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Monday, October 27, 2008

Reduce Hair Loss

When hair starts falling out it can seem like the end of the world. Follow these tips to try and reduce it as much as possible.
this is the Steps

1. Try to identify when the hair loss started and if you changed anything with your hair. For example if you started straightening it or if you started applying lots of mousse. It is likely that this could be the reason. If you find it was due to the use of these things then stop using them.
2. Stick to one shampoo or shower gel. If it is repeatedly changed it could cause damage to your hair as shampoos aren't natural, you would be adding more and more chemical products in your hair which could damage them and cause them to fall out.
3. Oiling the hair also helps with coconut oil for example. By doing this, when you go out the pollution in the environment won't stick straight onto your hair and damage it. It will stick to the oil instead which can be washed off when you get home.
4. Wash your hair regularly, unclean hair could contain lots of damaging things. Frequent washing can help keep hair clean and healthy.
5. Wash your hair with warm to normal temperature water. Water which is too hot can also damage the hair.
6. Try and reduce stress or anxiety that is getting to you. Tension and anxiety do not help as you will be so worried your body won't be mentally healthy so this will lead to physical deterioration too which includes hair loss.
7. Do daily scalp massages as it will increase blood flow in the scalp, sending it to the hair follicles to help stimulate growth.

Some tips

* Try not to use straighteners, curlers or other chemical products such as dyes excessively, these can damage your hair if used too frequently.
* Oiling your hair can help keep hair healthier.
* Stick to one shampoo or gel.
* As you get older, your hair gets weaker so don't be too worried if a few strands of hair falling occasionally.
* Try to relax and have an optimistic view on things. A healthy mind leads to a healthy body.
* Doing 'Headstand' pose of yoga for about a minuite daily reduces the hair fall. But please consult your doctor before doing this pose.

Remember

* If you have tried all of the above methods and nothing seems to be working, see your doctor as in some cases it could be a symptom of a more serious problem.

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Perform a Testicular Self Exam

Testicular cancer kills nearly 400 people per year in the U.S., and the incidence rate of cancer of the testis has increased in recent years in the U.S. and in many other countries. The cancer is unusual in that it affects fairly young men (the average age at diagnosis is about 34 years old). It is also one of the most curable cancers, especially if caught early, and medical authorities recommend that a testicular examination be performed as part of routine medical checkups. In addition, men 20-55 years old should perform a monthly testicular self-examination. A self-examination takes only a couple minutes, and it can save your life, so consult your doctor for advice and follow these steps.
this is the steps

1. Use a mirror to examine your testicles. Sit down in a well-lit area and use a small mirror to examine your scrotum for visible lumps or swelling. A mirror is helpful because otherwise you can't get a good look at the entire scrotum.
2. Feel your testicles to detect any differences between them. Hold your scrotum and testicles in the palm of one hand and feel for any differences between the testicles. It is normal for one testicle to be hang slightly lower than the other and to be slightly larger than the other, but if one testicle seems to be much larger than the other or if it seems to have an abnormal shape or hardness, it's time to see a doctor for further examination.
3. Examine each testicle for lumps or swelling. Use one hand to hold your scrotum and penis in place and use the other to examine each testicle, one at a time. Gently roll the testicle between your thumb and forefinger to check for swelling, lumps, hardness, or an unusual heaviness. Do this slowly and make sure to check all around each testicle. The testicles should be smooth all around, but you will notice a soft tube, called the epididymus, coming from the top of each one.
4. Be on the lookout for other cancer symptoms. While an abnormality in the testes is the surest sign of testicular cancer, other symptoms, such as backache, stomach pains, coughing, or tenderness around the nipples, may be indicative of a spread of the cancer. These symptoms, of course, may accompany any number of other illnesses or injuries, so simply be aware of them and be sure to examine your testicles or see a doctor if they occur.

Some tips

* It's usually easiest to perform a testicular exam after a warm shower, when the scrotum is relaxed.
* It's important to get acquainted with your testicles. Know how they normally look and feel, and you'll be better able to detect changes and abnormalities.
* It's important to have a doctor examine your testes periodically, and you might find it helpful to have your doctor show you exactly how to perform the steps above.
* Don't panic if you notice any of the symptoms described above. What you notice could very well be nothing at all, but do take the opportunity to see a doctor for further examination. The sooner you do so, the sooner you can put your mind at ease. If you do have cancer, early detection and treatment is essential.
* As your checking your testicles your penis may become hard and erect, this is a good thing as your penis is not interfering anymore.

Warnings

* This article should not be used as a substitute for professional medical advice and care. Be sure to visit your doctor regularly for checkups, and seek the advice of a qualified medical professional for more information on this or any medical test or problem.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Make a Spa at Home

Do you feel stressed and run down? Then you need a relaxing easy do-it-your-self spa to pamper your body, cleanse your soul, and clear your mind.
This is the Steps

1. Pick a good day that no one is going to be home. A day that you are free.
2. Sleep in. Wake up in and have a yogurt and some fruit for breakfast...something light. Stay in your pajamas.
3. First is the mask. Sit in a reclining chair and play some of your favorite music. Apply a mud mask and some cucumbers to your eyes. Make sure your hair is pulled back with a headband.
4. Now its bathtime. Draw a warm bubble bath. Light some lavender scented candles for a relaxed atmoshpere. Since you have candles turn off the lights. Soothe in the bath for 30 minutes to an hour.
5. When you get out lather your entire body with some lavender scented or aloe lotion to sooth and moisturize you skin.
6. Have some lunch, a sandwich or soup.
7. Sit down on the couch and read a book for about 30 minutes to an hour and just relax. I recommend a book by Luanne Rice.
8. Give yourself a manicure and a pedicure to make you look gorgeous.
9. Do some yoga to find your inner peace and clear your mind. Do for about 15 minutes to an hour.
10. Do some breathing excersises or meditation to calm your soul. Do for 15 minutes to an hour.
11. Sit down make some popcorn and watch a chick flick. I recommend Just Like Heaven, The Lakehouse, The Notebook, When Harry Met Sally, The Prince and Me, Before Sunrise, or any of your favorite shows.
12. Put on some jams and dance around the house in your underwear. Dance anywhere between 15 minutes to and hour.
13. When your husband comes home, have him cook dinner, and give you a massage.
14. Go to bed by 10.
Some tips for you

* Take your time because you have all day.
* A spa is always better with a best girlfriend.
* Relax as much as you can and don't think about problems or anything all day.

Things You'll Need

* mud mask
* candles
* manicure and pedicure supplies
* a movie
* a yoga video or yoga experience
* a book
* soothing lotions and body washes (either both smelling the same or smelling bath wash/gel/salts and non scented lotion)
* food

Sunday, October 19, 2008

The Way to Quickly Improve Your Memory

1. Ditch the Planner - Challenge your brain to remember things. If your brain needs to remember things, it will develop more to do so. The many memory aids we use may affect how well our memory works without these tools. If you use an agenda book or planner for school or work, try to remember things instead of writing them down. At home, go through each subject and try to remember the assignments. If you can't remember, call a friend. After a short time of doing this, you will be able to mentally note any homework easily. You can then go back to using your planner.
2. Read - Reading works your short term and long term memory (you have to remember what happened on the last page and in the last chapter). Not only is reading good for your memory, it has been proven to overall boost your intelligence.
3. Sing a Song - Mnemonics (Memory Tools) such as singing make remembering anything much easier. The sillier the song/rhyme/abbreviation is, the better. To remember numbers (such as a locker code), make a mathematical equation out of the three numbers, or remember that they add up to, for example, 53.
4. Have Fun With It - Memory games will help you associate memory with fun. For example, try to remember a certain license plate number at different times of day. This can also be used as a quick check to see how much you are improving.

Tips
* See the Sources list and read more about improving your memory quickly.

