The Tips for Survive a Kidnapping

Anyone may be kidnapped or have a member of their family kidnapped. Unfortunately, most people don't know how to deal with kidnappers or how to survive the ordeal if they themselves are kidnapped or taken hostage.
This is the steps
1. There's a simple procedure for dealing with kidnappers: forget everything you've ever seen in the movies and go to the authorities for help. (They don't do that in the movies or novels because it makes the plot too simple.) In real life, the experts know how to deal with kidnappers and can track them down. The authorities can get the kidnap victim back if it is possible to do so IF you contact them right away at the first sign of trouble.
2. If you're in the US, contact the local police (they'll know where to go from there) and if you're in a foreign country, contact your embassy.
3. If you are in danger of being kidnapped, you should be cautious about being in areas where you are unprotected and vulnerable. Don't jog on roads or in a park (unless you can afford a body guard); avoid being on the streets by yourself. Get your exercise in a private area and only drive whenever possible.
4. Any threatening phone calls or letters should be reported to the police even if they appear to be a hoax. Even if the person who is harassing you is only perpetrating a hoax, he should be caught and punished. Many such hoaxes are often unstable and may become dangerous if they aren't helped. Kidnappers and killers of well-known people have a history of mental problems and often have made numerous threats before actually carrying one of them out. Often family members of a kidnapping victim only learn of a kidnapping when the criminal calls to make his demands. If this happens to you or your family, it is essential that the person answering the phone learn as much as possible. Any clue may speed up the rescue of the kidnap victim. The person answering the phone must pay careful attention and take notes immediately before they forget any details (having a note pad by the phone is a good idea).
5. Let the kidnappers know about any special medical conditions. If the victim of the kidnapping has any special medical conditions, be sure the kidnappers know about them (it may be impossible to convey this information, but try).
6. Do not demand to talk to the person that has been kidnapped. That's Hollywood again. You may succeed in getting a family member beat up while you listen. Trying to force the criminal to do something when he's keyed up is a good way to create more problems. Stay calm, get as many details as possible, and don't make any threats or promises.
7. After the criminal has finished calling, get in touch with the police. After they have been contacted, try to reach the family member that the caller said was kidnapped. You may find that the call is a hoax or there might have been a foul-up that prevented the family member from being kidnapped.
* If you are able to reach the family member, he or she must take measures to get into a safe area since the kidnappers may have made an error in timing and might still attempt the kidnapping. Calling the family member may give them a warning and time to thwart the soon-to-be-attempted crime.
* Shortly after being contacted, the police will arrive at your home to ask an array of questions which will aid them in saving your family member from harm. Again, remain calm and try to answer their questions to the best of your ability.
1. When speaking to the police in your home, exclude any servants, maids, etc., from the discussion (probably the police will do this, but if not, then try to do so yourself).
* If the hired help has seen suspicious persons, etc., the less the hired help hears in the way of other's descriptions, the less likely they are to have their memory of what they've seen changed and influenced. Any descriptions they have will be more valuable to the police.
* Too, the less each of the people who work for you knows about the police plans, the better. since it is remotely possible that one of the hired hands may be working in concert with the kidnappers. Keep any "inside" criminal involved in the kidnapping from sitting in on the plans being made by you and the police.
8. In hostage and kidnap situations, time is on the side of the victim. The longer a victim remains alive, the better his chances of surviving the ordeal (provided negotiations don't break down). The first few minutes are often the deciding factor.
9. Chances of surviving are improved if the victim engages the kidnappers in small talk, etc. This will cause the criminals to see the victim as a person rather than a thing. Later on, this will make it harder for them to kill the victim if things get down to that. Getting on a talking basis could save the victim's life.
10. Kidnapping victims should forget the tough-guy Hollywood acts they've seen and avoid antagonizing criminals; needling them will only make things worse and may ruin a chance to escape later on. Better to act the part of the "slave" rather than to go into a Dirty Harry routine.
11. The kidnapping victim should keep track of what is going on, what the kidnappers are doing, what they call themselves, how many of them there are, etc. This information may be needed to help in the victim's escape or to later identify the kidnappers.
12. The kidnapping victim should not tell the criminals their demands can't be met (nor should those who speak to the criminals during the initial phone call). Telling them that may make them panic and kill their victim!
13. While the victim should act passive, he should be careful that he doesn't pass up a chance to escape if it presents itself. Usually after the initial first hours of the kidnapping the criminals will become careless if the victim has shown no signs of trying to escape. Unless the kidnapping victim is in immediate danger, he should bide his time and wait for a slip-up among the criminals and then use the opportunity to escape.
14. Victims of a kidnapping sometimes start identifying with the criminals after being around them for a while. Work to combat this bonding if you are a victim of a kidnapping.
15. If you and/or your family work with the police, you should be able to get a family member back unharmed and capture the criminals as well.
16. Sometimes a hostage situation will occur during a crime or a terrorist attack. Though the chances of this happening to a person are very, very remote, it doesn't hurt to know what to do.
17. Your chances of surviving the ordeal are excellent provided you survive the first hours of the situation.
18. You may find that you are having to keep the hostage takers calm if you are a hostage. Again, being a "tough guy" is a good way to get killed in a hostage situation. Stay calm, don't make trouble, and let the authorities bring in the people who are trained to deal with terrorists. If you can just keep a hostage taker from doing anything crazy the first few minutes of the situation, you can probably survive it.
19. You should try to remain a part of the group that is being held hostage. Don't stick out or you may be singled out. If you have a lot of money or are famous, don't let the hostagetaker know it or he'll try to use you for a bargaining chip.
1. Sometimes hostages overpowered the criminals involved. This is certainly admirable, but also quite dangerous. If you are going to try such a self-rescue, be sure that you know how many criminals there are and be sure you can overpower them. Things could get a little tense if you try to overpower them and fail. Unless you are in danger of being killed momentarily, it is usually better not to try to overwhelm a group of terrorists.
20. If the hostage takers start making threats on the lives of the hostages or acting in a bizarre manner, you should start thinking about ways to run for freedom and try to keep as far as possible from the members of the terrorist group. This will help keep you from "being there" if a terrorist vents his anger and will also keep you out of the line of fire if the authorities come in shooting or have a sniper end the situation.
21. If a rescue is attempted, hit the floor unless the authorities instruct you to do otherwise. Don't try to pick up a criminal's weapon or pull out one of your own if you have one concealed on your person. Doing so will get you killed; teams trained to rescue hostages have to operate by reflex. Anti-terrorist teams are trained to shoot anyone with a weapon without trying to otherwise identify them. You'll be mistaken for one of the criminals and will undoubtedly be shot if you're standing there with a weapon.
22. You can survive being a hostage or kidnap victim IF you are careful and know exactly what to do.

