away from the site of the situation. This will keep the people involved/injured safe. Depending on the size and location of the situation, this may be easy or difficult.
* If the emergency is outdoors and is large, such as a car accident and is on a road, you will need a large object to physically place in front of the site of the situation. Depending on the size of the situation, you may need to only block off one lane or you may need to block off both. The easiest way is to park your vehicle horizontally directly in front of the emergency. Stand beside it and signal to vehicles to move into the adjacent lane. If you are on a four lane road, obstruct two lanes in the direction heading toward the situation and signal to drivers to move into the center oncoming lane. Drivers should have enough common sense to move back into the correct lane when they pass the situation. If possible, get a friend to move oncoming traffic into the curb lane on the side of the road opposite of the emergency. See the diagram if you are confused.
* If the situation is indoors, things will be a little bit easier. Use chairs or other objects to close off the area. Appoint people to stand by the area to explain to others what is happening and to tell them to walk around. Wet floor signs are also good for this purpose.
3. Administer first aid to anyone requiring it.
4. Depending on the severity of the situation, call the local emergency phone number.
5. Use available resources to address and give directions to a large group of people. Use a building's public address system if necessary. Most phones in a large building have a button labelled PA that you can use to access it in a hurry. This is useful for saying, "Move along people, nothing to see here,"
6. As emergency crews begin to arrive, slowly get out of the way but stay nearby.
some tips
* If you happen to have some caution tape in your car or on your person, now is a good time to use it. To be prepared for an emergency, consider purchasing some from your local hardware store and placing it in the trunk of your car so you will always have it if you need it.
* When we say "emergency crews" in this article, it does not necessarily mean the people driving the cars with the fancy flashing lights. While emergency crews at a car accident are the police and paramedics, emergency crews at a milk spill may simply mean "the guy with the paper towels".
* Remember that it takes teamwork to handle an emergency properly. You will need to work together with people to get a situation stabilized. You will also need to do things that you would not normally do such as in steps two and five.
* Also remember that in an emergency, you will have to appoint yourself in charge of a situation. Do not assume someone else will do it. YOU must do it first to prevent chaos.
* If possible, wear a reflective vest if you are going to direct traffic around the site of an emergency.

Decide Whether or Not to End a Friendship After a Fight

Most people believe that every friendship will need to endure a problem at some point or another. But while some problems are forgivable and will even serve to strengthen the friendship when they're over, others are simply deal-breakers, and you have to sever the relationship, even if it's painful. How do you decide which is which?
This is the Steps
1. Assess the cause. Why did you fight? Was it your fault, or your friend's fault that the matter escalated this far? Was it necessary, or was the fight over-blown? Assessing the truth about why you fought is going to be key to deciding whether or not the friendship can or should be saved.
2. Pinpoint the issue. What makes you think this is a deal-breaker? Did you fight over religion, politics? Those differences can make for heated debates - very interesting most times, if you have the stomach for them - but rarely should be cause for ending the friendship. Did you fight over a boy/girl? Again, boy/girlfriends may come and go, but your friend should outlast any of them, if your friendship is true. And there may be the crux of the matter - is your friendship true? Did you fight because your friend breached your trust, broke a promise, or committed a crime? These are serious problems, and must be carefully considered.
3. Seek counsel. Ask a trusted relative or friend - someone who is not a mutual friend, who will not spread what you say around your circle of friends. Be as objective as possible when explaining the circumstances, and ask for an unbiased opinion. Talking over your problem with a friend, a therapist, or a clergy member may really help you come to a good decision as to how best to handle the situation. But beware - if you tell someone you both know, this may spread like wildfire, and then you may not be in the driver's seat about ending it any more. You and your friend have already had a fight bad enough for you to consider whether or not the friendship can survive. Don't complicate things by running your mouth to people you both know - talk to someone outside your circle.
4. Weigh the benefits and detriments. If you decide to end this friendship, would your life be better in the end? How? Or would it be worse? Imagine your life without this person in it. Think about the fact that mutual friends would most likely divide between the two of you, with some remaining loyal to you, and some remaining loyal to your former friend. How will that affect you?
5. Consider whether either of you have had this sort of experience before. Have either you or your friend had this kind of blowout before? If your answer is yes, this fight may be part of a larger pattern for one of you. Look honestly at your own past - have you ever had a fight and then written a friend off afterward? If you have, try to break your old pattern by examining your own sensitivities. If you consult with other trusted friends or family members, they may verify or dismiss the notion that this may be a pattern with you. If your friend has told you of past such blowouts, think about that friend hard. Does s/he have many - or any - friends of long standing? People who have few long-term friends may develop a pattern of discarding friendships after a certain amount of time, or more crucially, after a certain level of intimacy or closeness develops. This is a defense, or guarding mechanism, and you may not be able to get past it.
6. Be sure you make your decision for the right reasons. Being angry with someone is not, of itself, reason enough to end a real friendship. Having your feelings hurt is not, of itself, reason enough either. These are the kinds of ups and downs that friendships, like sibling relationships, can endure if the two of you are willing to fight past your hurt and indignance - if you can do this and come together, talk things out, and come to resolution, your friendship can sail through these rough waters, and come out stronger than before, having been tested. But if your fight was over a serious, fundamental value difference, then your decision to end it may be the best for both of you. If, for example, your argument was over whether or not to call the cops on your friend's cousin for breaking into the house of a neighbor of yours, you may have an insurmountable problem. If you want to call the police, but your friend wants to protect her cousin, then you have a basic value difference: to you, wrong is wrong, no matter who it is. To your friend, blood is thicker than water, and family loyalty trumps legal and moral considerations. This is a problem that you may not be able to solve with discussion. If this is the case, you may have to part ways here.
7. Decide once and for all. Know that if you decide to end this friendship, there is probably no going back. If you end the friendship, try not to end it on the bitterest possible note. Dig deep inside yourself and be as kind as possible when you inform your soon-to-be ex-friend of your decision. If you're ending this over your friend wanting to protect a family member from possible criminal prosecution, you may not be able to achieve this. Chances are, you will go ahead and report the cousin (as you should), and your ex-friend will know it is you at the root of your cousin's impending incarceration. Once done, it is possible your friend will be relieved and come to you, saying s/he is glad it is over and bears you no ill will - this friendship can be saved. It's possible that your friend couldn't bring him or herself to report the cousin, but it's okay with your friend if you decided to be the "bad guy." But if it really is unsalvageable, try to say your goodbyes as nicely as you can: "Well, I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. Unfortunately, I feel like this argument has been too hard on the relationship, and I don't think I will be able to just let it go and resume our friendship. I think I need, at minimum, a break. And honestly, after the way this fight played out, I feel I might never be able to go back. Let's say goodbye for now, and if we end up meeting again, maybe we can start fresh." When you close the door, let that be the end of it.
8. Don't badmouth that person. Take the high road, no matter what. Don't say bad things about that person, and don't listen to anything bad about him or her, either. Just say, "We had our differences and I moved on. I don't want to discuss it, or anything about him or her, okay?" Saying bad things, or encouraging bad gossip just keeps things churning. Let it end. Your real friends will be able to discern what is true about you, and what is just angry ranting.