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Find a Hobby

Having a hobby helps to make you a more interesting person and gives you something fascinating to talk about with others. It can also help you to avoid feeling bored and often provides the opportunity to meet new people with similar interests. Learning something new is always good for keeping the mind alert and active, as is maintaining a long-term interest in something that enthralls you. This will also make your more of an interesting person than a person who is addicted to MySpace, watching TV, or doing other time wasting and unhealthy tasks, such as stuffing your gut.
This is the Steps

1. Think of a hobby that might interest you. It might be an interest that you always wished you had time to explore, but never had the time or money required to pursue.
2. A stamp collection, Collect things for a hobby. Look at the walls in your post office, and think about collecting stamps and what you might need to do to start and maintain a stamp collection. Think of other items you might like to collect, for example, coins, dolls or chocolate wrappers. You will need to consider how you will get your collectibles, where you will put them and whether you'll display them. And don't forget to think about swaps with friends!
3. Discover art for a hobby. Have you ever gone to a museum, looked at the paintings on the walls, and wondered if you could do the same thing? How about trying painting for yourself - in oils, acrylics or watercolors? Or maybe try drawing with charcoal or colored pencils. One particularly wonderful way to get involved in your community and make art at the same time is to participate in painting a mural. This will last for a long time and everyone in your community will see it and smile.
4. Team sport, Enjoy sport as a hobby. Watch soccer, basketball, golf, athletics or tennis tournaments on television or at your local sports ground. Do you feel that a sport is something that you would love to learn? Think about what it would cost, and the time it would take to learn and play. Do you have the funds available for this type of hobby? Would you have the patience it would take to really learn to play or train for any of these sports? Would you rather play a team sport or an individual sport? Maybe there are friends or family members who already have equipment and uniforms you can have, as well as tips for how to begin your chosen sport. Ask them about their experiences and listen to their suggestions.
5. Take up an outdoor activity. Maybe you are an "outdoors" person, someone who would enjoy outdoor hobbies, such as fishing, hiking, flying remote controlled model airplanes or kites in the park, water skiing, camping or cycling. Think about how much you like different kinds of weather (hot, cold, rain, sun, snow etc.) and getting close to nature. If this sounds like something you would really enjoy doing, then investigate how you could start learning one or more of these activities. Often these outdoors activities will have a club you can join, or you could get your friends together and try an outdoors activity as a group.
6. Browse a Craft Store, Take up an indoor activity. Maybe you are more of an "indoors person". Perhaps you'd enjoy knitting, sewing, doing puzzles and jigsaws, painting, making ceramics etc. Browse around a craft store and find various craft ideas and supplies. Ask friends and family if they have craft supplies and patterns that they're not using. Other places to look for ideas include games stores, toy stores, hobby stores, your local library or activity center and school.
7. Combine indoor and outdoor activities. Of course, there's nothing that says you can't be both an indoors and an outdoors person! Maybe in summer you love to cycle and in winter you love to make matchstick castles. Think about which seasons you would like to enjoy your hobby in.
8. Miniatures to make Take up woodworking. Look through the Internet at various woodworking hobbies. Things such as toys, desk top items, furniture, games etc. are all ideas to make out of wood. If you have a work room in a garage, perhaps you would like to buy a project kit like a miniature doll house and build and decorate it all yourself. You might even enjoy making the miniature furniture yourself instead of buying it ready-made.
9. Consider miniatures. Miniature trains, racing cars, toy soldiers, gaming pieces etc. are an intriguing hobby that will include painting, construction work, craft and more. Making miniatures suits someone with an eye for detail and a lot of patience. This hobby can be as elaborate or as simple as you like; many of the best miniatures are made from things you find around the house and use your imagination to turn into something else.
10. Wait until you have researched the initial cost, and the long term expense and time needed before jumping into a hobby. Make sure you can afford it, and have the time to spare. As you begin, start small. For instance, you can do a lot of astronomy with the naked eye. If you have learned and continued with that, the next step should be purchasing a good set of binoculars. Invest in the fancy telescope only when you are sure you are committed.
11. Search the Internet or visit a local library or community center for more information. Look for information related to the hobby you are interested in. Find out if you would have to buy supplies via Internet, or if you have suppliers that live in your area. If there is something on the Internet that you want and you don't have a credit card, ask a parent or a friend to help you. Sometimes even a store owner is the person to ask, as they can order the supplies in for you using their own contacts.
12. Get started on your hobby! Once you have decided which hobby best suits you in every way and you have bought or borrowed the equipment, clothing, tools and anything else you need, it is time to get it happening. Expect to start slowly at first, while learning, so have patience. You might even find a club to join and meet others with similar interests. This is a great way to make friends and to exchange ideas.
13. Display your hobby or compete. Once you become very good at your chosen hobby, you might like to enter competitions to test your skills or to display your work. Think of sports competitions, fairs or shows for craft and artwork, club meetings for show-and-tell or perhaps even a school or college event is a good chance to show off your skills.

Some tips for you

* Before you get involved starting your hobby, find a place to work on it, and to store it if it is done indoors. Even outdoors hobbies that need equipment will require storage space - hockey sticks, soccer balls, boots, bicycles, tents etc. all have to go somewhere when you're not using them!
* Make sure you hobby will not take away the time you need to spend with your family and friends. Involve them if you can and ask them to come and watch you play sport or to see your work on display.If you don't have much money at the start of your hobby, begin very small or find a hobby that doesn't cost anything. Borrow things from other people - often older people have tried a hobby and no longer care for it and they can give the items to you. Another way to make money is to sell the items that you have created in your hobby. This will work for hobbies such as craft, artwork and woodwork. It will have to be good quality though, so make sure you're good at it first.

Remember
* Do not start a hobby that would be expensive to start and maintain if you have to use money budgeted for family expenses or a college fund for you or your children.
* Always get the best instructions on how to make things or do them. If it is sport, be very careful to warm up properly and do not attempt to do anything difficult unless you have had proper training. If it is making something, read the instructions carefully and be patient. If you are handling anything dangerous, either seek assistance from someone else like a parent, colleague or professional or follow the instructions exactly.
* Gambling is not a hobby, and it could become an obsession and cost you dearly in the long run.
* Don't get too hooked on the hobby or you might go broke and lose relationships with the ones you love.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

Treat Male Pattern Hair Loss

Hair loss can be either natural or caused by disease. The most common hair loss is thinning of the hair caused by androgens (male hormones).
This is the steps

1. Accept it. Consider it a visible symbol of your increasing wisdom. Tolerating hair loss is the healthiest and cheapest way to cope with hair loss. If that technique is too hard on the ego, read on.
2. Consider some of the hair loss drugs. Arguably, the best drug treatment for male hair loss is 1mg of Finastride taken orally once a day and Minoxidil applied directly to the scalp in either a 2 or 5 percent solution.
* Take Finastride once a day without food. The drug should be used in a 6 month or 12 month period.
* Take 1 ml Minoxidil 2 percent or 5 percent solution and apply directly to a clean, dry scalp. The studies have shown that those using the 5 percent solution achieve better results.

Tips

* Men who want to swap Minoxidil with Finastride should use minoxidil for four months after starting Finastride to prevent any hair loss that occur from stopping Minoxidil treatment.
* Minoxidil appears to work best in people whose hair loss has just begun. So the best time to begin minoxidil treatment is right at the moment you notice that your crown is thinning (but not completely bald).
* Since it takes time to grow hair, you may notice results faster if you keep your hair cut really short. This minimizes the amount of time you need to notice a difference.
* Using dandruff shampoo regularly instead of regular shampoo has been known to cut down hair loss by 7% and increase hair growth by 5 % This tip was found in Men's Health Magazine

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Look Hot

Want to look and feel as good as you can, but don't know the certain things to do to clean yourself up? Here is a simple list of things you should do to look and feel neat, beautiful, and hot.
Try This steps

1. Get in shape. Exercise, and tone up your body. Find an exercise that works for you. You don't have to look anorexically skinny to be in shape. Looking fit is more attractive than being too skinny. Do little things like integrate more fruits and vegetables into your diet. Eat all of the required amounts of fruit and/or vegetables for your age, and make sure to make an effort to work out at least a little bit. It gets old, but drink at least 8 glasses of water per day. Your body needs its nutrition.
2. Shave! It is important to shave your legs, pubic hair, and armpit hair. If parts of your body are unshaven, it is seen as unhygienic. Armpit hair holds odor longer than skin, and you don't want to smell bad. If shaving is too annoying you could try hair removal cream, but it can irritate the skin. Also, before going to the beach, make sure you have a good bikini line. Shaving is seen as cleaner and more hygienic.
3. Take care of your hair. Make sure you find a good shampoo for your hair type. Experiment with products to find what works best for you. Deep condition once or twice a week.
* Make sure to get a hair cut about every two months to avoid split ends. If you have frizzy hair, find a good anti-frizz spray at a local store.
* Brush and style your hair, but avoid straightening it too much. Beachy waves are a good alternate to straight hair; you can pick up a good mousse that is especially for waves.
4. Take care of your face and skin. Taking care of your skin and face can be hard because everyone's skin is different. You can have oily skin, dry skin, sensitive skin, or acne. Which is why it is important to experiment with different face care products, or little things to do by yourself and find one that fits you.
* For people with dry skin: if your skin is so dry to the point that its flaking off; in the shower, or with warm water in the sink, take a washcloth and rub the extremely dry areas on you face with a little soap on the washcloth. Dry, and then apply toner and lotion afterwards, to your whole face. If your skin isn't as dry, then just apply the toner, and a good moisturizing lotion. I find that after sun lotions (for after tanning) are the most hydrating.
* For people with oily skin: "Neutrogena" brand skin products have good skin products that act as a "dryer" for your skin. They have Neutrogena kits at Ulta stores, drug stores, department stores, or you can look online.
* For people with acne: If you don't wish to use any acne creams, then try washing your face in warm water in the morning and before bed. Changing your pillow case is another biggie; it holds onto old dirt, oil, and makeup from your face, and then you expose your face on it. Also, trying Proactive is something that seems to be working for a lot of people. If you want to get rid of surprise breakouts, try a product that guarantees quick pimple elimination.
* For the rest of your skin, always moisturize, and smell good. Always use sunscreen, and take showers daily.
5. Be yourself. Be sure to be confident, happy, outgoing, and fun. It can be hard sometimes if you're shy, and trying to be more "out there". Try to observe how the other people around you talk, and interpret that into what you say. Adapt to different peoples' personalities, but still make your talking your own. And being crazy is alright every now and then too, as long as its funny, and not something that's stupid or will get you in trouble.
* With a guy: Flirt, but not to the point of suffocation; find little ways to be flirtatious, but if you don't feel the sparks flying back at you, then stop flirting. Little things like, whispering in his ear, and brushing up against him by accident are what can drive him wild.
* Be kind to people; do them favors, help them when they need you, be polite, compliment them. You will be well liked, and known in a heartbeat! Don't suck up to people, be sarcastic sometimes, and jokingly rude.
6. Have good hygiene.. Shower everyday, brush your teeth, comb your hair, spray on a good perfume, clean your fingernails, and blow your nose. Carry a mirror with you always in a purse of book bag, and check out the way you look every hour or so. If you get manicures make sure they look natural. Pluck your eyebrows, but not to thin! Also, if you have any facial hair, wax and pluck--such as sideburns, mustache (upper lip hair), and brows.
7. Wear stylish clothes. Buying clothes that are in style is key. If your parents don't want to buy you clothes, save up money and go on a mini shopping spree for yourself. Go to stores you like and browse for items on sale; they can be just as good! Keep your own style, but try to follow what your peers are wearing also. Don't buy clothes that are too tight fitting, or too revealing. Make sure the clothes fit you. Show off your best assets and hide your flaws.
8. Apply make-up well. Doing makeup is something that can make you look better, or worse. Use a makeup that works for your skin. Picking the right shade of foundation is very, very important. On top of your foundation, use a little bit of eyeliner on the top of your eyelid, along your lashline, and apply a little amount on the bottom. It defines your eye, and makes them pop. Try using lip balm, and occasionally lip gloss. Too much makeup looks horrible, so don't over do it.