Some tips
* Children need to be taught to be cautious and to be a little suspicious of strangers (care must be taken, of course, not to turn your child into a paranoid). The goal of most parents is to get their child to be outgoing and friendly with strangers; this can be a big mistake. Teach your child to be careful.
* If they're small, don't let children play in the yard where you can't watch them and be sure the bedrooms for each of your family members are well out of an area where a person could easily break into it (having your bedrooms on the second story of a house makes a lot of sense).
* The rich are more apt to suffer from a kidnapping which is designed to generate a ransom. If you are rich or famous, then the chances are better than average that you or a member of your family may be a kidnap victim.
* Keep a low profile and don't let newspapers, magazines, or TV crews get pictures of you or family members (such pictures make it easy for would-be kidnappers to identify you).
* On the job, you should be careful not to have your name displayed on reserved parking areas and you should try to vary your schedule and route that you take to and from work.
* There is a chance that if you just pretend you are weak and don't do much the kidnappers will be more careless and that will give you at least a chance to escape.
* When the SWAT/ETF/SRU/ETU team arrives stay moderately hidden because it will hide you from the hostage takers and will keep you visible to the rescuers.


Remember!!!!
* Too many parents leave children alone in the house or in an automobile. While this practice was relatively safe ten years ago, it no longer is.
* Care should be taken when picking out baby sitters; a baby sitter has a lot of responsibility. You should consider things other than the cost of the sitter when you're hiring someone to look after a child. Older children are not always good baby sitters; find out about a baby sitter BEFORE you leave your children with them.
* Some parents seem to be trying to have their children kidnapped. The children wander or play along the streets totally unsupervised. Don't allow children to go to questionable areas of the town or city you're in, and be sure they are always supervised when outside.

Draw Attention to Yourself

Do you want to stand out in the crowd? Make a name for yourself? Get noticed? Let's face it, just about everybody loves attention, and getting noticed can have real benefits: getting that girl (or guy) you're interested in, getting a job, or even becoming a star, for example. Why, then, does "proper" society tend to frown on drawing attention to oneself? Put simply, not all attention is equal, and people who try to draw attention to themselves often do it in unpleasant ways--think of a screaming toddler, for instance. While certain showbiz types like to say that any publicity is good publicity, you'll generally only benefit from positive attention, and drawing that kind of attention to yourself requires a little patience, thought, and tact.

This is the steps
Think of when they think of you, and it requires time and consistency to build a brand. Say you're at a new school and you want to make friends. Your brand then, should include characteristics like loyalty, friendliness, and fun. Do things that build this brand and make you a more appealing potential friend. Other examples of brands include the "bad-boy image." Be careful, though, or you'll look like you're trying too hard.
Be original. Looking at the stereotypical brands mentioned in the last step, you ma think, none of those are really what I want. That's perfectly all right. You can brand youself as pretty much anything, and whatever your brand, it should reflet your personality and original style. If you're the same as everyone else, you won't draw attention. Just remember, once again, that if you're obviously just trying to get attention, that will be your brand.
Be outstanding. When we think of the word "outstanding," we usually think of excellence, but being outstanding also means to "stand out." If you want to stand out, do your best to be the best at something. If you want to draw the attention of your spouse, for example, be the best husband or wife you can be. If you want to get a better job, be extaordinarily competent in your current job and seek to learn more to advance your career. You don't always have to be outstanding at somehing that's directly related to your goal. For example, you'll find that people who are very succesful in whatever pursuit they choose in life often draw the attention of, or date, beautiful women or good-looking guys, even if their particular field of excellence has nothing to do with being a good mate. If you're outstanding at something, just about anything, you'll draw people's attention.
Be subtle. A patient, subtle approach is important in developing your image because if you look like you're trying too hard to draw attention, you'll simply end up branding yourself as someone who craves attention, which is generally not a desirable attribute. As an example, imagine you want to get attention in order to make friends. If you stand on your head and insult people, you'll likely get attention for a little while, but you probably won't make friends--everybody will know you're just desperate for attention. On the other hand, if you draw attention to yourself by wearing a smile, making a conversation with people, or joining a sports team, you'll build a more positive brand and get more attention in the long run.
Be humble. Be outstanding, be confident, be assertive, but don't be arrogant. Even if you truly excel at just about everything, people will try to tune you out--or even resent you--if you are a jerk. Don't tell people how awesome you are, show them, and don't make a big deal out of it. Don't blow your own horn too much.

Some Tips For All
Had enough cliches yet? Here's one more. People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Being a show-off won't get you positive attention, at least not for long. In human relationships, being pleasant and helpful will usually get you the best kind of attention time after time.
Be outstanding in something you really love to do. Don't try to be a rich lawyer just because you think it will get you girls or will impress your parents. Do it because you love to do it, or be outstanding at something else.

Remember!!!
Draw attention to yourself in the wrong ways, and you'll likely end up getting ignored. You need to make a conscious effort day in and day out to draw positive, beneficial attention, but make your effort look effortless, and draw attention by doing positive things.
Drawing attention to yourself isn't always good. You don't want to draw the attention of the tax man, for example, or the playground bully.

Become the Centre of Attention

This is an easy process, just a few steps to help you stand out, in a good way.

This is the steps
Always look your best. You don't have to look like a model, or a Plastic, but always present the very best image of yourself where ever you go, and whatever you do. Practice good personal hygiene, take good care of your clothes and accessories.
Cultivate a good attitude and be good natured about things. Sadly not everyone will love you or be singing your praises, there are a lot of haters out there. But acting like a pompous Diva (see most of MTV's Sweet Sixteen for examples), will not get you many TRUE friends and supporters. Just think that for every 3 people who don't like you, 10 think you are wonderful!!
Believe in yourself. If you think you want to try out for a team, do it! Even if you don't make it the first time, if it is something you really want to do talk to people involved in it and find out what you can do to improve your chances next time. Not only will this help form relationships with people who may be the deciding factors, but you will also be showing people that you don't think you are better then them and are always ready to improve on what you already have.
Don't try to become someone you are not. All you can do is be the very best you.
Think happy thoughts. Happy thoughts make you happy, which in turn creates positive energy, and everyone wants to be around that kind of energy.
Be inviting. As great as the image of the cool, aloof beauty everyone falls over, its not exactly real life. Invite people into your space. Strike up conversations with people closest to you. When you walk down the hall or across campus, smile and sincerely say "Hi!" to everyone who meets your eye. Not only will the eye contact cause them to remember you, but they will remember you as being a nice person.
Speak in a normal tone. Some people, when they want to be noticed, tend to speak loudly or laugh too much. You want people to notice you, not your act.
Do not try too hard. A. Because people can sense this from a mile away, and its kind of a turn off. and B. Because when you try to hard it gives you more opportunities to foul things up. Don't force it. If you don't know what to say, simply smile and listen. People like listeners, and sometimes (with certain people) even if that's all you do, they feel a connection with you, simply because you made them feel good.
Be fun and have fun! This does not mean like acting like an air head or ditzy, but it does mean that if you are, for example, at a dance... that you are out there on the floor having the time of your life! Who cares if you can't dance? Do you know how many people think they can't dance either?! Just have fun and don't let yourself worry about what everyone else is going to think.
Being the center of attention often requires you to act as a Leader, so Do not feel that you always have to follow the crowd. If people are ganging up one someone, do not follow suit. Even if you think the people are the coolest, most popular people to grace the earth and the person is the lowest of the low, you do not want to associate yourself with that kind of behavior. Create a diversion that draws everyone's attention to something better, like yourself :o)
It can be emotionally and physically draining to be the center of attention all the time, so be willing to step back and let others shine. Trust me, there will be more then enough time for you. And no one likes an Attention Whore.