Remember!!!
* Ending a friendship is a loss. It can feel like you've experienced a death. Give yourself time to get over it.

Deal With a Jealous Person #2

* Empowering them is a good way to diffuse their jealousy, but only do this for those people you feel are worthy of your time and energy. Ignore the others.
* Their jealousy is a mask for insecurity. Once you recognize there's nothing behind the veneer, you'll be fine.
* You have the right as a person to be in a stable healthy relationships. Choose to do so
Remember!!
* Jealous people will try to bring you down to their level. Don't let them. You don't have to be in a abusive relationship with anyone!
* If your mate is always jealous for no reason, accusing you of false affairs or activities, than you may be in trouble. Extreme jealousy can lead to very dangerous behavior. If you are not sure if your mate or date is mentally stable-be very careful. Stay safe and protect yourself. Don't make fun of them just reassure them that you care about them. Consider getting out of the relationship slowly and over time.
* Someone acting jealous does not mean they care about you. It means they have self esteem problems or can not except the end of the relationship.
* If you feel extreme jealousy and want to hurt the person or their belongings. Stop! Understand that your pain will stop over time and you will deeply regret any violence you have done. You need to reach out and talk to someone even if it is embarrassing. The person that you will feel jealous over has changed or moved on with their life. Ask yourself why? Try to "vent" out your strong feelings in writing as well just don't take actions towards the person.
* You have the right to end any conversation with a person who puts you down or is nasty in anyway.

Way to Be a Supporting and Loving Stepparent #2

5. Coordinate with your partner on discipline. Parents of any marital status sometimes disagree on discipline for the children -- discuss as many issues as possible ahead of time, so you can tackle them as a team. Pay attention to patterns; they can tell you a lot about what future issues might be.
6. Maintain a loving and supportive household. It gives children the stability they need to feel safe.
7. Go slow. Don't expect the children to embrace you right away. Expect set-backs. Let the relationship develop at its own pace.
Then Following this tips

* Sometimes we learn lessons whether we're ready for them or not. Reacting to life's struggles often requires a delayed reaction so you can gain perspective. This is where your life vest comes in. Will you take a walk to gain insight, or will you divulge your emotions before assessing them? Know what brings you peace when you need that small distraction.
* Always remember children will be hurtful when their life routine has been changed to their disadvantage. Calm should be your motto; no good can come from escalating an already emotional situation.
* Spend time together and foster new relationships. Children need to know your marriage is strong. Show this by taking the time to listen to your children -- together. Even if the children protest, eat dinner together, go to the park, etc. Any time together they will remember. Teamwork is the key.
* If you give respect it should be expected in return.
* Never tell the child they are immature or are have horrible manners. Its really not your place. By doing this you set the child on edge and they are most likely not going to accept you.