tips

* Always smell good. Use breath mints, nothing is more disgusting than bad breath. Shower, and use perfume.
* Keep a cheerful attitude.
* Be confident. Not conceited, but always happy, and willing to compliment, and say hi.
* Be confident with yourself.

Remember
* Don't be conceited.
* Don't dress, or act slutty.
* Don't believe that you have to have a thong sticking out of your pants to be considered hot.
* Really try to be nice and stay true to your friends
* Never dis your old friends if more people like you.

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

The Way to Forget a Bad Memory

Everyone has bad memories that trouble them, but luckily there is a way to forget them, or at least decrease their mental significance.
This is the steps
1. Sit down in a comfortable chair and close your eyes.
2. Imagine an ocean image, 3D images of the ocean are great. Try to make it into a sunset, it helps.
3. Act as if its your virtual world and you have your own friends. Look for a person you like (again make sure they look three dimesionial) play with them all day.
4. Try this, it will keep your mind off the memories you hate and will keep you busy and fun.

Some tips
* It is better if you lay down on a bed or a sofa. It doesn't matter if you fall asleep, it is relaxing and you get to play in your virtual world all day!
* You can try to swim in the ocean, it is twice the fun.
* Having relaxing background music especially of waves would make the experience more real and enjoyable
* It does not have to be an ocean-try a relaxing walk through the woods and imagine all the beautiful flowers and birds-use your imagination!
* Remember to use your senses if you want full benefits-feel the waves, breath the ocean air, see the ocean and friend in full detail, hear the sea gulls.

Remember!!
* If some memories keep on popping out, relax and force them out, not too hard.
* Do this in your spare time because you can fall asleep.

You need this
* A quiet, comfortable place.
* A good imagination.

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Survive a Negative Friend #2

* Be funny and help them to laugh.
* Allow them a bit of time to be negative - maybe that is all they need to feel better and more relaxed.
* Talk about mutual interests, and avoid sore subjects.
* Do things that keep conversation to a minimum, like going to a movie or taking a guided tour.
* If they are having big problems, you can suggest that they see a doctor, counselor, minister, call a mental health hotline, etc.

Remember!!!
* Don't allow yourself to get drawn into the negativity.
* Don't go overboard with the compliments.
* Don't pester the friend.
* Don't assume the friend does not have a good reason to feel bad.
* Don't suddenly drop the friend because that will put him/her into even more of a negative emotional state.

Saturday, September 27, 2008

Survive a Negative Friend #1

A deep inside look on surviving the nagging, boring, and annoying behaviors of a negative friend. Tips, warnings, and some hard-core steps made just for you. Because, of course, you are a great friend! Why else would you go here?
Try this steps
1. When your friend begins to complain, don't interrupt. Just listen and tell the friend if you agree or do not agree.
2. Keep their esteem way high, compliment them daily, and make sure to spread the cheer to others.
3. Encourage the friend and really tell them where their strengths are
4. Do cool stuff yourself and show them how fun it is to get involved and not complain about stuff. Chances are, they'll join you.
5. Ask about their life; they are probably negative because their life sucks. If it's real bad, advise them to a therapist in the area- they'll offer professional advice and listen!
6. Don't be too peppy. A little can be nice here and there, but when it's over the top it's really off putting.

There is a tips for You
* Be nice and complimentary.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

The way to Become Friends With the Guys That Hate You

Is there a group of guys in your school that you'd like to be friends with, even though they dislike you? You can make it happen.
Try this steps
1. Stop insulting them; they absolutely hate that.
2. Stop talking, but not completely, if you insult them.
3. When you do talk compliment them, make conversation like saying, "What did you get on the test?", "Cool shirt" or "Who's your favorite band", etc.
4. Talk to them on a regular basis, get help from them on something that they're good at.
5. Eventually they will come around. Trust me, I've done this many times and always works for me.

Some tips for You
* Don't look like a huge flirt.
* Be nice; even though it might be hard you can do it.
* Even if they make fun of you, don't crack.
* Don't change yourself,just be yourself

Remember!!!
* You might end up liking them.
* If it's a boyfriend's guy friend, don't spend too much time together or you'll get hooked.
* You might prove yourself wrong and they might be really cool guys.
* If the guy hates you because he's around you too much like if your parents are good friends or something, you might want to lay off.


Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Way to Know if Someone Is Talking About You Behind Your Back

Is she talking behind your back? How would you know? Why are all these rumors popping up around you? Don't let these rumors harass you. Find out who started them. The steps below are some of the ways to find out if someone is talking behind your back.
Try this steps
1. Note if they are constantly whispering to other people, and when you come they abruptly turn back. This is the most obvious sign.
2. Find out if they are suddenly asking more personal questions behind your back.
3. Watch for signs of distancing. If they used to be your friend, they are now isolating themselves away from you.

Some tips for you
* Ask a friend if he/she could be a "spy" for them. Unless the person you think is talking about you knows you are friends, you could hide close by while your friend walks up to them and says "So, ugh, what do you think of (your name)?" and then listen to their reply. If they laugh, they are probably talking about you behind your back, or think your friend is weird.

Remember!!!
* Be careful not to tell them in their face, what if they aren't the ones that said you kissed so-and-so?

Sunday, September 21, 2008

The Way to Stop Your Friends Fighting

When your best friends get into a fight, you may get pulled into it. If you would like to know how to make this fighting stop, please continue reading for some suggestions.
This is the steps

1. Find out all of your friends who are included in the fight. Make sure that you know who did what and the main points of why the fighting is occurring. Ask other classmates/peers if they know any more details on this matter.
2. Explain to all of your friends involved in the fight that you're not planning to take a side. Let them know that you're only there to help and do not want to get dragged into this. Make sure not to skip this step, otherwise it will cause further problems along the road.
3. Listen to all of your friends. Try to find out the reason why they're fighting with one another from their point of view. Be a good listener, and try to support their opinion of the fight.
4. Make sure that the story of the fight is the same from each of your friends. Try to get the most accurate facts that you can on what had happened. Make sure not to mix your friend's opinions with what actually took place in this fight.
5. Attempt to gather all of your friends involved with the fight into one place where your voice can be heard. Explain to them the facts that you heard about the fight, and ask all of them if this is what really happen. Make sure to listen to them all again if they think something in your facts is inaccurate.
6. Let your friends know that you don't want this fight to ruin all of your friendship. Tell them that they should try their best to make up and sort this all out. On the other hand, you could also try to start all over with your friendship. Try to erase this incident from their minds by pretending it never happened.
Some tips for you
* Try to get all of your friends to speak their minds. Let them know that their opinions need to be heard if they want this fight to be resolved.
* Sometimes friends don't want to continue being friends anymore if the fight was a really bad one. Don't pressure your friends to continue being friends with the others involved in the fight if they feel uncomfortable or unsafe around them.
Remember!!!!
* Don't try to pick one friend to agree with. This could cause your other friend to get very mad at you, possibly resulting in losing a friendship.
* Don't spread what happened with your group of friends around the school. If your friends find out that you're spreading rumors about their argument, you may have lost all of your friends.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Get Your Friend to Leave His Girlfriend #2

13. When he comes back from the phone call, hug him (if you are a girl) or do a dudely handshake (if you are a man insecure with your masculinity) and tell him you love him.
14. Continue the night and then let him go home. Make sure his roommates go with him.
15. When he is back at his apartment, have his best friend lay it all out.
16. Let time work its magic on the selfish, annoying sorority girl.
This is some tips
* Don't give up.
* Make sure the girlfriend knows you don't care about her.
* Talk about how much it rocks to be single.
* While doing the above don't be too mean but straight forward to the point.
* HINT: If you REALLY want him to give her the boot; avoid all these rules and flirt with her yourself. If her personality is that horrible, chances are she's shallow enough to cheat on him. Just make sure you're other guy friends are aware of your malicious plan, so when it all comes crashing down, you're not blamed for really trying to steal her away.