Some tips fr All
If you feel it's not you, lose it
Have fun!
Be bold.
Don't be shy

Remember!!
No warnings, just be careful not to be too offensive
Don't ditch your friends because the only one hurt will be you!

The Way to Stop People From Following You

Getting annoyed at a stalker, whether it's a real one or not? Here's how to stop the situation.
This is The Steps
1. Ignore the person. If he does not get your attention, he might just get bored and go away. Most stalkers tend to only seek attention.
2. Get to a place that you know but he doesn't, so that you can easily lose him. This can be another town, mall, etc.
3. Find a place to hide, like a bush, behind a bin or a car; they will probably get freaked out if you disappear and they only hear dead silence. Turn the predator into the prey, no, do not stalk him/her!
4. If you feel threatened, call the police and whisper loud enough so they can hear you. Wait to do anything until the police come.

this is the tips
* Don't stalk the other person, they can call the police and you look like the guilty one.
* When you hide, hide good. Don't stand on the other side of a telephone pole.
* If you want to creep them out, look at them wide-eyed very blanky, then breathe deeply. This sends the most fearless person, fearful!

Remember!!!
* Don't think about attacking the person; you will likely get into serious trouble.

Start a Conversation With a New Business Associate

When you have a new business associate and you may find it difficult to know what to start talking about. Here are a few ways to find common topics to get acquainted.
This is the steps
1. Greet the new person. Extend a compliment and/or an ice breaker into the conversation
2. Try to find a commonality between the two of you, even if it is through business backgrounds.
3. Go into general topics that most people can discuss. Some suggestions include: current news stories, weather, interests and friendly topics such as food, music, movies, books, and sports.
4. Be observant to any visual or verbal clues to draw a topic out. For example, a certain wristband, watch, gadget, pictures of family members, interesting clothing, etc.
Tips for All
* Remember to be polite. Since this is a business associate, you cannot pick your co-workers and making a bad first impression can come back to haunt you.
* Try to respond with both verbal cues and physical ones such as head nods and getures of understanding.
* Use their name after they say it once, to confirm the pronunciation and for storing it in your brain.
Remember!!!
* General topics to avoid: religion, politics, sex, philosophy, world problems, death, divorce, or anything else that might become a personally offensive subject or human resource issue.

Handle Complaints and Keep Customers

Marketing is always a huge focus for business owners, however, in all of the planning and everyday duties and tasks, it is important that business owners and entrepreneurs don't forget about excellent customer service.
This is the steps
1. There is a list of 3 things that a business owner or entrepreneur can do to maintain good customer relations:
2. Take the Time to Correct Problems - You may not want to address a customer concern thinking that it takes "too much time", but when an irate or unhappy customer is not taken care of, that person will most likely not only stop patronizing your establishment, but they will also most likely tell their friends that your customer service is unsatisfactory. Take the time to correct the problem while it is repairable.
3. Apologize for the Inconvenience - It is one thing to fix a problem, it is another thing entirely to fix the problem with courtesy and consideration. The words "I apologize for the inconvenience" can help soften the customer's experience with your business. This courtesy takes just a moment, but can leave a lasting, positive impression.
4. Encourage Customer Feedback - You may not think that you want the complaining customer to tell you how they feel about your business, product, or service, however they are the customers who are most willing to talk, PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY! As the business owner you have your own biased point of view - let someone with an outside opinion give you feedback. Who knows, one of their suggestions may spur new and creative means of service or marketing that will pay off in good will or revenue.

Make Customers Service Your Priority

Now we'll talk about customer service. You'll be learning the steps on having happy customers make a rich bank account.
This is the steps
1. Exude excellent charisma. Having great experience with talking and convincing is a great way to get your happy customers to buy your product.After the customers great experience with your business, they will come back again, again and again.
2. Sell online. If you have a website, or even an account on any auction site, such as eBay,you an make the most money with your talent, time or skills, then keeping your customers happy and ensuring their satisfaction will be the key to your success.
3. Be prompt and business savvy. Especially if you have an eBay account, your customers' satisfaction level will determine how well you do in your business. If you ship late, sell low quality products or over-promise and under deliver, your customer will give you lousy feedback and any future possible buyers will think twice before buying from you.
4. Meet customer expectations. Customers expect the best service from your business. For example, if you have a retail company online, shipping on time is the number 1 priority to happy customers. If you ship on time and also sent them a great product, that is simply a guaranteed you will get more business. Therefore always keep the customers needs in mind.
5. Treat unsatisfied customers with careful attention. Also keep in mind your company will always come across many unsatisfied customers. If a customer is completely unsatisfied with your product or service, it's much easier to just issue a refund than to have to fight with them over what they thought you didn't do or deliver that they assume that would receive. Again, you will find that there are some people you just can't please no matter how hard you try or what you do, so just get rid of those types of customers as fast as you can and get on with your business rather than let them sit there and argue. So don't let a few dollars ruin your business, just chalk it up and move on.
6. Encourage referrals. Because your satisfied customers are usually much quieter than the unsatisfied ones, sometimes you have to give them an incentive to give you some praise. This is where your creativity comes in because you have to think of ways to have them great feedback or give you a testimonial you can use on your site for more business. The happy customers will refer to many people to your great service or product. This is a good way to get more customers toward your business.
7. Give discounts and/or free shipping. You can offer a discount on their next purchase if they share their testimonial that you can display on your site. Having this will always get your customers to come back to enjoy another great purchase. Free shipping on orders over a curtain amount of money will please many customers. It is an excellent way because it gets the customers to save up on money.
8. Make customers a priority. Whichever avenue you decide to take, just remember that if you make customer service a priority, then you will not only sleep well at night but you'll also have satisfied customers that pass your link on to their friends and family.
Some Tips For All
* Creativity toward your company, will satisfy not only the customers, but also the product.
* Skills in communicating, convincing will help make you get the customers to purchase.
* Newsletters sign up, for your customers to catch up on many updates, upcoming products.

Talk to a Client

"Time is money and money is time. Life is one big GAME! You are either the rule maker of the GAME or a player. Only the rule maker can WIN the GAME in the world of business and finance."