Way to Be a Supporting and Loving Stepparent #1

Whether you are a parent yourself or not, the new waters can be difficult, so put on a life vest. Know who you are and where your strengths and weaknesses lie.
Please Following this steps:
1. Realize that there is no manual for building onto an already existing family; we all carry some sadness for what is no longer there. Children and adults carry those burdens differently. Finding your place in the new family is the thread that holds together the life vest.
2. Determine what keeps you grounded. Where do you find solace? If this is something you've never asked yourself, or you don't know, it's absolutely essential to do that soul searching. Because in the most trying of family times you need to find your own strength.
3. Read any material on step-parenting, but remember to find your own style. Help is always available if you seek it out. Many religious groups offer guidance, and individual or family counseling can be helpful, as well. Sometimes all you need is a safe place to air your feelings. This is best done with a trusting and compassionate friend.
4. Apologize when necessary. Always honor your partner and the bond with the children, just as you honor the bond you have with yours.

Understand Body Language #1

1. Understand the meanings of looking.
* When you look strangers in the eye, you are saying, "I want to know more about you."
* When you look people in the mouth, you are saying, "I am not comfortable looking into your eyes."
* When your eyes are locked onto a specific part of a person's face you are saying, "I am nervous."
* When you look away from a person routinely or lean away from them, you are saying, "I don't like you."
* When you raise one eyebrow, you are saying, "oh really?"
* When you look upwards, you are saying, "I am thinking."
* When you close your eyes halfway, you are saying, "I am suspicious."
* When you widen your eyes, you are saying, "I am amazed."
2. Express yourself through facial features.
* When you wink you are saying, "It's our little secret."
* When you smile subtly, you are saying, "Here is a gesture of approval."
* When you smile with teeth and close your eyes a bit, you are saying, "I am very happy."
* When you frown, you are saying, "I am bored/unhappy."
* When you drop your jaw, you are saying, "I don't believe it."
* When you bite your bottom lip, you are saying, "I'm flirty."
3. Move your head.
* When your head is up, you are saying, "I don't mind people looking at me."
* When your head is down, you are saying, "I don't want people to look at me."
* When you turn your head to look at someone, you are saying, "I enjoy looking at you."

Understand Body Language #2

4. Understand meanings of the placement of legs.
* When you hold your legs close together, you are saying, "I am modest."
* When you hold your legs far apart, you are saying, "I am not modest."
5. Placing your shoulders.
* When your shoulders are open and wide, you are saying, "I would like to meet new people."
* When your shoulders are closed and hunched, you are saying, "Leave me alone, please."
6. Understand the meanings of physical contact.
* When you touch someone on the arm, you are saying, "I want us to be close."
* When you touch someone on the waist/neck/face, you are saying, "I am physically attracted to you.
7. Understand the general condition.
* When you are tense, you are saying, "I am not comfortable."
* When you are relaxed, you are saying, "I am comfortable."
* When you fidget, you are saying, "I want to find something better to do."
Here is tips for you :
* Note that when you use these in combination, they will be interpreted as such. For example, if a guy looks a female stranger in the eye, but he is tense, he is sending the message, "I want to know more about you, but you make me very uncomfortable." Or if he looks at your mouth he 1: wants to kiss you or 2; likes your smile or theres something stuck in your teeth. After that the girl may respond by closing her eyes halfway and looking away as if to say, "I am suspicious of your motive and I don't like you."
* It is best to be relaxed at all times, because no one wants to be with someone who is uncomfortable.

Macro Virus

A type of computer virus that is encoded as a macro embedded in a document. Many applications, such as Microsoft Word and Excel, support powerful macro languages. These applications allow you to embed a macro in a document, and have the macro execute each time the document is opened.

According to some estimates, 75% of all viruses today are macro viruses. Once a macro virus gets onto your machine, it can embed itself in all future documents you create with the application. Antivirus programs can protect your system against most macro viruses, although new ones are always being created that slip by the antivirus filters

Virus

A program or piece of code that is loaded onto your computer without your knowledge and runs against your wishes. Viruses can also replicate themselves. All computer viruses are manmade. A simple virus that can make a copy of itself over and over again is relatively easy to produce. Even such a simple virus is dangerous because it will quickly use all available memory and bring the system to a halt. An even more dangerous type of virus is one capable of transmitting itself across networks and bypassing security systems.

Since 1987, when a virus infected ARPANET, a large network used by the Defense Department and many universities, many antivirus programs have become available. These programs periodically check your computer system for the best-known types of viruses.

Some people distinguish between general viruses and worms. A worm is a special type of virus that can replicate itself and use memory, but cannot attach itself to other programs