Remember!!!!
* Don't set your friends up with chicks, it most likely will turn out badly.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Get Your Friend to Leave His Girlfriend #1

Does your friend have an annoying girlfriend that you think he should get rid of? Implement this plan...he'll be thanking you eventually.
1. Stop talking to the girl. When you are hanging out, don't acknowledge that she is even in the room.
2. No matter how many times she tries to talk to you, or asks others to talk to you about not talking to her... don't give in.
3. Don't be mean, but stand your immature ground and make sure everyone knows how you feel.
4. Make sure the majority of the guy's friends are on your side -- you want to know that your cause is not worthless or unjustified.
5. Get a few drinks in you (if you are of age) and take the guy out with a huge group of his friends.
6. Tell him you miss him. Tell him about how you miss how fun he used to be and how much fun you used to have. Make sure others agree.
7. Come up with some slogan for him that everyone yells in unison. This will boost his confidence and show him that everyone loves him so much.
8. Break the news that his girlfriend sucks. Tell him why -- give at least 5 reasons. If you don't have 5 or more, she really might not be that bad.
9. Tell him (make sure a group is there) that everyone feels the same way and they just haven't said anything.
10. Have him drink more (again, only if of age).
11. When his girlfriend calls later in the night, make sure he tells her that he is not ready to leave.
12. Have one friend stay with him for support (aka: telling him he is not ready to leave... and is on standby to yank the phone away if he (the victim) says he is).

Monday, September 15, 2008

Get Revenge on an Ex Friend

Sometimes people just get on your bad side. It is kind of unavoidable really...but revenge isn't. If you would like to get revenge in a manner that will have your ex friend get the picture without causing damage, check out this page.
1. Do some writing. Write a list of all the horrible things that he/she had done to you or your other friends.
2. Type the list and title it "Your Life". (Or an alternate title such as "Lies of the Present".) Customize the title to your liking.
3. Grab some tape! Tape the list to their locker, door, car door, backpack, desk, window, or any other place where they will see it. (If it is winter, don't put it outside, it will get all full of snow. But that's a no brainer!)
4. Casually hint them toward the list. If the list is on their locker you could say "Oh, yeah Beth, I almost forgot! My purse is in your locker! Can you go get it?" and hopefully, she will agree and go and get it, only to find a list of her treachery on her door.
5. Talk about the list. Explain what it is and what it means. Say that it represents your "friendship".
Following this Tips
* Don't pick a font that is crazy and unreadable. Times New Roman, pt 12. is fine.
* Don't include pictures.
* Sign the paper to "personalize" it.
Remember!!
* This kind of revenge is still revenge, keep in mind, so it may not be the way you want to go.
* Remember that revenge is usually not the first way to go, so think about if there's any other way to fix a problem before you resort to revenge.
* With new post 9/11 laws, you could be arrested for stalking and/or harassment if you are not careful with your revenge. If you do something dastardly, you could even be reported to the U.S. Department of Homeland Security for domestic terrorism.

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Decide Whether or Not to End a Friendship After a Fight

Most people believe that every friendship will need to endure a problem at some point or another. But while some problems are forgivable and will even serve to strengthen the friendship when they're over, others are simply deal-breakers, and you have to sever the relationship, even if it's painful. How do you decide which is which?
This is the Steps
1. Assess the cause. Why did you fight? Was it your fault, or your friend's fault that the matter escalated this far? Was it necessary, or was the fight over-blown? Assessing the truth about why you fought is going to be key to deciding whether or not the friendship can or should be saved.
2. Pinpoint the issue. What makes you think this is a deal-breaker? Did you fight over religion, politics? Those differences can make for heated debates - very interesting most times, if you have the stomach for them - but rarely should be cause for ending the friendship. Did you fight over a boy/girl? Again, boy/girlfriends may come and go, but your friend should outlast any of them, if your friendship is true. And there may be the crux of the matter - is your friendship true? Did you fight because your friend breached your trust, broke a promise, or committed a crime? These are serious problems, and must be carefully considered.
3. Seek counsel. Ask a trusted relative or friend - someone who is not a mutual friend, who will not spread what you say around your circle of friends. Be as objective as possible when explaining the circumstances, and ask for an unbiased opinion. Talking over your problem with a friend, a therapist, or a clergy member may really help you come to a good decision as to how best to handle the situation. But beware - if you tell someone you both know, this may spread like wildfire, and then you may not be in the driver's seat about ending it any more. You and your friend have already had a fight bad enough for you to consider whether or not the friendship can survive. Don't complicate things by running your mouth to people you both know - talk to someone outside your circle.
4. Weigh the benefits and detriments. If you decide to end this friendship, would your life be better in the end? How? Or would it be worse? Imagine your life without this person in it. Think about the fact that mutual friends would most likely divide between the two of you, with some remaining loyal to you, and some remaining loyal to your former friend. How will that affect you?
5. Consider whether either of you have had this sort of experience before. Have either you or your friend had this kind of blowout before? If your answer is yes, this fight may be part of a larger pattern for one of you. Look honestly at your own past - have you ever had a fight and then written a friend off afterward? If you have, try to break your old pattern by examining your own sensitivities. If you consult with other trusted friends or family members, they may verify or dismiss the notion that this may be a pattern with you. If your friend has told you of past such blowouts, think about that friend hard. Does s/he have many - or any - friends of long standing? People who have few long-term friends may develop a pattern of discarding friendships after a certain amount of time, or more crucially, after a certain level of intimacy or closeness develops. This is a defense, or guarding mechanism, and you may not be able to get past it.
6. Be sure you make your decision for the right reasons. Being angry with someone is not, of itself, reason enough to end a real friendship. Having your feelings hurt is not, of itself, reason enough either. These are the kinds of ups and downs that friendships, like sibling relationships, can endure if the two of you are willing to fight past your hurt and indignance - if you can do this and come together, talk things out, and come to resolution, your friendship can sail through these rough waters, and come out stronger than before, having been tested. But if your fight was over a serious, fundamental value difference, then your decision to end it may be the best for both of you. If, for example, your argument was over whether or not to call the cops on your friend's cousin for breaking into the house of a neighbor of yours, you may have an insurmountable problem. If you want to call the police, but your friend wants to protect her cousin, then you have a basic value difference: to you, wrong is wrong, no matter who it is. To your friend, blood is thicker than water, and family loyalty trumps legal and moral considerations. This is a problem that you may not be able to solve with discussion. If this is the case, you may have to part ways here.
7. Decide once and for all. Know that if you decide to end this friendship, there is probably no going back. If you end the friendship, try not to end it on the bitterest possible note. Dig deep inside yourself and be as kind as possible when you inform your soon-to-be ex-friend of your decision. If you're ending this over your friend wanting to protect a family member from possible criminal prosecution, you may not be able to achieve this. Chances are, you will go ahead and report the cousin (as you should), and your ex-friend will know it is you at the root of your cousin's impending incarceration. Once done, it is possible your friend will be relieved and come to you, saying s/he is glad it is over and bears you no ill will - this friendship can be saved. It's possible that your friend couldn't bring him or herself to report the cousin, but it's okay with your friend if you decided to be the "bad guy." But if it really is unsalvageable, try to say your goodbyes as nicely as you can: "Well, I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. Unfortunately, I feel like this argument has been too hard on the relationship, and I don't think I will be able to just let it go and resume our friendship. I think I need, at minimum, a break. And honestly, after the way this fight played out, I feel I might never be able to go back. Let's say goodbye for now, and if we end up meeting again, maybe we can start fresh." When you close the door, let that be the end of it.
8. Don't badmouth that person. Take the high road, no matter what. Don't say bad things about that person, and don't listen to anything bad about him or her, either. Just say, "We had our differences and I moved on. I don't want to discuss it, or anything about him or her, okay?" Saying bad things, or encouraging bad gossip just keeps things churning. Let it end. Your real friends will be able to discern what is true about you, and what is just angry ranting.

Remember!!!
* Ending a friendship is a loss. It can feel like you've experienced a death. Give yourself time to get over it.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

End a Fight With a Friend #2

This some Tips for you
* Its always better to let the argument simmer a little before confronting the person. If talk right after the fight, many things are said out of anger.
* Allowing bad feelings to brew for too long creates a situation that becomes more difficult to make up. So after the fight calms down, make sure you talk to the person before its too late.
* Its okay to be the first to give in and apologize. The other person probably wants to do it too, but it shows your courageous and a dedicated friend. Yet, if you're constantly in fights and always making up first, then take time to reconsider if this person is really a friend.
* If what you did to your friend was too hurtful it's better to just let that person cool down first or else you might just get yelled at with the reason why your friend got angry at you. So just say sorry after a few days so that the damage you made wouldn't be so fresh at to get that person more irritated at you.
* If the friend(s) are unforgiving then try to look back and see what you could have done. Read past emails, chats ect. This will help you understand thier point of view.
Remember
* When the disagreement was too hurtful, if your words or actions were too damaging, a friend might just not want to make up with you.
* If you had been disloyal, and did not reveal your true desire to continue a friendship, then think it over, and never say or do these things again.
* Avoid accusing the friend, if you accuse them it gives them more reason to fight back.
* True friends are hard to find and keep. Remember this. You will meet many friends in life, but only perhaps one will be true and sincere.