- Malik Shabazz
This ist the steps
1. Never ever GIVE the client what he wants. This is professional suicide. Of course be warm to them, talk with them on personal as well as the mundane things in life and so forth. But NEVER EVER answer their questions in the first minute of interaction. If you tell the customer what he wants in the first minute of interaction, and whatever he wants thereafter, this does not guarantee you a sale. What it does guarantee is that time will be consumed. Time is money and as we don't want to waste money, we need to be efficient with time. A customer could ask you questions about your product for an hour, this does not mean he will buy your product.
2. Customers will tell you everything except what they want to tell you. "When am I going to do this deal? Why should I part with my money to this business? I want to shop around and have a look at other offers." As well as a host of other excuses that could fill a book if I had the time and inclination to do so.
3. Just because someone wants to buy, does not imply that they can afford what it is that they came in for in the first place. In these changing times, credit is getting harder to attain for the mass. If in doubt remember well this maxim: "Buyer be aware." I like to put it like this: "Seller, please be AWARE of the tricks that buyers will try to pull with you in every transaction."
4. The objective is to gather information that will tie them up later on in the transaction. It is your job to be their priest, father, mother, brother and even their teacher. That being the case, they must and should answer your questions first and foremost.
5. Information is a must in this business, without it, well...that is another matter to be dealt with in a further memo.
6. “A goal without a date is just a dream.”
7. “If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place.”

Muse

Unintended

by: Muse

You could be my unintended
Choice to live my life extended
You could be the one I'll always love
You could be the one who listens
To my deepest inquisitions
You could be the one I'll always love


I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before


First there was the one who challenged
All my dreams and all my balance
She could never be as good as you
You could be my unintended
Choice to live my life extended
You should be the one I'll always love


I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before


I'll be there as soon as I can
But I'm busy mending broken
Pieces of the life I had before


Before you...

( This is my Favorit song,you can find this song in my Flixya )

Calvin Learn to Smoke

DON'T TRY TO SMOKE

Times to Maximize the Speed of Your Internet Connection

This article describes how to speed up your Internet connection without use of web accelerators, and is geared towards Windows and Internet Explorer.
This is the steps
1.Do some basic maintenance on your PC. Run Disk Defrag, a scan disk, a virus scan, a malware scan, and clear your recycle bin. An unusually slow Internet connection experience is often the only sign that your computer is infected with viruses or other malware. Delete old files and temporary files. Never allow the free space on your C: drive to be less than 10% of the total size or twice the installed RAM (which ever is larger). A well maintained PC will operate much better than a PC that has never had any maintenance. Google or your local computer repair store should be able to help you with this if you don't know how.
2.Reset Your Home Network. Sometimes restarting your home network if you have one will drastically increase the speed of your connection.
3.Optimize your cache or temporary Internet files. These files improve your Internet connection performance by not downloading the same file over and over. When a web site puts their logo graphic on every page your computer only downloads it when it changes. If you delete the temporary files it must be downloaded again. if you disable the cache, it must be downloaded every time you view a page that uses it. This can be done by opening Internet Explorer, clicking on "Tools" at the top and choosing "Internet Options". On the General tab, click the "Settings" button next to Temporary Internet Files. Set Check for newer versions to "Automatically". Set amount of disk space to use to 2% of your total disk size or 512 MB, which ever is smaller. On Firefox, click "Tools" then "Options," and go to the privacy tab. Then click on the Cache tab within this.
4.Never bypass your router. Most routers include a firewall that is very difficult for hackers to defeat. If you don't need to use Wireless then hook your computer directly to your router. Routers will only slow down your connection by a few Milli-seconds. You won't notice the difference but the hackers will.
5.If you are using a Wireless router, make sure it doesn't conflict with a cordless phone or wireless camera. Wireless routers come in two varieties; 802.11bg (2.4Ghz) or 802.11a (5.8Ghz) If you are using a 2.4Ghz Cordless phone and 2.4Ghz Wireless router then your Internet connection speed will slow while you use the cordless phone. The same is true of wireless security cameras. Check on your phone and camera, if it's 900Mhz then it's fine. If it says 2.4Ghz or 5.8Ghz then it could be the cause of your slow connection speed while they're in use.
6.Call your Internet service provider (ISP). Sometimes you just have bad service. They can usually tell if your connection is substandard without having a technician come to your home. Just be nice and ask.
7.Upgrade your computer. If your computer is slow, it doesn't matter how fast your Internet connection is, the whole thing will just seem slow. You can only access the Internet as fast as your PC will allow you to.
8.Replace your old cable modem. Any solid-state electronics will degrade over time due to accumulated heat damage. Your broadband modem will have a harder and harder time 'concentrating' on maintaining a good connection as it gets older (signal to noise ratios will go down, and the number of resend requests for the same packet will go up). An after-market cable modem as opposed to a cable-company modem will frequently offer a better connection.
9.Often your connection speed is slow because other programs are using it. To test if other programs are accessing the Internet without your knowing, Click Start, Click Run. Type "cmd" (without quotes). Type "netstat -b 5 > activity.txt". After a minute or so, hold down Ctrl and press C. This has created a file with a list of all programs using your Internet connection. Type activity.txt to open the file and view the program list. Ctrl Alt Delete and open up the Task Manager. Go to the process menu and delete those processes that are stealing your valuable bandwidth. (NOTE: Deleting processes may cause certain programs to not function properly)
10.After you have tried all this try your connection again and see if it's running any faster.


Some tips for You
Call your ISP and have them verify all of your TCP/IP settings if you are concerned. Ask them to verify that your Proxy settings are correct.
Don't expect dial up or high speed lite service to be fast. The Internet is primarily geared towards Broadband Connections. Sometimes, you have to wait a little.
Download programs that make browsing faster:
Loband.org is a browser inside of a browser that loads web pages without the images.
Firefox and Opera both have options to disable images.
In Firefox, you can also use extensions such as NoScript that let you block scripts and plug-ins that would otherwise slow things down a lot.
If you are using Internet Explorer or Firefox, try downloading Google Web Accelerator. It is meant to speed up broadband connections, but it can also slow your Internet connection. Try enabling it and disabling it and see when your Internet connection runs faster.
If you are using Firefox, download the Fasterfox extension and Firetune.
Reduce the amount of programs running that use your Internet connection (Instant Messengers, RSS Feeders, and MS Applications set to send Internet data)
Google Accessible Is designed to search pages in order of how clean they are of junk. This will bring up pages that are usually not only easy to read, but are quick to load.
Upgrade your RAM. This will not only improve your regular computer use, but it will affect the speed of your Internet connection because your computer works faster.
Use the Stop button to stop loading pages once you've gotten what you want.
Some times malware on your computer can eat up your bandwidth. Make sure you have an up-to-date malware protection program.
Most Internet Providers have flaky DNS servers (no citation necessary, it's a given) - so, instead of using those provided by your ISP, switch your DNS servers to use those of OpenDNS. OpenDNS is far faster, and more reliable, simply using 208.67.222.222 and 208.67.220.220 as your domain name servers will speed up most flaky DNS problems (may even speed up your networking since OpenDNS has large caches).
Look into running your own local DNS server on your network. Some newer routers may include their own nameserver, otherwise, check into AnalogX.com's DNSCache program, it works great to hold commonly accessed domain names in the "cache" so that the IP addresses do not have to be looked up everytime you navigate to a new page.

Remember!!!!
Viruses and malware can often use up your bandwidth and slow down your Internet connection. Make sure you have protection against this. Many ISP's will provide software for this. Make sure your anti-virus and malware scanners are up-to-date.
Bypassing the router will leave you more vulnerable to attacks because you no longer have the built-in firewall from your router protecting you.
Watch out for scams that claim to make your Internet go a lot faster for free. They may tell you to download their program, which usually has a lot of other hidden programs attached that might steal your identity.

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Introduce : Flixya

Whether you enjoy writing a blog (an online journal), publishing your own home videos or uploading pictures--you are sure to find something to keep you busy on a website called Flixya. Gone are the days of holding an audience captive to watch your home movies. The Internet as well as Flixya gives you a whole new way to display your movies and blogs.

This is the Instructions

Step1

HOW TO GET MY FLIXYA
Register for a free Flixya account using the link in resources which follows this article. Start on the right hand side of your computer screen by clicking the "sign up" button or you can Click "IN HERE"

Step2

FLIXYA ACCOUNT SETUP
Pick a Flixya username and password that has not already been taken. It is important that the username you pick will be both meaningful and significant for you. Recall this information to use your Flixya account in the future. You can use your first and last name, they will not be displayed on the website without your permission. Enter the text to verify that you are indeed human. Click the "start now" button on your screen to verify your information on the Flixya website.

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Confirm your Flixya account in your email if you are asked. You should be ready to download or blog whenever you wish. Click the Flixya login button to get started. Enter your unique Flixya username and password.

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• Do not be afraid to use the help or FAQ section for assistance.
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• Do not upload any copyrighted material or material you do not have rights to.
• Do not post inappropriate material.
• Do not click on your own ads or have your friends click on them.
• Acceptable formats will be displayed for you in the case your videos is not in the proper format on Flixya.
  

Walk Safely at Night

Steps you can take to improve your safety when walking at night.
this ih the steps
1. Be inconspicuous when walking or cycling at night-time.
2. Wear clothing that would not draw attention to yourself unless cycling. When cycling at night reflective clothing and lights are necessary in order to be visible to automobile traffic.
3. Stick to well-lit and heavily traveled streets, such as town centers.
4. Walk or cycle without hesitation. If you look confident you are less likely to attract unwanted attention.
5. Have a little bottle of pepper spray or some kind of defense weapon with you and be able to access it easily.

Some tips
* Do not walk with your CD player, Walkman, or mp3 player playing. If you absolutely must listen to your music, turn it to a low volume so that you can listen for footsteps behind you. Also consider playing it in one ear, leaving the other one free to listen.
* If possible tell someone where you are going and when you will be back.
* Keep your mobile phone switched on and within easy reach in case of emergencies.

Remember!!!

* Stay out of the road at night.
* Walk safely off the road and clear of any traffic.
* Avoid deserted parks and alleyways; even if this means taking a longer, but safer, route home.
* Use your neck like an owl would. Always check your surroundings for danger as you walk at night.
* Do not walk or cycle whilst chatting to a friend on your mobile phone. You must keep your wits about you.
* Check the policy for your country/state before buying pepper spray, since it is illegal in some places.
* Don't cycle at night when drunk, or even in daytime, your reactions are considerably slower under the influence.
* Many people, despite believing they can, can't hear someone sneaking behind them when listening to music
* Wearing anything on your ears makes you a more likely target, as a predator is likely to think you will be easy to sneak up on.
* If you do use a self defense weapon, make sure that you have been trained to use it.

Protect Yourself from Someone Who Wants Revenge

Okay, you've made somebody mad at some point. We all have. Some people let it roll off their shoulders, others vow revenge until their dying breath. This how-to will help you protect yourself from the latter.
Try This Steps
1. Try to be a decent person in the first place, so that people won't be inclined to seek revenge on you. If you are not a jerk, for the most part, you will not make enemies. Don't do things that will offend people. Don't call a random heavy person a "fatty" in Wal-Mart. Don't relentlessly tease the kid with glasses at your high school or college. Don't be rude to customer service employees, especially cashiers (They can easily track you, because all they have to do is make you show an ID with a credit card or check, and there is nothing you can do about it if you want to pay by a method other than cash).
2. Notify the police if you are certain that someone is trying to take revenge on you. Be sure they are attempting before you do this. False police reports are illegal.
3. Contact authorities even if someone harasses you, you always have the option of contacting the police, even if they have blackmailed you.
4. Get Caller ID for your phone if you do not already have it. Block any numbers which give you wakeup calls at 3AM (yes, people have been known to abuse the wakeup call services online for just this purpose).

Some Tips For You
* Try to make things right with any person who believes you have wronged them. For example, if you have insulted someone, apologize to him or her the next time you see them. If you destroyed someone's property, offer to fix it at your own expense. You would be surprised at how far "little things" like these would go in keeping someone from taking revenge out on you.
* Consider buying a gun or a noisy dog. If the enemy is the type who will try to break into your house and kill you in your sleep, you want some sort of home defense.

Remember

* Some people will still try to get revenge, or get more than they deserve from you, even if you do your very best to make things right.
* If you ever are rude to someone, do what you can to prevent them from getting your license plate number. The internet is full of paid search sites where someone can pay a small fee to look up your license plate to find out where you live.
* You may not be forgiven even if you try to make things right. Move on, and take the other steps to protect yourself.
* If you contact the police, you may find that your "enemy" has already figured out a way to get them on his side.
* Don't open unexpected packages from foreign countries, especially from the Netherlands. Packages from the Netherlands could contain drugs (and your enemy may have already reported you for drugs anonymously.)
* Don't go on the attack without being sure someone really is out to get you.

Deal With Too Much Stress

Do you ever get really stressed out? Well, here are a few ways to deal with stress and make it go away the easiest way.
Try This Steps
1. First of all try setting up a relaxed environment for yourself such as your room, a park, or any other place that makes you feel calm
2. Try listening to a favorite song, or watch a movie that you think that would calm you down
3. Think about all the things that are making you stressed and try seeing them in a better light.
4. If it's a problem like a fight with your friends, or parents or anything else social try talking to the person. once you solve the problem with them you'll feel like the weight is off your chest.
5. Take a walk out in the fresh air. walk down the street, or even with your dog in the park. a lot of times walking relaxes your body and gives you time to just think over things.
6. If your stress is a result of too many things to like homework, after school activities, work, try organizing things and a day schedule.
7. Try sleeping more or taking a vacation for even just one day

Try avoiding things that you know that might tic you off or make you stressed

Remember!!!
* Learning how to deal with stress positively takes times. There are many negative ways to deal with stress such as use drugs or alcohol, or breaking things, but these have serious consequences such as health problems, addiction , and legal problems.