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

End a Fight With a Friend #1

Sometimes we have a fight with a friend. Many times, you find that you even forgot what the fight was about. You just seemed to argue, and then stop talking to each other. Time goes by and you realize that you miss the friendship, and wished you could talk to your friend again. It is possible, and they probably feel the same way as you do. Someone has to take the initiative, and it might as well be you!
This is the Steps
1. Find out what the root issue is. Why did you have the fight?
2. Call your friend at a time that you feel they won't be tired, or too busy to talk.
3. Explain that you miss them and their friendship. Make sure you sound sincere and wait a few minutes to hear their response.
4. Reply to what they say, and how they feel. If they tell you that they were hurt by your actions, or your words, apologize.
5. Explain that at that moment, you did not realize how your words or actions had hurt them.
6. Respond by telling them, that you also were hurt by their attitude. That you felt betrayed or used.
7. Each of you, sincerely and honestly explain your feelings, and each of you listen to each other. They were hurt, and you were hurt. It takes two to argue, and it takes two to make up.
8. Talk until you each have said all you had to say. Get everything out, and then ask them to meet you for coffee, or a drink, or a walk.
9. Listen to how they react to meeting with you. If they are happy, and agree, then you have made up with your friend. However, expect that if they had been so completely hurt by the incident that caused the breakup, they might not agree to meet.
10. Consider this and understand that you had lost your friend and friendship.
11. Learn from the lesson that caused this breakup, and go on to making new friends.

and if they call you names or threatin to throw stuff at you just say how you feel then leave

Monday, September 8, 2008

Deal With a Jealous Person #2

* Empowering them is a good way to diffuse their jealousy, but only do this for those people you feel are worthy of your time and energy. Ignore the others.
* Their jealousy is a mask for insecurity. Once you recognize there's nothing behind the veneer, you'll be fine.
* You have the right as a person to be in a stable healthy relationships. Choose to do so
Remember!!
* Jealous people will try to bring you down to their level. Don't let them. You don't have to be in a abusive relationship with anyone!
* If your mate is always jealous for no reason, accusing you of false affairs or activities, than you may be in trouble. Extreme jealousy can lead to very dangerous behavior. If you are not sure if your mate or date is mentally stable-be very careful. Stay safe and protect yourself. Don't make fun of them just reassure them that you care about them. Consider getting out of the relationship slowly and over time.
* Someone acting jealous does not mean they care about you. It means they have self esteem problems or can not except the end of the relationship.
* If you feel extreme jealousy and want to hurt the person or their belongings. Stop! Understand that your pain will stop over time and you will deeply regret any violence you have done. You need to reach out and talk to someone even if it is embarrassing. The person that you will feel jealous over has changed or moved on with their life. Ask yourself why? Try to "vent" out your strong feelings in writing as well just don't take actions towards the person.
* You have the right to end any conversation with a person who puts you down or is nasty in anyway.

Sunday, September 7, 2008

Deal With a Jealous Person #1

Whether you're dealing with a jealous acquaintance, relative, friend, mate or even a stranger, here's some step-by-step advice on how to respond. Also some tips to help you if you are feeling jealous as well.
Steps
1. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand the reasons behind his or her feelings. Jealousy often stems from insecurity or a sense of deep loss.
2. Offer encouragement and praise when something goes right for your friend, but whatever you do, don't hide your happiness for what is going right in your life. A true friend supports at all times and should be happy for your accomplishments.
3. Try to help the other person get what they are wishing to have. Give them helpful advice and suggestions.
4. Try not to say things that would make the person jealous. Don't have any big upset reaction to their jealousy because sometimes it feeds it. Stay calm and look them in the eye.
5. Look before you get involved with a very jealous person in a romantic relationship. If it is uncomfortable in any way-get out of the relationship at once. There are signs to watch for and it can be a big problem for you in the future. If they don't want you to have other friends-be careful. It is healthy and necessary for people to make friends, be comfortable around other people and make decisions based on your feelings or your judgement.
6. Realize that jealousy can be the root of many evil behaviors/ painful thoughts and even ruin a person. Everyone can feel jealous once in awhile but if it is always present and bothering you should seek help immediately. If you feel like you are doing strange, out of character things: spying, going through a person's things, waiting in your car at their work,etc. than you might be in the state of "romantic jealousy". It can be agony and you need to talk to someone about your problem.
7. Listen to the little voice inside of you. If it tells you to avoid, be afraid or scared of a person-listen to it.
This is the Tips
* You might be a fun, beautiful, gregarious person that people are jealous of. Too bad. Let them. You won't serve yourself any better by catering to their hate.
* When someone is envious of you, it means that you have something they want. If you want to help them and they seem nice and worth the effort, offer to tell them where you got that shirt or those shoes. Tell them how you stay positive.

Friday, September 5, 2008

How to Deal With Frienemies

Have you ever had an enemy you used to call a friend? If you do, this guide will help you deal with the aggravations that come from their behavior.
following this Steps
1. Ignore the person if they make you or make fun of you. Make sure you give eye contact briefly, though, as this usually makes them think better of what they're doing.
2. Boost your self-confidence. If you can walk with your head high, unaffected by their comments, they will stop commenting. You won't seem wounded by the names, so you'll just be another one of those kids to him.
3. Keep your temper; stay above their level of juvenile jests and jeers. You will feel better being the "bigger person."
4. Enjoy yourself with your current friends. They can provide support and defend you in times of need.

This is Tips for you
* Ignoring your "frienemy" may be hard, but it gets easier as time goes on.
* Stand up for your friends, as they will come in handy later on.
Remember !!
* Never begin a fight, call them names, or show signs of aggression. The last thing you want is to go home with a black eye and bloody nose.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Be in Good Health

Many people do not care about their health and are busy working and are taking calories in excess.The rate of obesity has risen due to the intake of sweets,chocolate and many food containing loads of fats.
Many precaution should be taken concerning the younger generation. With the advanced of technology, scientist have surely find ways to be slim and not to feel different from others. Many chemical solutions have been produced and sold on the World Market but not one doubt of further circumstances. Physical exercises also help the proper functioning of our heart. We have swimming,running slowly,walking fast not in a vigorous way and many sports activity. Many people think that sport is good for health. It's true that sport is good but the problem is that if we do not know how to practice it in the convenient manner it can be fatal to our health. We should do things according to our capacity. Human body has a limited capacity and we should all respect it. Consuming drugs to enforced our capacity is not efficient for our health in the long run even death can occur at the wrong time.
Some tips for you:
* Eat a lot of fruits and vegetables containing lots fibers.
* Have at least eight hour sleeping each day.
* At least fifteen minutes of exercise.
* A balanced diet is required.
* Breakfast plays a vital role in your health
* Use herbal product (vegetable) rather than product containing lots of chemical substances.
* Avoid smoking and drinking alcoholic drinks
* Drink one glass of water as you wake up every morning

Time to Identify Bad Friends

There are the types of friends that are messy. They like to engage in gossip and bring your name into the conversation without your authorization. This might be because they want to make you look bad or to cover themselves.
Steps
1. Assets. They will also use you because you have assets like a car, your own apt./home, make lots of money, have vacation property, to get close to your bf or brother. They will eat up your house and home and even use your beauty products. But when you confront them, they become angry. They disrespect you and your belongings. You may also notice borrowing become an issue. They borrow money and never pay you back. Borrow your clothes, property, and never give it. Return it damaged. Let other people use/wear your belongings. They may also ask for a favor but can never return a favor.
2. "It's all about me" type of friends. They always talks about themselves. Also, they could care a less about you... your day, how your feeling, etc. You may also notice that they brag a lot. Whether it be about themselves, materialistic possessions, boyfriend, getting married, or a vacation, they always find something to make them sound better than you. Seems to always have an opinion about everything. An opinion is a person's ideas and thoughts towards something. It is an assessment, judgment or evaluation of something. An egocentric person has no theory of mind, cannot "put himself in other people's shoes," and believes everyone sees what he sees (or that what he sees in some way exceeds what others see. It appears that this is shown mostly in younger children. They are unable to separate their own beliefs, thoughts and ideas from others.
3. Poor me. Always come to you when they have problems for advice, but when you need to vent or advice they're very short with you. So not fair when you don't mind spending two hours plus to cool them down; instead for you it's like five minutes. You're not a therapist. They may also stay mad at you when you two are in a fight. This is because they can only see their point of view.
4. Clingy. Can't share you with other people. When they do see you with other people, they're jealous because they want you all to themselves. Can't include you to see a movie with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Spends lots of time with them, and when their other half is busy they want you all the time. They will ditch you for them if they come around.
5. Fake. Smiles in your face, but when around other people, make you feel small by continuously putting you down verbally. They may also do things such as drugs and deny it. They might promise to call you back, but never do. Always keeps you waiting. Always make excuses as to why they didn't call you.
6. Never acknowledges your ethnicity/culture. Considers you something else, and think it's alright to insult you heritage by using derogatory slang words around you knowing it offends you. Doesn't accept you for you for all that you are.