Emotionally and Physically Protect Yourself

Prevention is better than cure, so try to never let people attack you in the first place.
try this steps
1. Don't let people walk all over you. Don't be rude to people for no reason, but don't laugh it off if someone does something mean to you. That only tells them it's okay to do it again. Be able to stand your ground.
2. In the event that you get a crush on someone, try to avoid long, passionate love notes. These usually tend to scare people away and give them the impression that you have an obsessive personality. Instead, consider writing a brief note, such as, "I think you're really cute and I like you, do you want to go hang out some time?"
3. Always be on guard. There can be some real jerks in school. People may be targeting you.
4. Don't put complete trust in all of your friends. When you're in school, the social group that you're with will probably change. Don't completely cut yourself off from your closest friends completely, but be careful. If you have a friend that you hang out with sometimes, but aren't really close with, don't tell her anything that you wouldn't want the whole school knowing. If you have a friend that likes to talk behind their other friend's backs, keep in mind that she can be talking about you behind your own back, too.
5. Stay on top of your homework. Despite its boredom and tedium, it really is better for you in the long run. You won't need to repeat semesters (or even entire grade levels) if you can stay on top of your work.
6. Don't leave your things laying around in front of other teenagers, especially if they have really personal things in them [i.e. your purse]. There are some people who will dig through your stuff the very moment that your back is turned and read whatever they find.
7. Don't be persuaded into doing something that you don't feel comfortable with. If you're at a friend's house and everyone is having a drink, but you don't want to, that's okay. I've been there, and believe me, getting drunk and waking up the next morning remembering all the things you did is NOT fun. Not only that, but it takes a teenager just two months of regular drinking to do permanent liver damage. It takes an adult ten years.
8. 'If you're at a party, don't accept a drink from someone else. Don't leave your drink unattended. Someone could slip something into it and you would never know (the 'date rape' drug is completely tasteless). If you're going to drink, please don't do it at parties. If you get drunk enough, you're leaving yourself very vulnerable to all kinds of things. If you don't think you can gracefully say no to a drink if offered, just carry a cup with water in it.
9. Don't get into cars with people you don't know very well. This goes for girls and guys. Just don't do it. Even if you know them kinda sorta from school or somewhere else. It's just not safe.
10. Always wear deodorant and brush you teeth really well. Don't forget to brush the back of your tongue, that's the place that causes icky breath! Also, wash yourself everyday.
11. Don't let other people hurt your feelings. Just because they call you ugly or stupid or anything else does not make it true. Chances are, they're probably just one those people that gets pleasure out of being mean.
12. For girls: Some boys will say anything to get into your pants. Don't be afraid to say 'no' and don't be feeling guilty into doing something you don't want to do. Just because he says he loves you doesn't make it true. And, odds are, if he wants you to do something you're not comfortable with HE DOESN'T REALLY LOVE YOU. You want someone who will love you for YOU, not your body.
13. If you have had sex and regret it, don't feel guilty. Don't be afraid to talk to a parent or another adult you love and can be open with! This is always a damn good idea. Also, know the facts! A few quick facts: Douches do not protect against pregnancy or STDs (STIs), condoms aren't 100% effective, and neither is the pill, having sex during any time of the month can result in pregnancy. Check out the Woman's Health Matters link below.

some tips
* Tune out the rotten things people say.
* Have someone you can trust and talk to. A parent, a relative, a counselor (remember, counselors by law cannot share what you say to them with other people, as long as it is not something that's against the law, such as a serious death threat).
* If you are being harassed in any way, don't be afraid to tell someone!
* If you have been raped or assaulted (this goes for guys too), contact the authorities immediately. This is not your fault.
* Lift weights and become physically fit. Not only is it healthy but people will be scared of you.
* The most valuable thing you can have is self assurance. Acting vulnerable to get attention will only ever get the wrong kind- why are you taking care of yourself if you're acting like you're not worth it?

Remember!!!

* These are just suggestions. If you have a serious problem or need help ask for help from a professional or parent or other adult.

Detect Hidden Cameras and Microphones

Do you ever feel your being watched? Everytime you turn around there's never anyone there. Maybe you're being watched by cameras or microphones are listening. Here are some steps to find them.
try this steps
1. Do a physical search of the premises. This involves a slow, meticulous search of the room or building you suspect is "wired".
* Look around for anything that "seems different", like flower arrangements, pictures on the wall out of level or in unusual places, or lampshades that don't look normal.
* Look inside flower pots, light fixtures, and other places where a microphone transmitter can easily be hidden.
* Look under couch cushions, table tops, and shelves. Underneath shelves and table tops are excellent places for miniature cameras.
2. Turn off the lights, and carefully look around the room for tiny red or green led lights. Some microphones have "power on" indicator lights, and if the person who sets it up is careless they may fail to cover or deactivate this feature. While the lights are off, grab a flashlight and carefully examine all mirrors--these can be made transparent from one side so that a camera can see through, but they rely on the observer's side being darker than the area observed in order to keep the other side of the mirror reflective
3. Listen carefully as you walk the entire room quietly. Many small motion sensitive cameras make an almost inaudible click or buzz when they operate.
4. Search the room or premises for wires that do not seem to "go anywhere", such as an appliance or other familiar device. "Hardwired" spy equipment is less common with modern technology, but is still used for permanent surveillence in commercial businesses for loss prevention.
5. Buy an "RF signal detector" or "Bug Detector". If you seriously beleive you are being spied on, buy an RF (radio frequency) detector, and do a sweep of your room, building, or home. These portable devices are small, simple to use, and fairly inexpensive.
some tips for you
* Check for smoke detectors you didn't add, look for speaker that might have a camera in it.
* Make sure that your computer's microphone and webcam (if you have one) are off ,or covered when not in use
Remember!!
* Don't let the cameras and mic's know your looking for them
* Hide the detector and make sure it's on silent mode
All the Things that You'll Need
* a high-quality detector
* someone that's actually spying on you
* If you want you can use a pro detector just do a Google search for "bug detectors"

The Way to Stop Panic Attacks

Panic Attacks are often common when we have sudden feelings of fear and anxiety. This happens due to the stimulation of the adrenal hormone by the adrenal glands. The released Adrenalin helps the body prepare for a fight or flight situation. This is usually for the good but sometimes it may cause trouble. Especially when it happens too frequently, it is difficult to manage them The problem with these attacks is that they appear out of nowhere. But you can handle it.
try this steps
1. Stress Management and Rest: Panic is due to excessive tension. The best cure for tension is rest. Get more sleep and enjoy your life. Go out on a vacation.
2. Herbal Remedies: Trying herbs is not a bad option. They have been found to be effective. But it is not always. It is your brain that decides whether you should have a panic attack or not.
3. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy/One Move Technique: This therapy is also known as the One move technique. Panic Attacks are caused due to fear and the fear is due to the release of adrenalin. The release of adrenalin is directly linked to the Adrenal corticotropic hormone (ACTH) stimulated by the pituary gland. So that is where you need to control. If you can control the stimulation of ACTH then you can certainly overcome panic attack.

Some Tips
* If you feel panic, then don’t react. Let it through. It will come to an end. Panic Attacks are like a roller coaster. It will come to end.
* Don’t resist panic attacks. Accept it and let it flow through you. It will come to an end.
* Don’t feel afraid. Remember one thing: Fear increases Fear. If you are afraid of panic then it will create more panic and you will face more trouble. So let it go through your body.
* If you let it flow through you, then you will lose your fear of panic. When that happens, you become less scared of panic attacks and more relaxed when you have a panic attack.
* Practice One Move Technique

Tips to Defend Yourself

The difference between walking away and becoming tomorrow's newspaper headline is how well you are prepared to protect yourself in a bad situation. By keeping this information in mind you will know what can be done before and during an attack.
There are various types of confrontations:
* The 'wind-up', the argument before the fight erupts,
* The 'duel' an arranged meet to resolve a dispute between conflicting parties or the ambush.
* The brawl will usually be only after the verbal "woofing" has been exhausted and someone throws a punch.
* An ambush is usually premeditated and one or more assailants will attack when they feel the timing is right, usually after distracting the victim with a question e.g. "Have you got the time?".
Steps
Preparation
1. Think about potential situations in which you will need to defend yourself. No two attacks are the exact same, so think about what you could do if attacked from different sides or in different situations (large numbers of people, alone, at night or at day, assailant is armed or not armed, size of assailant, assailant's intentions). By thinking about it beforehand, you will not be as likely to become shocked and panic during the real thing.
2. Take a self-defense course. Actually being able to run through potential situations and consult with an expert will help you immensely. Try taking a form of martial arts.

Confrontations
1. If you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, try to leave the situation. In an uncomfortable social situation, this can be as simple as firmly asserting yourself ("Back off right now!"). Take all verbal or directional paths to non-confrontation; actual physical confrontation should be your last line of defense, although sometimes it may be the only.
2. Try to stay standing with a wide base, both left-to-right and back-to-front, so that your feet are diagonal from each other (a typical martial arts fighting stance). This will lessen your likelihood of getting knocked or pushed over.
3. Assess your potential assailant: tall/short, stocky/thin, male/female. Look at their hands. If they were about to attack with their hands, they would have their hands out. However, if they are concealing a weapon, they will have them hidden or at their side.
4. The best tactic in any confrontation is to RUN.

Preparing for a confrontation
One simple step to judge when a confrontation has passed the point of a verbal exchange is when the person starts to invade your personal space. To mark this, you put up a fence. A fence is simply putting your hands in front of you in a conciliatory/peaceful gesture (palms out). If the assailant tries to move past your fence, you are entering a physical confrontation - what other reason would they have for getting closer?. The general (but unpalatable) consensus at this point is you have to end the fight as quickly as possible by striking first, striking hard, and striking as many times as you can, then escaping. This goes against the oft quoted 'bushido' or warriors code and our innate civilised sensibilities, however not many assailants care for either of these.
Defending yourself from the front
1. If the attacker is trying to punch you or grab you from the front, put your hands on your forehead in a "Not in the face!" sort of gesture and your arms tight on your body. This may look like a weak defensive position, but that is to your advantage since it brings your opponent's guard down. In addition, this position protects your face and your ribs, two places you'll likely want to protect.
2. From your "Not in the face!" position, when you are close in on your assailant, lift your elbows into your opponent's lower ribs or right below his pectoral muscles. These are sensitive spots and can cause a lot of pain.
3. If your assailant's upper body is far from you but you are still at risk (e.g. your opponent is choking you), attack their legs. This is especially effective on larger attackers because the bigger he/she is, the more stress he/she has on his/her legs and knees. Do not deliver a typical Karate Kid style kick; instead, kick his/her shins soccer-style (with the instep of your foot). This is a quick and painful kick. In addition, if his/her legs are close enough, lift your knees into their inner leg (femoral nerve), outer leg, knee, or groin. These will break down your attacker and may disable him/her, as only 12-16 pounds of pressure are needed to break a knee.
4. If your opponent has his/her head in reaching distance (which is often the case when you attack his/her legs), you will want to attack it. Try to poke or press on the eyes, as no one can resist an eye poke no matter how big he/she is. Clapping on the ears can stun or, if done perfectly, breaks the eardrums. Striking the cheekbones can cause bruises or broken bones. Striking the nose causes nosebleeds and temporary blindness.
5. In some cases you may also want to attack your attacker's neck (usually open when the head is). To effectively choke someone, do not do the typical Hollywood "hands around the entire neck," but instead just put your thumb and fingers around his/her trachea (especially easy to find on men with large Adam's apples). Also, right below his/her trachea is a notch in his/her neck. Dig, drive, and sink your fingers into this notch and they will experience intense pain and probably fall down.

Attacks from behind
1. If an attacker tries to attack you from behind to choke you, press his/her forearm against your collarbone instead of trying to pull it directly off (which doesn't work well). Put one hand above his/her elbow (on the forearm) and one hand below it (so your hands are on both sides of the elbow). Then, in one strong and determined movement, step and swing your entire body around like the arm is the hinge to your body acting as a screen door. This will get you out of his/her choke and leave his/her head, ribs, and legs wide open to your counterattack. (Also note that, when your attacker is behind you, his/her shins are right behind your legs and primed for your stomping and raking.)
2. If the attacker is trying to pick you up from behind, drop your hips quickly and violently as if you were plopping down on a love seat. This will make you harder to pick up and give you an extra moment to attack them and fend them off (stomp on their shins).
3. If the attacker is trying to choke you by wrapping his arms around your neck, bring the ball of your foot forward, as if you just kicked a soccer ball, and fast and FORCEFULLY, slam it into the area of their leg between their ankle and mid-leg. This will, (if done hard enough) break their leg.

Other potential situations
1. If you fall, try to fall on top of your attacker. While falling, keep the pointy parts of your body pointy (your knees and your elbows) and aim for your attacker's groin, ribs, and neck.
2. If your attacker is wrestling with you on the ground and has you pinned under him/her, grab his/her body by unlocking his/her arm joints, or pin a hand to the ground. Then, put one leg firmly on the ground, push off of it, and swing your hips over. This will have you falling on top of your opponent, which should be done with a good amount of pointedness.
3. If an attacker attacks with a weapon, know where the weapon is effective. If he/she has a knife, try to stay out of stabbing range, and if he/she has a gun, don't count out running and dodging left to right. Also, note that the attacker invests him/herself on that weapon and can leave him/herself open to grabbing/pinning the weapon hand or a different attack.
4. If you get a chance to leave safely, go for it. Be sure that you're safe from your opponent when you decide to stop defending yourself.