This is Tips for You:

* Don't set too many expectations and rules. That's just trapping others in your dimension.
* Allowing your friendship to evolve and change naturally is really best - it allows your friend to be as unique and individual as you are, and for both of you to enjoy one another in that light.
* If someone is in any difficulty and he/she's behave very hurtful to you, then don't be angry and try to understand their problems.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Deal With a Jealous Friend

If you have a jealous friend who's making life difficult for you, here's how to fend off their negative attitude without ruining the friendship.
This is the steps

1. Know the difference between jealousy and honesty. What might seem like a deliberate attempt to put you down might actually be your friend giving you constructive criticism.
2. Put yourself in your friend's shoes and understand the reasons behind his or her feelings. Jealousy often stems from insecurity.
3. Get a second opinion. If your friend is making comments that seem to stem from jealousy, have someone else around who can look at the situation objectively. If they're not present, seek their opinion afterwards.
4. Show a positive attitude to let the jealous friend know that they have no power over you and that you are very confident about yourself. If you are not confident to begin with, then Build Self Confidence.
5. Help your friend raise their self-esteem and build a life that they can be proud of instead of looking enviously at yours. Empowering them is a good way to diffuse their jealousy, but only do this for those people you feel are worthy of your time and energy. If you want to help them and they seem nice and worth the effort, offer to show them how you, got your hair that way, where you found that shirt, how you got the killer job.
6. Offer encouragement and praise when something goes right for your friend, but whatever you do, don't hide your happiness for what is going right in your life. A true friend supports at all times and should be happy for your accomplishments.
7. Tell the friend how pathetic they are for acting like a child? Ask them to get some well needed therapy. Friends shouldn't need to be treated like babies.

Some Tips for you

* You might be a fun, beautiful, gregarious person that people are jealous of. Too bad. Let them. You won't serve yourself any better by catering to their hate.
* If your friend continues to be jealous and as a result tries to tear you down, consider breaking up with that friend.

Remember Bragging will only make any jealousy worse.

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Try to Love Your Life

We all have bad days periodically. Here are a few tips to help yourself get back into your own "groove"a and love your life.

1. Pamper yourself. Get a facial, a manicure, a massage or a haircut.
2. Try not to dwell in self-pity.
3. Take an extra long shower or an aromatherapy bath.
4. Listen to your favorite music. (If it is depressing consider listening to something happy)
5. Curl up with a book you've been meaning to read, while you enjoy a favorite refreshment or snack.
6. Go for a walk. Get outside. Breathe some fresh air. Move around.
7. Make a list of things you're thankful for. Count your blessings.Consider the things that you enjoy in your life and that make you happy; like sunflowers, watching an old movie, playing with your dog/cat, etc.
8. Love yourself.

A Few Tips

* Focus on the things you like most about yourself. If you have beautiful skin on your arms or have the perfect feet, then focus on that.
* Wear clothes and try to be with people who make you feel good about yourself.
* Compliments make us all feel good. Say "Really?? Thanks!!" to the people giving them to you and more will surely come your way!!

Sunday, July 20, 2008

Use the Words "Mad" and "Angry"

It is a common misconception that 'mad' and 'angry' mean the same thing. The definitions are different! So don't make people angry by being mad!

1. Understand the definitions:
1. Mad:
* Very foolish (Ex. "That was rather mad of you, challenging Dracula to a blood-drinking contest.")
* Marked by uncontrolled excitement or emotion (Ex. "When he saw the wine glasses filled with red liquid, the vampire was swept away in a mad whirl of giddiness.")
* Affected with madness or insanity (Ex. "Upon arriving at the scene, the doctor, taking one look at the waxen, heavily draped creature which lay twitching nervously in the corner, pronounced his patient as being 'quite mad.'").
2. Anger (often used as 'angry):
* A strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some real or supposed grievance.
* Belligerence aroused by a real or supposed wrong.

Remember the phrase 'stark raving mad', and you should be fine.

Saturday, July 19, 2008

Calm an Upset or Angry Child

When small children (about 2-6) get angry or upset, it's hard to calm them down, especially if you're a babysitter and don't know the child very well. This article helps babysitters, parents, and anyone else taking care of a child that is throwing a tantrum, crying, refusing to do something, etc...

1. Make sure the child is unhurt. Is physical pain upsetting him or her? If so, and he/she is hurt, take care of their wound, or bump in the head, etc. If the child is still upset (ex. 'Sally hit me!') there may be some anger towards the person or thing that caused the injury. If so, skip to step #4.
2. If the child is upset or angry about something related to one of his/her toys or possessions (ex. "Jimmy broke my doll!) ask to see the toy and try to fix it. In the worst-case-scenario, the toy will be permanently broken, and you may want to 'put away so you can fix it properly later'- and wait to see if the child forgets about it. If not, you can either buy that child a new thing or get it repaired.
3. If he/she is angry about a privilege being taken away, not getting to have dessert, having to turn off the television, having to go to bed, or simply is having a very bad day, don't be harsh. Be gentle and caring. Try to reason with the child. Ask what he/she wants, if they had their way. Do they demand to stay up another half-hour (or whatever)? Make a bargain, that they may stay up for ten minutes but that you would read them a story at bedtime (or whatever). Go halfway and give them a deal. If they still are being a pain, or if you simply can't let them stay up, tell them that they have to go to bed, and give them the reasons why.
4. If another child is upsetting him/her, find out why, then confront the other child and ask him or her to apologize. if you have any authority over the antagonizer, then give him/her a minor punishment (not watching TV that day, whatever) to make the other child feel better.

this is the tips

* Don't be harsh. Any upset child will respond negatively to an adult treating them harshly. Even if you are at you're wits' end, try to give them a little comfort and be nice.
* if there are any injuries on the child, treat them even if the child doesn't want you to ('it stings!' etc..). Safety first.

Remember

* if the child is doing anything potentially harmful or dangerous, make them stop. Immediately.



Thursday, July 17, 2008

Handle Angry Customers

If you own or run a business, or even work at a business where you serve customers, there are going to be displeased customers. These simple steps may help you make your angry customer happy.
this is the steps

1. Be patient. An irate customer won't be placated by anything but a satisfactory resolution to their problem. Getting angry back at them won't help.
2. Approach the angry customer and ask what they are displeased with. Usually restating the issue they are having will help to calm them. For example, say, "I can understand your frustration with that policy."
3. If they ask for the manager, get him/her quickly and do your best to solve the problem.
4. After they address the problem, apologize for taking their time and inform them that your business will do everything possible to correct it. Then, make sure you and your coworkers do everything possible to correct the situation.
5. Compliment them after the discussion. Say something to the effect of, "It's people like you that help our business."
6. The next time they come back, ask how their day is and do everything possible to be polite.

You also try:

* Always be polite!
* Try not to take their complaint personally - even if it's about your own job performance. If you feel yourself become emotionally involved in the issue, it is best to step aside and let another employee handle the situation.
* Think about how you would want a problem handled if you had a complaint. Then, treat your angry customer as you would want to be treated.
* If you simply cannot give the customer what they want, give them something for free (you may need a manager's approval) to make up for it.
* Make the angry customer want to come back again.
* A customer complaint can be a vehicle for customer retention. If you handle the customer appropriately and apologize effectively you can turn a negative into a positive.

Remember this :

* Never be mean to the angry customer. Remember, you want them to come back again. If you insult them, they are sure never to come back, and they'll probably tell their friends, which can result in your business sinking to the bottom of the ocean (Going bust).
* Some customers are known to complain about anything. If you come across one of those customers, try to discuss with your manager whether this client is beneficial to the company or whether it might be worth to lose him, because he doesn't do a great deal of business and causes the company a lot of time in dealing with his daily complaints. The time wasted on one client like this could be dedicated to customers that are "true" customers.
* Please remember that the safety of you, your coworkers, and other customers comes first. If a customer crosses the line by making abusive, threatening, or hostile actions or threatens to, immediately call 911 and inform your supervisor when it is safe to do so. Companies would rather lose an abusive customer than have their employees, vendors, or other clients hurt or worse in the course of business.

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Communicate With an Angry Person

We encounter many angry people in our daily lives who are angry for things that at time, they cannot control. Some are angry because they are out of work, others because of the world situation. Others show anger while driving and a car in front of them is too slow. It seems we are a nation of anger, and we have to learn how to deal with them properly.
Steps

1. Remain calm. This is absolutely essential. No matter how unfair or frustrating the situation do not get angry. To communicate with someone, you need to remain levelheaded to get your point across.
2. Determine why they are angry. Is there something you did that caused them to get mad? Are they displacing their anger at something else onto you? Or is it completely irrational? Either way, address the problem.
3. Try to have them Calm Down. Do not be patronizing, though, or you will make them even madder.
4. Be polite. Acting rudely will only aggravate them more.
5. Try to help. If you are working with them in a business context, provide them with service as quickly as possible. If not, listen to them. Don't say anything, just listen.

Tips for communicate witha an angry person

* Don't patronize or explain why their anger is irrational.
* Don't get frustrated or let your emotions get the better of you.

Remember this

* Rudeness or a bad attitude will make the situation worse.
* Don't back down if you truly did not do anything wrong. Instead, look at the situation from their point of view. Why would they think it was your fault?

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Be Safe in Your Trip to Costa Rica


Most people have considered Costa Rica for one of their tropical vacation, but safety is alway a concern when traveling to a unfamiliar country. Here are steps to better prepare yourselve for possible crime or cultural differences.

1. Take a deep breath and relax. You are as safe as you are aware.
2. Always know where your money is.
3. Carry mace or other non-lethal protection.
4. Try to book your hotels in advance; when you arrive in Costa Rica rates may be higher.
5. It is best to use an ATM or credit card to get money. If you must exchange Dollars or traveler's checks, use a local exchange rather than the airport.

Tips for you

* Use smaller hotels such as: Costa Rica Hotel San Gildar instead of bigger chains. That will give you a better cultural experience.

Remember

* Don't drive with your windows open in downtown San Jose. Their have been cases of quick theiverys by walkers.
* Never walk around with your passport, instead take a photocopy with you and leave your passport in the safety box at the hotel.

Friday, July 11, 2008

Plan a Romantic Trip to San Diego

San Diego is a fabulous destination for romance. Learn how to have a romantic trip with you and your loved one during a stay in San Diego.

1. Select a hotel. There are many to choose from. The most romantic are either on the beach or along the shore. Good places to look for beachfront hotels are in Coronado, Pacific Beach, Mission Bay, and La Jolla.
2. Make reservations for at least one really romantic restaurant during your stay. Possibilities include: Outdoor Terrace Bistro at George's at the Cove in La Jolla, Marine Room in La Jolla, Forever Fondue in La Jolla, Bertrand at Mister A's in downtown San Diego, and The Prado in Balboa Park.
3. Spend one evening on the water. You can take a Bay cruise from a company such as Hornblower Cruises. There's also an historic sternwheeler that cruises Mission Bay called the Bahia Belle. Both provide live music and dancing. Other choices are sunset kayak rides along the cliffs and caves of La Jolla or a romantic gondola ride on Coronado Island.
4. If you are going during the summer months, be sure to get some firewood and head to a beach for a bonfire. Most San Diego beaches have firepits and bonfires are allowed in the pits until midnight. If you time it right, you can also watch the fireworks over Sea World.
5. Catch at least one romantic sunset from a San Diego beach or from the top of Mount Soledad in La Jolla.

This is the Tips

* You can have a romantic day with your loved one anywhere and any place. Put some effort into letting that special someone in your life know how much you are in love and romance will happen.

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Pack for a Trip to China#2

* Find a cassette language course, or bring a translation dictionary. While it is important to understand some Chinese, don't stress, just know the basics, enough to get you by. Keep in mind, though, that most Chinese people, outside of employees at 5-star hotels/restaurants and shops that cater to foreign tourists, will NOT be able to speak English. (aside from "hello!!") So, if you want to venture off the beaten path, learn some key phrases. Also, ask someone at the hotel you are staying at if they could write down, in chinese, the places you wish to go during the day. That way, if you have a taxi driver, you can show them where you want to go. #If you are staying in the urban areas, chances are high that you'll be able to communicate OK in English.
* Always carry a business card of the hotel you are staying at. This way, no matter what happens, someone will be able to get you back to where you want to be. Just in case of emergency, it would also be a good idea to bring a copy of you passport with you and leave your real passport locked in the safe at your hotel.
* Know where to find your currency collection places. It is not possible to obtain Chinese currency outside of China. So you will need to know where to access major hotels and big banks in the big cities so that you can cash the travelers' checks or credit card when needed.
* Pay attention to how much cash you have with you. It is a good idea to keep enough to get a taxi back to your hotel. All major airports will have ATMs, so get the money once you arrive.
* Spend some time with a map and get to know the places you are staying or will be visiting. It will help you get your bearings before wandering off into the city.
* Insider Tips: Chinese people respect visitors from the Western world, and are quite helpful. Drink Coke whenever you're in doubt about the kinds of foods you have eaten - it will help digest whatever is not appropriate in your stomach...but don't overdo it.
* Make sure you know what you're eating and how well it's been cooked. In places like Wangfujing market in Beijing, sometimes many of the snacks aren't cooked thoroughly.
* If you are of Caucasian or African ancestry, do not be suprised if people ask you to take a picture with them.
* Prepare for your trip by making a print with all the hotels you will visit in Chinese charcters (use the chinese website for this or google translate). This will help the taxidrivers. Very rarely they speak English.

Warning to all,if you going trip to china please remember this
* Chinese culture is unique, and sometimes comes as a shock to outsiders. Don't be the obnoxious tourist! People will be more willing to help you if you aren't stubborn.
* Be aware of pick-pockets, as you should when in any big city or foreign country. Have a short chain connecting your belongings to yourself. In crowded areas, such as train stations, wear your backpack/purse on the front of your body, instead of on your back. Use carry-on locks on your zippers. Wear your wallet in a chest pocket. Dress in black formal attire, and look around as if sizing people up for a fight (if you're a man) to intimidate thieves. If you're a woman, you're SOL since most Chinese do not consider women dangerous or intimidating.
* In major cities, be wary of giving money to the poor. If you give money to one, others will almost always follow and ask for money too.
* Make sure the taxi driver uses the meter, this way there is less chance of being cheated. Be careful!
* It is always safest to buy water bottles than to drink from fountains.

Happy Vacation and enjoy your trip.....

Pack for a Trip to China#1

China is a very interesting and thrilling place to visit. There are a few key things that you need to be sure to bring with you, and some tips that can help you along your way.

1. Arrive prepared in China. Though there is shopping on every street corner, many of the things you may be used to may be unavailable to you in China. Bring toilet paper as most restrooms will not provide this. Plan ahead by saving toilet paper, in advance of the trip. Each time you have a partial roll left, place this in a baggie and toss it into your suitcase. Six to eight small rolls will last a family of four through a two week trip. Take only a key to your house or a car key with you. Leave all others at home.
2. Bring Pepto Bismol and Immodium chewables. Water quality in China is very poor and you may develop slight intestinal problems if you use tap water to brush your teeth or if you eat vegetables which have not been cooked after having been rinsed in tap water.
3. Bring clothes according to what season you are traveling. China gets VERY HOT in the summer, and quite cold in the winter. Bring plenty of clothes, but remember you can always find a laundromat to get your clothes washed. Beware, however, some laundry places use detergent that can irritate your skin if it is sensitive.
4. When you take a shower, be careful not to get any water in your mouth. It tastes normal, but could easily make you sick. Always brush your teeth with bottled water.
5. Consult your physicians in advance of travel. Physicians will prescribe antibiotics for you and advise you as to when to use the medicine. Be sure to have your prescriptions filled before your trip. China requires that you present a letter from your doctor indicating the need for the use of any psychotropic medicines you might be taking. Bring antibiotics and any other prescriptions you will have to take during your travel. Count enough for your days of travel, plus a few spare pills. Bring all of this in the original prescription container.
6. Write the contact information for each of your doctors on an index card and take this with you during your day trips in the event you have a medical problem, and need to call home.
7. Stock a hip pack for each member of your party with a small roll of toilet paper and a small bottle of hand sanitizer Enclose also a granola bar, some cough drops, as and some gum. These will come in handy as you travel around town.Include a flashlight since electrical blackouts can happen at any time, and you might find yourself in a dark room.
8. Take Travelers Checks, and some cash, as credit cards are not accepted by many restaurants and shops. Bring a security pack which will allow you to keep any return flight or train tickets and your travelers checks, credit cards, and or cash, safely attached to your person, underneath your clothes. This way you can keep essential items safe if there is no safe in your hotel room.

This is some Tips for trip to China

* Decide where you want to go, and do research before you leave. Know the general weather for the season and location you will be. There's nothing more miserable than being dressed for the wrong weather. Also, it is important that you dress conservatively. Long pants and nice shirts and tops are good.
* Read several histories of China to make the sights more comprehensible. Bring your guide books with you so you can read them on the airplane and in your hotel room so the information will be fresh in your mind.

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Plan a Trip#2

7. Travel light. Leave space for shopping. Moreover, traveling with lots of luggage restricts your movement and causes discomfort. Only pack the necessities.
8. Notify a friend or family about your leaving. If possible, leave them a contact number or address.
9. If traveling internationally, make sure your documents are in order. Keep your passport, travel documents, visas, and similar items in a safe pouch.
10. Buy film, or keep digital camera batteries on hand.
11. Put vacation notices on your mail, and remember to set your answering machine.