Some tips
* If someone is attacking you, you are right and the other person is wrong. Their motivation is probably wanting your money or possessions or body, while yours is self-preservation. This means that you can fight without rules, since your cause is "righteous". In all likelihood, there will be a point in time, somewhere between the knees to the groin, elbows to the ribs, and strikes to the nose, that whatever he/she wanted before isn't nearly as important as stopping the pain you're dishing out.
* In a self-defense situation, take a "not me" attitude: don't let yourself be the one they see in the paper the next morning. This starts before the fight, since experienced rapists and muggers will choose their victims not by what they are wearing or who they are, but how they act. If you are confident, you will not be the one they target.
* If you get the opportunity, talk with your friends about how one would defend one's self in a dangerous situation. If possible, run through potential situations and where to target on someone's body and what seems to work and what doesn't.
* If you think that you may be entering "a bad neighborhood" or any place where an attack could possibly happen, keep some pepper spray with you. This could be an invaluable lifesaver. Never keep a potentially lethal weapon such as a firearm or a knife with you as you may turn a mugging into a fight to the death, especially if the assailant is armed.
* Threatening an assailant with a weapon like a knife or firearm is a bad idea unless you fear for your life. It is not worth going to jail for murder, manslaugter or getting killed over your wallet. Remember, the assailant is most probably stronger and more experienced in fighting than you or he would not have chosen you.
* If this is any sort of domestic situation, you may be wondering at what point it becomes bad enough to warrant you defending yourself. By legal standards, any unwarranted contact is an assault. It doesn't matter if he/she "only" pushed you, it's still an assault, can still be dangerous, and you still deserve to defend yourself.

Remember!!!!
* Don't get in fights over trivial things like disagreements in a bar about beer/girls/sports teams. Be the bigger person and walk away. You're better than that.
* Don't comply with someone who has you under duress (in other words, if the attacker says, "Get in the car," don't get in the car. The attacker wants to move you probably because he/she doesn't want to do what he/she intends to do in your current situation. You have a much better chance of surviving if you resist as soon as possible, however, if you do not escape at that moment, the attacker will probably kill you and take the keys.
* In many cases, you can end the situation immediately by giving the attacker your wallet. This is a logical choice, especially if at knife- or gunpoint. Your life is worth much more than the cash and cards you have on you. toss the wallet away from you and run.
* This plan does not cover every situation, but it's rather a brief overview of what you can expect. By no means are you completely safe; however, after reading and understanding this you have a better mindset if a situation does arise. Above all, remember that you are right and you can decide if you're not going to be the victim.
* Only carry a weapon if you have sufficient training to use it legally and effectively.

Choose a Self Defense Class

Concerned about defending yourself? Not feeling confident when you're travelling alone? Why not try self-defense classes? They can be an enjoyable way to learn to protect yourself and boost confidence.
try this steps
Finding a class

1. If you know anyone who goes to self-defense classes, talk to them, as they may be able to point you in the right direction. If you have a friend who teaches, even better!
2. Find out whether local self-defense classes have to have approval or specific licenses. This should help in finding a reputable instructor.
3. Go to your local police station. They should have a list of reputable self-defense classes, or at least be able to point you to some good instructors, and may be able to direct you to classes well-suited to you (e.g. self-defense for women).
4. If you are still stuck for classes, try having a look in your local telephone directory, search online for local classes, or look on bulletin board at local fitness centers. Remember: the size of the ad is no judge of the quality of the class. Have a look around any classes listed in your area.

Choosing between classes
1. When you find a class, go down when the lesson is on, and watch the class in progress. Don't just watch the instructor, pay attention to the people in the class, too. Remember that you may be training with them, so you should be comfortable being around them.
2. Talk to the instructor about the classes, and talk to those learning if you have the chance. They can give you an idea of what training will involve.
3. Get involved! Taking part will give you an idea of what the training is actually like.
4. If you like the look of a class, use any trial periods they may have; many schools offer a certain number of lessons at a reduced rate while you're deciding about the school.

some tips
* Talk to the instructor about what you're looking to get out of the classes.
* Be wary of fraudulent instructors; learning self-defense does not need to cost you an arm and a leg, nor does it require pledging eternal (or even temporary) servitude to them.
* If you believe something is dangerous to you, do not do it. A good instructor will know that not everyone is as confident or as able as others, and will support you in your training. You are at their classes of your own choosing.
* Learning to defend yourself does not have to be a chore! If you are not enjoying the classes, talk to your instructor. They may be able to adjust your instruction to your preferences. If they refuse, consider finding another class.
* If you are not comfortable with the 'atmosphere' of the class, do not be afraid to walk away. You may have only picked up on something subconciously, but 'intuition' is generally a good guide.
* If you are not feeling confident about going to classes initially, ask a friend to go with you. Seeing a familiar face when you start can make the difference between sticking around and dropping out.

React in an Emergency

Sometime in out lives, we may encounter an emergency or other situation or disaster that we must take control of. A situation may range from a car crash to a glass of spilled milk. No matter what, it is important to remain calm to effectively deal with the situation.
this is the steps
1. Remain calm. Take a few deep breaths. This is mentioned in every article with the word "emergency" in it and it is necessary to properly deal with an emergency.
2. Keep people away from the site of the situation. This will keep the people involved/injured safe. Depending on the size and location of the situation, this may be easy or difficult.
* If the emergency is outdoors and is large, such as a car accident and is on a road, you will need a large object to physically place in front of the site of the situation. Depending on the size of the situation, you may need to only block off one lane or you may need to block off both. The easiest way is to park your vehicle horizontally directly in front of the emergency. Stand beside it and signal to vehicles to move into the adjacent lane. If you are on a four lane road, obstruct two lanes in the direction heading toward the situation and signal to drivers to move into the center oncoming lane. Drivers should have enough common sense to move back into the correct lane when they pass the situation. If possible, get a friend to move oncoming traffic into the curb lane on the side of the road opposite of the emergency. See the diagram if you are confused.
* If the situation is indoors, things will be a little bit easier. Use chairs or other objects to close off the area. Appoint people to stand by the area to explain to others what is happening and to tell them to walk around. Wet floor signs are also good for this purpose.
3. Administer first aid to anyone requiring it.
4. Depending on the severity of the situation, call the local emergency phone number.
5. Use available resources to address and give directions to a large group of people. Use a building's public address system if necessary. Most phones in a large building have a button labelled PA that you can use to access it in a hurry. This is useful for saying, "Move along people, nothing to see here,"
6. As emergency crews begin to arrive, slowly get out of the way but stay nearby.
some tips
* If you happen to have some caution tape in your car or on your person, now is a good time to use it. To be prepared for an emergency, consider purchasing some from your local hardware store and placing it in the trunk of your car so you will always have it if you need it.
* When we say "emergency crews" in this article, it does not necessarily mean the people driving the cars with the fancy flashing lights. While emergency crews at a car accident are the police and paramedics, emergency crews at a milk spill may simply mean "the guy with the paper towels".
* Remember that it takes teamwork to handle an emergency properly. You will need to work together with people to get a situation stabilized. You will also need to do things that you would not normally do such as in steps two and five.
* Also remember that in an emergency, you will have to appoint yourself in charge of a situation. Do not assume someone else will do it. YOU must do it first to prevent chaos.
* If possible, wear a reflective vest if you are going to direct traffic around the site of an emergency.