This is some Tips for you

* If you are new to traveling, plan your trip through a travel agency, especially if you are going to a foreign country. It will make your trip so much easier!
* Try to book your hotel in advance. If traveling with a large group, arrange for a car to pick you up from the airport to minimize hassle.
* Call home!
* Get book(s) about your destination from your local bookstore

Plan a Trip#1

Some trips are scrimped and saved for, and others can be spontaneous and exciting. All trips are meant for adventure, relaxation and enjoyment. By planning well, you can ensure you that you and your family can enjoy a hassle-free trip!
1. Choose your location. Research it online and discuss it with your fellow travelers. Make a list.
2. Keep in mind weather and climatic conditions, merits and demerits of the place, types of recreation (beaches, culture, shopping), and facilities (transport, eating out, etc).
3. Plan around your location. What clothes are suitable? Are any medications needed? Do you need to take foodstuffs? What about currency?
4. Make a loose schedule. Planning too far ahead may backfire, because vacations hardly ever go as planned. Plan for spontaneity, but keep hints from travel guides in mind. Mark places to visit and things to do. How many days do you have? You should keep the overall schedule in mind - you do not want to end up too tired (or alternatively, bored).
5. Make a list. Write down the places you want to visit, including restaurants, museums, malls, and other places of interest. This will help give you ideas and prevent being completely lost when you arrive and do not know what to do.
6. Make a budget. If you plan ahead, you can save on ticket prices.

Monday, June 23, 2008

Time to Be a Good Listener #3

There Tips For You

* Never criticize while listening, and never attack another person for his or her feelings. This spoils your reputation as a listener and will completely remove the speaker's motivation to speak up.
* Listening is about creating a caring environment in which the other person feels encouraged by your ability to understand.
* Don't judge anyone for their opinion or actions. Remember you, like everyone else has done or felt something you're not proud of now. ask yourself 'Who am I to judge anyone?'
* The more you listen, the more trusted you become.
* The more difficult listening becomes, the more important it is to listen.
* Remember that when your counterpart feels that he or she has been listened to, he or she is much more likely to listen to your ideas. On the contrary, if no one ever listened to each other, then they would fall victim to bad listening, and would not have a chance to fully express themselves. Your desire to express should begin with listening well to others.
* Postpone an important conversation if you are not in the mood to listen. It is better to not talk about it if you are not ready than to try to force through a conversation where you are too distracted by emotions, worries, and other things that prevent you from listening.
* Avoid phrases that imply that you have not listened fully to the points communicated to you such as "Yeah but..." Instead, learn to use phrases that provide confirmation that you have heard the other side fully, such as "I see. Now tell me what you would say to this..."
* Keep in mind that sometimes we need to listen "between the lines," but there are times when we need to absorb things at face value. When we listen intensively, our minds are often busy placing what we hear into the situation and our emotions, which creates barriers to our ability to listen fully what is being said. This is similar to making judgments and drawing conclusions before all has been said. Don't do that. Take it at its face value and go with the flow.
Remember this warnings

* Never assume that what worked for you will work for everyone else as well.
* Never try to fit in your biographical account and "been-there-done-that" experiences into what the speaker is saying. It is better to keep quiet, even if you have had the same problem a year ago and you know how to work your way out. If you listen well, it is quite possible that your suggestions and experience will be solicited later on.
* If you find yourself formulating a response before the other person has finished speaking, you are not listening.
* The more confident you are in your own idea, the more you should be willing to suspend that point of view for the moment.
* If a person pauses as if trying to think of the right word, don't jump in with a word of your own. Some people are careful about their choice of words. It doesn't mean they need help. Finishing someone's thought is rude and disruptive.

Time to Be a Good Listener #2

6. Wait for the person to open up. In the process of encouraging a constructive response, an active listener must continue to be patient and let the speaker acquire his or her full flow of thoughts, feelings, and ideas. Keep yourself in his or her shoes and try to estimate why he or she is in such a situation.

7. Use body gestures and facial expressions to express your interest and to unearth what is left unsaid. Active listening involves the entire body and face--both yours and that of the speaker:

* Your expression: Look interested and meet the gaze of your speaker from time to time. Do not overwhelm the speaker by staring intently, but do reflect friendliness and openness to what you are listening to.

* Read between the lines: Always be alert for things that have been left unsaid or for cues that can help you gauge the speaker's true feelings. Watch the facial and body expressions of the speaker to try to gather all information you can, not just from the words. Imagine what kind of state of mind would have made you acquire such expressions, body language, and volume.

* Speak at approximately the same energy level as the other person. This way, he or she will know that the message is getting through and that there is no need to repeat.

8. Be patient and respect pauses. Do not jump to speak up after the speaker has come to his or her own conclusions or resolutions and there is a pause. It is possible that more is yet to be said by the speaker. Let the speaker be the first to break this silence. You can always come back with your solutions or suggestions next time you talk, or the speaker may ask you to clarify your thoughts or offer more opinions at the time. Listening is about understanding another person, not about making suggestions (unless asked).

9. Try to reassure the speaker that all is well. Whatever the conclusion of the conversation, let the speaker know that you have been happy to listen and to be a sounding board. Make it clear that you are open to further discussion if need be, but that you will not pressure him or her at all. In addition, reassure the speaker of your intention to keep the discussion confidential. Offer to assist with any solutions if you have the ability, time, and expertise. Do not build up false hopes, however. If the only resource you can provide is to continue to be an active listener, make that very clear; in and of itself, this is a very valuable help to any person.

10. Accept that everyone has a unique thought process and ways to express himself/herself. Too often we jump to conclusion before others finish talking because we place information we hear into our own thought process. Try not to do that. Instead, look for fine differences if it sounds like the speaker may be agreeing with you, and look for areas he or she might indicate agreement if it sounds like an objection. Understand that you do not need 100% agreement to reach the same decision.

11. Just because someone is speaking to you, do not presume that they are asking you for your input! All too often we think the other person really wants to know what we think about what they are saying…wrong! Wait, let the speaker ask you for your opinion, thoughts or ideas. Otherwise, you may become the speaker but you will not have a “listener” in the audience! This is a fun exercise. You may be surprised at how many people will NOT ask you for your input. And all these years that you have simply “chimed in” with your input, you thought they actually wanted it.

Time to Be a Good Listener #1

Listening is an essential part of communication, and it is different from hearing. Being a good and patient listener helps you not only solve many problems at work or home, but also to see the world through the eyes of others, thereby opening your understanding and enhancing your capacity for empathy. Besides which, you learn a lot from listening. As deceptively simple as listening to and acknowledging other people may seem, doing it well, particularly when disagreements arise, takes sincere effort and lots of practice.

Please following this steps

1. Place yourself in the other person's shoes. It is often too easy to wonder about how what the other person is telling you is impacting you. As you worry about this, you reflect any tension, annoyance, or irritation back in your body gestures and facial expressions. Active listening is not about inward thinking. Instead, you must draw away from the temptation to do this by looking at the issues from the other person's perspective and actively trying to see his or her point of view. It is not a good idea to consider yourself to be smarter than the speaker and assume that if you would have been in his or her shoes, you would have seen your way through the problem much faster.

2. Remove all distractions. Give the speaker 100% of your attention. Turn off cell phones, do not let your eyes wander about looking for a break, and politely brush aside any interruptions such as waiters or people who suddenly spot you and want to say "hello." It may be easiest to arrange to talk somewhere that such distractions will not occur.

3. Practice the empathetic sounding back technique. At appropriate intervals during the conversation, it is helpful to "summarize and restate" and/or "repeat and encourage" the main points:
* Repeat and encourage: Repeat some of the things said by the speaker. At the same time, encourage the speaker with positive feedback. For example, you might say: "You didn't enjoy having to take the blame. I can see why." Go easy with this technique, however, because if you overwork it, it may come across as being patronizing.
* Summarize and restate: It is also very useful to summarize what the speaker is saying and restate it in your own words. This is a form of reassuring the speaker that you have truly been listening to what he or she is saying. It also provides the speaker with an opportunity to correct any mistaken assumptions or misconceptions that have may have arisen during the course of the conversation. This is an especially good technique to try when you find yourself getting frustrated or restless in your listening.

4. Do not interrupt with what you feel or think about the topic being discussed. Wait for another person to ask your opinion before interrupting the flow of discussion. Active listening requires the listener to shelve his or her own opinions temporarily, and await appropriate breaks in the conversation for summarizing. Abstain from giving direct advice. Instead, let him or her talk the situation out and find his or her own way. Besides, if he or she takes your advice and something goes wrong, he or she will be likely to blame you (whether he or she tells you or not).

5. Ask meaningful and empowering questions. Do not seek to probe or make the other person defensive. Rather, aim to use questions as a means by which the speaker can begin to reach his or her own conclusions about the concerns or issues being raised. Once you have shown empathetic listening, it is time to move into empowering listening by re-framing the questions that you ask the the speaker. For example: "You didn't enjoy having to take the blame. But I cannot understand why you feel blamed rather than merely being asked not to do something that way." Wording the question in this manner presents the speaker with a need to respond directly to your lack of grasping something. In the process of doing so, the speaker should begin to move from a more emotional response to a more constructive response.